Pity the children

… that their parents can’t talk to them openly and honestly and give them tools to navigate sex in culture. Moreso, in The Pornification Of A Generation, pity Newsweek and the author of “The Porning of America” for the sad fact that sex culture and open expression of adult sexuality is becoming *normal*. Because how else are they gonna make a buck? My longtime friend Mark Pritchard sent me the link, and you can dig Newsweek rolling in the porn-dirty-porn like a pig in mud, without being honest about human sexual expression (and kids’ interest in it, let alone providing coping skills for unintended exposure). Damn you, Bratz dolls! You ruined everything! Now we have to *talk* about sexual appropriateness to our kids! Snip, just because sex panic and porn hysteria is fun:

The idea for a book about porn culture came to Kevin Scott the day his daughter decided she absolutely had to have a Bratz-doll pony. For months, the 5-year-old had begged him for a Bratz doll—clad in spike heels, fishnets and miniskirt, enormous puppy-dog eyes protruding from her oversized head. Her sexy look seemed a little too sexy for a preschooler, so he and his wife bought her a different doll, which she was happy with. Except that a few months later, Bratz came out with Bratz Babyz. “If Bratz had looked like Barbie hookers, these looked like baby hookers,” Scott says. Again, he convinced his daughter that My Little Pony was just as cool—and for a moment, the conversation ended. Until, of course, the Bratz came out with Bratz Ponyz. And then, says Scott, an English professor at a small college in Georgia, “I realized porn culture and I were in a death match for my daughter’s soul.”

In a market that sells high heels for babies and thongs for tweens, it doesn’t take a genius to see that sex, if not porn, has invaded our lives. Whether we welcome it or not, television brings it into our living rooms and the Web brings it into our bedrooms. According to a 2007 study from the University of Alberta, as many as 90 percent of boys and 70 percent of girls aged 13 to 14 have accessed sexually explicit content at least once.

But it isn’t just sex that Scott is worried about. He’s more interested in how we, as a culture, often mimic the most raunchy, degrading parts of it—many of which, he says, come directly from pornography. In “The Porning of America” (Beacon), which he has written with colleague Carmine Sarracino, a professor of American literature, the duo argue that, through Bratz dolls and beyond, the influence of porn on mainstream culture is affecting our self perceptions and behavior—in everything from fashion to body image to how we conceptualize our sexuality.

It’s too early to know exactly how kids who grow up in this hypersexualized environment will be affected in the long term. But Scott and his coauthor say it’s not too soon—or too prudish—to sound the alarm, and to look critically at the sexualized culture we’re exposed to every day. The authors don’t suggest banishing porn to back alleys, however. Both grew up when people were crying out for sexual liberation. And, they contend, porn certainly played a role in achieving it. But somehow between then and now, porn themes have gone from adult entertainment to prime time, seeping into nearly every aspect of popular culture. Sarracino and Scott define “porning” as the way advertising and society in general have borrowed from the ideas and characteristics central to most American pornography: sex as commodity, sexuality as overt, narrow views of women and male-female relationships, bad girls and dirty boys, domination and submission.

All it takes is one look at MySpace photos of teens to see examples—if they aren’t imitating porn they’ve actually seen, they’re imitating the porn-inspired images and poses they’ve absorbed elsewhere. Latex, corsets and stripper heels, once the fashion of porn stars, have made their way into middle and high school. An ad for Axe shower gel, marketed to teen boys, uses the slogan “How Dirty Boys Get Clean,” while Burton, the snowboard company, partnered with Playboy earlier this year on a new line of “Love” boards—complete with voluptuous cheeks smack dab in the middle of each. The boards’ online description reads: “I enjoy laps through the park; long, hard grinds on my meaty Park Edges followed by a good, hot waxing.” One of the most popular kids’ videogames, Guitar Hero, features animated rock stars that stand on a stage with a neon stripper gyrating on a pole behind them. Strippers have become cool—unremarkable even.

Celebrities, too, have become amateur porn stars. (…read more, if it’s your fetish.)

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6 Comments - COMMENTARY is DESIRED

  1. Hasn’t this been happening for like at least a hundred years?

    Think, 1920’s “flappers”, 1950’s Rock & Roll, 1970’s love hippies, etc…
    (granted, these are big culture-decade generalizations, but nevertheless the point is) Young Westerners are always flirting with new ways of being sexy and dangerous.
    Why? One reason maybe because their parents ways are gross and boring (they are too strongly associated with their parents, and it’s no fun to just repeat the things your parents did).

    And to agree with earlier commenters,
    humans are sexual creatures as are ALL creatures on this earth. Dogs, cats, birds, bears, whales, dolphins, sharks, elephants, etc… name any animal you can think of.
    What do they all have in common? They’re interested in sex. (of course, humans have the unique capability of being sexual year-round).
    So again, why do parents recoil when their children show some interest in something intrinsic to a human being? Why do so many people continually equate sexual interest with morality? It does not make any sense to me.

  2. Where in the hell have these people been? This was going on the 80’s! I guess they just didn’t notice, because they didn’t have kids themselves, or perhaps they had more sympathy for the kids than the parents…

    But fishnets? high heels? Corsets? That all came into my sphere of knowledge with bands, not porn. Selling through sex, not selling sex…

  3. “Pornification” and “raunch” are inevitable consequences of a sexually liberal culture. And yes, this meme will extend to teenage girls and children. What authors misapprehend is that navigating through a sexually free culture that advocates freedom of expression is like walking through a field of roses that are covered with thorns. In order to touch and smell the roses it is up to the individual to take personal responsibility to avoid the thorns. Unfortunately, most children do not have the maturity to do this. Unless you want a sexually repressive Orwellian totalitarian society that forbids sexual freedom, you have to live and cope with a “pornified” culture wherein kids will smell the roses.

    The mainstream feminist argument is that young girls are “pornified” because of negative conditioning from a patriarchical culture that incorporates objectification into their sexual narrative. This IMO is a load of BS!!!! Shifting the blame onto men provides no realistic solutions to this matter and is a stupid attempt at absolving individuals (eg. parents) of any responsibility.

  4. I think talking to kids about sex is entirely necessary… and will not necessarily yield a generation of strippers. I am an American living in the Netherlands and am enjoying the openness here. I think the environment here yields a far healthier attitude about sex and sexuality.

    An interesting issue I just read about – somewhat related but not really – comes from Sweden, where there is a debate about whether fetishism and sadomasochism should be classifed as diseases. Maybe of interest to yall!

    http://www.thelocal.se/13974/20080827/

  5. Having come of age in the Reaganesque (“Just Say No”–to everything) 80’s, I can say that at a teen, I envied the preceding hippy generation.

    Now the tide has turned the other direction and reached the extreme–I expect the correction is just around the corner. The correction will reach for its extreme also.

    It would be nice if we could find a nice middle ground and stay there.

  6. Biologically speaking, humans are supposed to begin mating and reproducing around the age of 14-16. The notion that children should be shielded from sex is ridiculous, and I am thankful that I had a relatively large and useful amount of sec education at school before I was 15.

    Prudish parents need to be realistic – kids will become sexually active when their bodies tell them to be, not when their parents permit them to be.

    When I have kids, I will raise them honestly, I won’t lie to them or hide things from them. Young people have a right and a need to be taught about the important things in life, and sex is one of them.

    At the same time, I wouldn’t want a 5 year old watching porn, but I think there’s room for common sense in all this, it’s just a shame it’s not as common as it should be.

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