How To Kiss: On New Year’s Eve

by Violet Blue on December 29, 2010

Ellen Von Unwerth Equinox

Work the room: joke that your only resolution is to be kissed on NYE. Unless you have a kissing partner, you’ll need to be charming, or at least adorably nerdy but still kind of brave.

Hygiene check: this is crucial. Keep your lips conditioned (lip balm or a nice or neutral flavor or scent; or go easy on the gooey lip gloss). Check regularly to make sure you don’t have olives in your teeth, that your teeth are brushed (!), and that your breath is inviting. If you’re not sure, keep mints handy or nibble mint leaves or lemon from your cocktail garnish.

Ask first, unless you know your kiss-ee is willing.

Moisten your lips, but don’t make them wet. Do this during the countdown from ten.

When the ball drops, and the cheer gets loud, go in for the kiss. You don’t need to wait for them to finish their sip of champagne.

First point of contact: eyes. Make eye contact and smile as you move in for the kiss.

Second point of contact: hands. Touch as you come close for the kiss; don’t grab. Hands can go on the waist, small of the back, shoulders, or you can stagger your hands so one is at the back of the neck and another is pulling them close, in the middle of their back. Hair! Don’t mess up the hair!

Third point of contact: lips. Soft, slightly pursed. Don’t do duckface. Death to duckface. Pause, then make lip contact. This way you avoid chipping a tooth with your excitement. Don’t mash lips; that actually hurts. Keep your lips soft and press, savor. The quiet in the chaos is in your kiss. Right now, it is the only moment that matters on earth.

In the kiss: when you have lip contact, then you can let the passion out. Pull closer, slowly angle your head as you press in. One tip is to imagine your nose drawing the slowest invisible figure-eight you can. As in, you may not complete the eight before it’s time to stop. Keep your tongue to yourself. Okay, maybe just a little (little!) but this is a kiss you want to keep neat and hot, not sloppy. It’s okay to close your eyes. Do a measured count to five for a long kiss, then slowly open your eyes.

Kiss like you mean it; kiss like you want to be kissed on the first minute of the New Year.

If you don’t count and just go with the feeling, a great way to know when to stop is to listen to your environment. Louder or quieter, or singing; the change around you indicates it’s time to stop.

How to end it: after your count, open your eyes and break the kiss with a smile. If you want to thank your kiss-ee, it’s a cute touch.

If you have questions about kissing and body language (helpful if your kiss-ee is not someone you really know), get answers on the How To Kiss page on this website. If you liked this post, you might also like my book Seal It With A Kiss: Tips, tricks and Techniques for Delivering the Knockout Kiss.

Image by Ellen Von Unwerth, via.

Violet Blue

The London Times named Violet Blue "One of the 40 bloggers who really count" and Self Magazine named TinyNibbles one of the “Best Sex Resources for Women.” Blue is an autodidact and pundit on sex and technology, hacking and security, porn for women, privacy and bleeding-edge tech culture. She is a journalist for ZDNet, CBS News, CNET; she's an educator, speaker, crisis counselor, volunteer NGO trainer, and the author and editor of over 40 award-winning books.

More Posts - Website - Twitter - Facebook - Google Plus - Flickr - YouTube - Reddit


1 Asian Dyna December 31, 2010 at 12:45 am

Thanks! This is good advice.
Dyna :)

2 Lea December 30, 2010 at 11:45 pm

“Right now, it is the only moment that matters on earth.” Gorgeously poetic!

3 Lilech December 30, 2010 at 10:09 am

Hi Violet — You’ve probably already noted this, but your book The Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus is favorably reviewed in the Jan. 2011 issue of Harpers Magazine (on p. 66). It’s behind a pay-wall:

4 Marie-Annick December 30, 2010 at 7:03 am

My wife told me that she thought it was weird that I said thank you after we kissed. Otherwise, great advice.

5 SexyNinjaMonkey December 30, 2010 at 12:00 am

Holy fuck, i could’ve used this information years ago.
I’ve generally kinda avoided it, this year i’m totally going for it.
Thank you miss blue.

6 Amanda December 29, 2010 at 10:06 pm

How can one make the move to just do it if her partner’s waaay taller than her?

7 Andy nor December 29, 2010 at 4:02 pm

Great advice! I’m single this new years eve & am gonna do this!!!

Comments on this entry are closed.

Previous post:

Next post: