I recently had the honor of being asked to moderate a Commonwealth Club panel, The State of Sex and Dating in San Francisco. On March 31, I arrived to a standing-room-only event (with people waiting outside for possible openings), and moderated a panel that consisted of Ethan Watters (Urban Tribes, Grotto); Nicole Daedone (OneTaste; Slow Sex: The Art and Craft of the Female Orgasm), Sasha Cagen (Quirkyalone) and N.W. Smith (The Bold Italic). I did not pick the panel. I did ruffle some feathers.
So if you couldn’t make it, the Sex and Dating in SF video is finally out! I had *such* a great time moderating this panel – the audience was incredible, and I really enjoyed going to the afterparty and meeting so many of the people who attended. If you have the patience to watch the entire hour of discussion, I think you’ll enjoy it – and you’ll see the struggle I had not only getting these people to talk about sex, but also in reminding them they are in a strongly LGBT-identified city. I think it’s a key reason why sex and dating in SF has unique challenges for all genders and sexual orientations.
I didn’t always agree with Watters (whose new book is Crazy Like Us), but I really liked his points about how we exist in “tribes,” and enjoyed asking him about the difficulties and challenges of dating “outside your tribe.” I tried my hardest to get concrete dating in SF tips out of the panelists based on their areas of expertise – as well as trying to get them to flesh out what is so unique about sex and dating in SF, with its particular challenges. I’d like to do another panel on this sometime, or even an article series, or a presentation.
Mentioned: my new book, Total Flirt.