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Viva fellatio! A fellatio encounter might include licking, sucking and manual/oral stimulation of a penis. And it is wonderfully versatile, a sex act that can happen in a variety of situations and with countless variations, such as sex toys, rimming and anal stimulation, and deep throat.

Fellatio isn’t always great, and most men have suffered through awful blow jobs at some point. But overall, fellatio is a little slice of heaven for guys — the feeling of having their penis surrounded by a warm, wet mouth, and the focused, pleasurable sensation right on their cock sends some guys through the roof.

Learning to give good head takes practice, knowledge, and a little bit of learned skill. It’s usually not difficult to find someone to practice fellatio with, but you can start on your own by checking out this page as it’s updated with articles, suggestions, and more. And yes — I wrote The Ultimate Guide to Fellatio, which has long been a bestseller, and I hope that if you like all the free open source info here that someday you’ll pick up a copy of the book. Yay!

* Anatomy of a Cock. It helps to know what you’re licking and sucking. Join in on this tour of the male genital pleasure system.

* Enjoy this his-and-hers explicit how-to Hot Head, His and Hers.

* As for guides and products all in one spot, I highly recommend Babeland’s Expert Blowjob Kit, complete with book, flavored lube, tasty condoms, a good cockring just for fun and a very special finger vibe — just so you can see just how much fun it is to use your hands, your mouth and a little vibration while he goes crazy (love having the vibe at the tip of the fingers literally).

* Taste of a Man. What can you expect when you go down on a man, I mean, what is he going to taste like? Find out this, and other interesting facts for your palate (such as sweetening his ejaculate) in this vivid exploration.

* Shaving increases skin-to-skin contact and can make fellatio outta this world. Read A Close Shave on Tender Parts and learn the basics on shaving your most tender bits, with practical advice for those of us who are especially sensitive to razor burn.

* I get a lot of questions about using flavored lubricants — about their taste, how they are on genital health, and creative ways to use them. I responded with this article exploring the joys and pitfalls of edible sex toys, Flavored Lubes and Other Tasty Sex Treats.

* Can oral sex give you cancer? Don’t believe the hype — but do believe that studies about oral HPV have some pretty potent warnings that shouldn’t go unheeded. Read Oral Sex and Oral Cancer.

* Femmes are damn sexy — that’s the point of all the lipstick, the lacy undergarments, and yes, even the engineer boots and skinned knees. What keeps us our sexy femme selves when all the undergarments and boots are removed is our kissable, color swept lips — but keeping the lipstick intact is a trick in and of itself, especially when we’re favoring our lucky lovers with hot kisses, juicy pussylicking and/or a ravenous blowjob on a real or silicone cock. Keeping your lipstick perfect is one of the ultimate challenges — and triumphs. Read how in Put Your Lips Together and Blow.

* Blow Jobs and Safer Sex. When you go down on a man, what are you at risk for? Find out what you can and can’t catch when you give head, and find out how to make giving head safe and sexy at the same time. Learn even more in my free downloadable e-book, The Modern Safer Sex Guide.

* Fellatio (and Other Sex Acts) Safer Sex Chart. Look up what you want to do, or what you’ve already done, and see what you’re at risk for.

Multimedia audio and podcasts about fellatio:

* In my audio book, open source sex :: pleasure zone basics ($5), there are two long MP3 chapters on fellatio and the taste of a man (and how to change his flavor).

* In my free MP3 podcast open source sex 33 listen to my lecture all about the tastes and scents to be found between the thighs of all genders, and how to make yourself (or your lover) taste yummier.

Multimedia sex ed videos about male anatomy and fellatio:

First, Cherry TV has so many videos about fellatio techniques it’s worth it to comb through their archives.


This fun one is from The Midwest Teen Sex Show.

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This more serious factual video is from Sexperience.


Here’s the Midwest Teen Sex Show on oral sex, and it’s fun but I don’t want you to take her seriously when she calls the viewer “sicko!” for wanting to know what come tastes like. It’s still a helpful video, full of humor.

Gimme a lollipop. Pass me a banana. I need a drippy ice cream bar, an Otter Pop, even a fistful of Red Vines — to get through this new crop of slurpy goodness, penned by a few up-and-coming writers, and a couple of well-known pros…

* Best-selling author Alison Tyler is a shy girl with a dirty mind. And lucky for us, she wrote a very special short story that explicity details the red-hot fantasy of giving head to a total stranger in Yeah.

* Try This At Home by Ayre Riley is an unusual piece where a woman gives girl-to-girl advice on being a dominating cocksucker — from how to dress to when to let him think he’s in control.

* Here, In the Middle of Everything by John Flores is a man’s re-telling of a very hot, very dirty oral tradition that him and his girlfriend enjoy — right out in the open.

* Restraining Order by Alison Tyler. Critically acclaimed author Tyler gives us a juicy excerpt from her book, Bondage on a Budget, where a man finds more than an equal in his quest for a submissive, kinky partner. Full of romantic longing and centered around a truly riveting fellatio scene.

* Creatures of the Night by Thomas S. Roche. An ordinary guy out for a little fun on Halloween dresses up as a police officer and winds up “arresting” a “prostitute” with a hot little mouth. A dirty little slice of fantasy play.

* Two Guys and a Girl by Thomas S. Roche. In one of the hottest short stories I’ve read in a while, the premise is a fantasy that will have you thinking about movie theaters in a whole new light. A woman decides to try going to an adult movie theater for the first time, and the outcome is a scene with a twist — and a fellatio encounter that left my mouse all nervous and sweaty.

Recommended reading for fellatio:

ultimate guide to fellatioI wrote The Ultimate Guide to Fellatio, but I strongly feel that to truly learn about a sex act, you should read everything you can about the subject. There is no one right way to perform a particular sex act, and to make your lover squeak with pleasure you should seek out as much information as possible, and from a diverse variety of sources. That’s why I put such a huge resource list and recommended reading/viewing lists in the book. I hope you’ll make my book part of your pleasure library.

“Everything you ever wanted to know about fellatio — and then some! This book is a great resource for anyone who wants to learn how to suck cock (or suck cock better), and the step-by-step nitty gritty is only a small part of what this book has to offer. With chapters on the psychology behind cock-sucking, the anatomy of a man, hygiene, health considerations (STDs), practicing first, positions, deep-throating (with diagrams!) and fantasy play, every last nagging worry or naughty question should be covered. She even has a section on how sucking a dildo is different than sucking live cock.

We especially appreciate her acknowledgment of power-play and the section on head etiquette (don’t hold ‘em down unless that’s been negotiated first!). Most of the chapters finish with a steamy little short story by Alison Tyler to help get you both in the mood. Reading this book straight through may prove a bit repetitive, but it’s easy to find the information you’re seeking through the table of contents. And if on the off chance that this guide doesn’t answer your deepest, darkest concerns, the resource and reference chapters in the back are a great way to find out where to look for more information. Ready, set, go down!”
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In The Ultimate Guide to Fellatio learn an exhaustive catalogue of tips, tricks and techniques with which you can cultivate your own mind-blowing technique. New to fellatio, or want your lover to try it? I provide practical advice for the real world. Find thorough explanations of pleasure-based anatomy and how to get yourself off when your mouth is, er, full. An entire chapter is devoted to the art of “deep throat,” the technique of completely swallowing a man, with solutions to overcoming the gag reflex — and what to do once you’ve got him all the way in. Take your oral techniques further with sexy fellatio games, putting a condom on with your mouth, rimming a man, using oral sex in roleplay and power exchange, how to have a fellatio threesome, dealing with jaw cramp, and more.

The best all-around sex guide available? The Guide to Getting It On! by Paul Joannides. Joannides and his team of researchers present a (huge) book that covers it all, in a very hilarious tone that delivers oodles of info yet remains expressly respectful to the reader at all times. This is an all-inclusive (yet heterosexually focused), sex-positive, non-judgmental tome, and I’m pleased to say that I can recommend it to pretty much everyone who owns a set of genitals, a pair of lips, and a desire for sexual connection and expression.

