- Friend and fellow tech geek Sinnamon Love writes, “As a parent, a woman and a porn star, this whole Amber Cole debacle has me heated. I have to wonder, did anyone ever have a discussion with Amber Cole about sex in public places or looking out for hidden cameras? Did anyone ever say to these boys that pornography is something produced for and by adults and is not something for children and teens to engage in?” Life, Love & Sinn: The Miseducation Of Amber Cole (The Well Versed)
- The Church of England is considering cancelling millions of investments in Internet Service Providers (ISPs) unless actions to stop Internet pornography are taken promptly. The Church of England Threatens to Pull Investments from ISPs that Support Internet Porn (ITProPortal)
- China has shut 50 microblogs (note: Twitter is a microblog) for distributing pornography and carrying “vulgar content” state media said on Monday, as the government steps up monitoring of the internet. China shuts 50 microblogs for porn, vulgarity (Reuters)
- Charlotte Allen writes in the LAT on Saturday wondering why advocates for women and girls lament the sexualization of Halloween — and in almost the same breath, support the SlutWalk movement. Allen sees “irony” and “contradiction” here, missing the essential coherence of these two positions. Sexy Halloween Costumes for Girls Don’t Cause Rape (The Good Men Project)
- Denying he ever sexually harassed anyone, yet offering conflicting responses, Republican presidential candidate Herman Cain declared Monday he was falsely accused in the 1990s while he was head of the National Restaurant Association. Herman Cain Says He Was ‘Falsely Accused’ of Harassment (ABC News)
- “You could get the impression that having sexist beliefs, or prejudiced beliefs more generally, is just an individual thing—‘my beliefs don’t impact you,’” Brandt says. But this study shows that isn’t true. If individual people in a society are sexist, men and women in that society become less equal. Individual Beliefs Lead to Gender Discrimination (Psych Central News)
- A new report issued by Nielsen indicates television shows with LGBT characters and issues are big with both audiences and advertisers, garnering 28% of all TV watchers and 22% of ad dollars. More Than A Quarter Of TV Watchers Tuning Into LGBT-Inclusive Shows (Queerty)
- The American Academy of Pediatrics now recommends that all teens 16 to 18 years old receive regular, routine HIV tests if they live in an area where the prevalence of HIV is greater than 0.1% of the population. Doctors urge HIV testing starting at 16 (CNN Blogs)
- Sexuality exists as a spectrum, not as a rigidly defined set of boundaries. Sexuality as a spectrum (Columbia Spectator)
- The porn star vs. prostitute class clash is a deep and persistent rift. It stems primarily from the completely ludicrous legal logic that deems one profession criminal and the other not. Sex Work Snobbery (Tits and Sass)
- Way better than OkCupid or eHarmony, Craigslist will help a girl find that special guy to fuck her up the ass. Yay Craig (I mean, his list)! Craigslist Personals Ad Campaign (Buzzfeed)
- A breast cancer awareness campaign that uses body painting to get their message out is fuming at Facebook, saying their censorship rules have gone too far. Breast cancer survivors outraged as photos of their painted breasts called pornography by Facebook and taken down (Mail Online)
- An aspiring model claims in a federal lawsuit filed in Miami that she was drugged, raped and turned into an unsuspecting porn star. Her attorney says BlackPlanet.com, a social networking site for young blacks, failed to warn women about the dangers of sexual predators. BlackPlanet.com sued after woman allegedly raped for porn film (Chicago Sun-Times)
- Once the baristas started posting on Twitter and Fetlife about finding new jobs, it seemed very clear: Wicked Grounds was closed for good – and with it an important hub of San Francisco’s BDSM community. S.F. Loses a BDSM Community Hub with the Closing of Wicked Grounds Coffeehouse (The Exhibitionist)
- Dear Ms. Lindsay Lohan: We would very much like to invite you to become one of our Fleshlight Girls. […] Should you decide to join this club, we would offer you up to $1 million dollars for molds of your mouth, vagina, and butt. Fleshlight Willing To Pay $1M For Lindsay Lohan Pussy Mold (The Sword)
- Her first porn shoot: “As a woman and feminist, I’ve found there’s often a negotiation that occurs when watching most porn, especially if it involves heavy aggression or degradation.” What Happened at My First Porn Shoot (AlterNet)
- Sexual violence against men, including rape, is under-reported, poorly addressed and has a severe impact on both men and their families, according to a new study. Rape as a Weapon of War Against Men (AlterNet)
@Miguel: I think porn Can lead to less sex in a relationship, but there’s probably a communication/intimacy breakdown happening as well (for whatever reason). I would strongly argue from personal experience, that porn Can over-exaggerate some pretty common desires, but only in certain situations, which were probably going to end unhappily one way or another, if someone in the relationship doesn’t wise up and change something.
So I would argue that yes, porn can contribute to messing up your sex life, but it’s Really unlikely to be the only problem you have.
But as to the halloween vs slutwalk thing, I don’t think they make a good case at all. They start out with a premise, but then drift off into talking about things in a very general way, only vaguely coming back to their primary point at the beginning. If you’re fighting for women to be allowed to be sexy in public, and for us men to learn to keep it in our pants and not force ourselves on women, you can’t pick and choose the venue/timing for that. I question their basic premise, that girls are forced to dress up sexily for halloween. Lots of people go for non-revealing costumes, that are otherwise still sexy, or just funny/interesting. It’s really about choice and educaiton, for both genders, basic respect of each other.
So yes, I agree with you, these guys may be well-intentioned, but they’re not really doing it well.
Still got ’em coming… this is one of the ten most popular posts on the Good Men site, entitled “How Porn Can Ruin Your Marriage” and it opens with a line about dopamine and says men will lose interest in their partners with too much porn consumption…
http://goodmenproject.com/health/how-porn-can-ruin-your-sex-life-and-your-marriage/
There are other posts on the site about social media that I’m sure you would find wrong, and as an economics expert, I can tell you that their posts about economics and business are badly misinformed and / or overly simplistic as well. And it doesn’t take much to go from writing simplistic economics articles to going whole hog and penning outright wingnut economic lies.
In short, this site isn’t good at anything it does, unless its goal is to misinform. Having one or two genuinely informed articles on site doesn’t excuse the rest of it (it’s like having Shep Smith on Fox News as the guy all the other anchors point to as the reason Fox News can still rightly call itself a news organization).
Also, these two, taken straight from the current front page. The first is about porn turning people (men, mostly) into “zombies”
http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/porn-zombies/
And the second one, written by the site founder, repeats all the tired tropes about men being slaves to their sexual nature. He thinks that, because men are slaves to their sexual nature, they’re not able to be “open” about their lust. I’m not sure what planet that guy’s living on, but men being hindered from openly expressing lust doesn’t isn’t a cause in need of a champion on this one.
http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/is-male-lust-turning-us-inside-out/
Why do you link so much to the Good Men Project site? It’s really not good. Really, it’s not. Here… just look at this steaming pile:
http://goodmenproject.com/good-feed-blog/real-beauty-distinguishing-truth-from-fairy-tale/