G-Spot Resource Guide

Below you’ll find a few concise excerpts from my book The Smart Girl’s Guide to the G-Spot to get you started. Also, be sure to check out the book’s fun, fierce introduction. At the bottom of this page, check out the additional resource links for anatomy illustrations and more. Read about the controversial G-Spot enhancement injection procedure here.

Plainly put, the g-spot is an area just inside your vagina, that when you’re turned on, might feel really good to rub or massage. It might even feel so good you have an orgasm from that type of stimulation alone. About 1-2 inches inside and on the front (bellybutton side) of your vaginal canal is where urine leaves your body — your urethra. The urethra is a little channel between your bladder and the outside world, and it’s surrounded with erectile tissue (like in a penis) and about 40 glands and ducts that all respond pleasurably to stimulation. Sometimes it’s the urethra, or the area right around it, that feels the best to stimulate. That’s it — and in the book I’ll explain exactly what everything is, precisely how to locate it, how to touch the area and what it should feel like and much more.

Excerpt, chapter 2: The Smart Girl’s Guide to the G-Spot:

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The area of the clitoris is far larger than described in conventional anatomy texts and most sex guides. The external tip, or glans, is really the tip of the iceberg — and if you know icebergs, they’re like upside-down pyramids and this is a perfect analogy. The glans begins at the tip of the shaft and continues under the surface to where the other end connects to the suspensory ligament at the pubic mound. You can feel this connection between your clit and the pubic bone by rolling your finger across the area; it feels somewhat like a soda straw (and feels firmer when you’re aroused). The shaft, like the glans, is very sensitive and responds pleasurably to stimulation. At the shaft’s connection to your pubic bone, the clitoris runs underneath both sides of your vulva alongside the vaginal opening in a wishbone shape, forming two legs, or crura, and extends all the way to your perineum.

The internal area occupied by the clitoris and crura is actually a complex clitoral system, wrapped in erectile tissue — just like the stuff that fills with blood during arousal to make a penis hard. The connecting nerves, tissues, muscles, and ligaments all react and engage with one another during your arousal cycle. And guess what? Your g-spot has the princess seat right in the middle of all this. The clitoral area underneath the inner and outer lips, the ring around the urethra (where urine leaves the body; g-spot), and the wall of the perineum all contain erectile tissues that fill with blood and swell upon arousal — sometimes noticeably, sometimes not. Several layers of muscles line the pelvic floor, connecting the clitoris to these erectile tissues. An oval-shaped muscle of erectile tissue surrounds the inner lips and clitoris, where the vagina and g-spot pass through it, and connects to another oval that surrounds the anal sphincter muscle, encircling the anus.

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Both women and men have an identical ring of spongy erectile tissue surrounding the urethra (where urine leaves the body). It is an essential part of the clitoral system and your entire orgasmic network, and even when you simply jack off through clitoral stimulation, your g-spot participates in the orgasm (but more on that in the next chapter). Located inside the vagina, the urethra is a tube that’s roughly two inches long, running from the bladder to the urethral opening on your vaginal wall. This ring of urethral tissue is the outer area that shows you where your g-spot is.

The urethral sponge is located on the front wall of the vagina, toward the belly button; if you’re lying on your back, it’s the “top” of the vaginal wall. From the vaginal opening, it’s roughly one or two inches inside. The outer area is the marker to let you know where the g-spot actually begins, because there’s a lot more of it beneath the surface. In addition to the two inch long urethral canal leading to the bladder, there is a whole lot more surrounding the urethral opening (and sponge) that makes up the entirety of the g-spot, and it all responds to g-spot stimulation; to enjoy your spot and come, you’ll be touching not just the urethral opening but the area surrounding it as well.

The spongy tissues that surround your urethra and comprise your g-spot are a complex bundle of — joy! Along with the erectile tissue, you’ve also got the nerve-rich urethra itself and about 40 super-tiny glands and ducts (called paraurethral glands, or Skene’s Glands) that respond to arousal and pleasure. Sometimes, and in some women, stimulation of the g-spot to orgasm can result in an expulsion of fluid form the urethral sponge — this is female ejaculation (detailed in chapter 5, “Wet Spots: Ejaculation”), and the paraurethral glands and ducts have the starring role in that particular wet, wonderful show. The purpose of the urethra is certainly to have a river run through it, but everything else prefers to play by the same rules as your clitoris: just for fun, thanks.

How to Get There From Here

Want to feel it? One way is to stop a stream of urine, mid-flow. Doing this, you’re flexing your PC muscles (the sling of pelvic muscles that engage during orgasm) and putting acute pressure on your g-spot to flex. Another way to investigate the g-spot is with your fingers — putting a finger or two just inside your vagina and stroking the front wall. You’ll have to curl your hand around a bit to get your fingertip to stroke the front wall, so sitting down on a stool or hard chair might make it easier for you to spread your legs, push your pelvis forward, and feel. I highly recommend using a water- or silicone-based lubricant in your explorations, as slick surfaces are easier to detect under your fingertips. I recommend a variety of excellent lubricants for g-spot exploration in chapter 3, “Turn It On, Turn It Up”.

What you’re feeling for is a soft bump or slight change in the surface of your vaginal wall. If you touch yourself just inside your vagina, you’ll notice that the surface near the opening is slightly furrowed with subtle ridges, and a bit more so in the area where you’ll be concentrating your search for the urethral opening. It’s interesting to note that this ridgy outer area of the vaginal canal (about the inner 1/3) is most sensitive to touch, vibration and more subtle textures and shapes than the smooth-walled inner part, which cares less about vibration and responds pleasurably to sensations like fullness, rhythm and thrusting (the inner 2/3). If you’re feeling like exploring, touch and press all around your urethral opening while squeezing your vaginal muscles and see if you can feel what’s beneath the surface.

If you’re unaroused, the urethral sponge is relaxed and might be difficult to feel. But during arousal, your sponge swells and hardens, and it becomes more obvious to touch. Touching it in an unaroused state might feel strange, like you have to pee a bit, or it might be too sensitive to touch — or it might feel good. It might even feel really good. You may find that touching it turns you on a little, and that once your g-spot is firm with arousal, massage and vibration are delightful. Just try a simple touch once, and see what you think.

Additional Links

Wikipedia: G-Spot entry (controversial) * respected educator Cory Silverberg on the g-spot * The G-Spot Center