First off, it has the very best sexual anatomy illustrations I’ve ever seen — and I don’t mean drawings that look like cadaver cutlets, I mean clear, bold illustrations that show anatomy for pleasure (as opposed to reproduction) like no other book in print. And trust me, learning pleasure anatomy is the key to giving and getting it good. Anatomy, sex toys, porn, positions, oral sex, anal sex, sex and disability, romance, hair removal, bugs, STD’s, Barbie, birth control, prostate, g-spot, straight, gay, bi, masculine, feminine, parents talking to teens about sex… phew, and I’m only skimming the surface. Good luck finding a topic *not* in this fabulous book. Make this one the centerpiece of your library, and augment with topic-specific books (many are recommended within the text).

Fellatio porn recommendations:

My favorite oral sex scenes in porn? Rent John Leslie’s Voyeur’s Favorite Blowjobs and Anals, any volume. No lame music, minimal Barbie bodies, lots of performers hot for each other and superb camerawork and lighting. New to porn but want to see explicit fellatio? Look for Sinclair Institute’s Better Oral Sex videos — and plot-driven films directed by Candida Royalle are a nice way to ease into harder-core sex without the hard edge. My favorites are Eyes of Desire 2 and One Size Fits All. Visit the porn page for monthly top picks.

Bonus: Tips for Public Fellatio

* Be very aware of the laws about public sex in your area. If you get caught, you will likely go to jail — not as sexy in real life as in fantasy.

* Make absolutely sure that no one will see you. It’s part of the thrill, the threat of discovery, but if someone sees you, you are involving them in a sex act without their consent. Not cool.

* Seek out reliably secluded spots, such as a remote place to park, a deserted natural area like a beach or forest, a vacant warehouse, an empty movie theater.

* Some places in large cities are notorious for being public sex spots. Use these places only if you are a local and are familiar with the area. If you must cruise, proceed with streetwise caution.

* Rooftops can seem public but still be private. Look around first, before you’re horny.

* If you plan on using safer-sex gear, make sure you have it in your pocket.

* Think ahead about places to duck for cover, ways to camouflage your activity, or a story to tell an authority figure.

* Make it as hot and fun as you can — public fellatio is a thrilling encounter that can never be exactly duplicated. Don’t hold back.

The famous — Super Spunk Smoothie!

So many people ask me about sweetening or improving the taste of male ejaculate — and yes, you really can sweeten a man’s come. Citrus, mango and cucumber really do work — but he has to refrain from strong foods and vitamins for a few days while drinking a juice mixture for it to work. So no garlic, asparagus, broccoli, red meats, curries or multivitamins!

Here’s a recipe for a drink that incorporates many popular come sweetening ingredients — try drinking it for three days in a row. It’s part of a balanced breakfast, like a good blowjob.

Super Spunk Smoothie

1 cup pineapple, fresh, canned or juice
1 cup mango juice
1 banana
1/2 cucumber, peeled and seeded
1/2 tsp fresh ginger
1/2 tsp vanilla extract
2 Tbs honey

Blend all ingredients in a blender until smooth. Drink immediately. Repeat daily for best results!

Offsite links:

* 9 Steps to Deep-Throating a Cock, Chelsea-Girl Style is a really fantastic primer on the technique of “deep throating” a penis or dildo; that is, fellatio while swallowing so it goes all the way down your throat.

* Cool sex toy retailer Babeland has this new fantastic guide called How to Give a Blow Job: Become a Fellatio Expert. Well, expert is a relative term depending on what’s hot about giving head for either party — but it’s a playful, informative set of tips with lots of fun (and personally recommended) products to make blowjobs yummy, easy and quite enjoyable for giver and receiver. In most respects all you’d need is their well-selected Blowjob Expert Kit, though I love that their guide also includes the Finger Fun vibe for an added buzz that just might blow his… mind.