more on sex + body image, immodesty blaize, other jiggly links worth considering

4 April 2008
Image of sumptuous British burlesque dancer Immodesty Blaize by the also-stunning Loraine Ross. * Bombshell Betty comments on the Ugly Violet (trolls and female sexual self-image) column I wrote, and takes the discussion ever further with more sage advice in body love/hate -- and don't miss her excellent post How […]
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the nightmare of free porn

3 April 2008
So I'll be doing a lot of text posts for a while, until I get a new set of backwards-skating WordPress workarounds figured out -- like sharing this scary-accurate retelling of what it's like to be a porn reviewer: the highs, and oh, the lows... The Pro Circuit: Free Porn, […]
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radio silence

3 April 2008
Sorry about the quiet day here; my WordPress upgrade was a really unfortunate idea. I miss Movable Type!
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hot gay sex and Jay Leno’s gayest look

3 April 2008
Image by my friend Jack Shamama. This week's SF Chronicle column is Hot gay sex is for homophobes: Psych study links homophobia and homoerotic arousal; Violet Blue wants Jay Leno to know he's safe. The comments are already over 500 and my inbox is crammed with everything from comments like, "What […]
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a stellar, deep review for Best Women’s Erotica 2008

2 April 2008
Image by the extremely talented, ahem, well-named Violent Indigo (no relation!) I poured my blood, sweat and other precious fluids into editing Best Women's Erotica 2008, and so far the reviews have been overwhelmingly great. Today, my publisher sent me Erotica Revealed's in-depth review, and I'm blown away. I feel […]
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kink.com pranked

1 April 2008
I just got an email from my friend who works at Kink.com, reading: When I got to work at the SF Armory this morning, [name redacted], who directs Behind Kink, asked me if Peter's Assistant had found me yet. I said she had not, why was she looking for me? "To tell […]
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quickies, the say it isn’t so version

31 March 2008
Image of fierce babe Aprella, after seeing Yahoo's new site for women, shot by the inimitable Kelly Lind. * Groan. Groan. GROAN (not the happy kind). And it's not pink because...? Where's the porn section? Is this where I learn about what two girls do together? Looks like a sportsbra to […]
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[review] the doll underground

30 March 2008
Images thanks to Eon McKai: a few more can be seen with this Flickr guest pass (must be signed in) or in this album (no login required). Update 3/31: also read the glowing, yet different, review (with more explicit stills) in Fleshbot's Rise Up: Eon McKai's "The Doll Underground". The Doll […]
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it’s not just a job

29 March 2008
Image via Luna. Today I lectured at SFSI.org/UCSF Annex about oral sex and the many joys... and then came home to discover the wonderful work of Luna (image via). These were my oral sex lecture notes (in LOL), and here were the notes co-educator Thomas and I passed afterward, while the […]
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pretty girl friday

28 March 2008
It's been too long! Here's a fairly standard though quite delicious grouping of galleries from a variety of places. And if you're impatient for the Hot Boy Thursday I neglected, it's around the corner --there are a couple of nice videos at Next Door Male this week to scratch that […]
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the technosexual orientation

28 March 2008
Image from this gallery. The first thing I thought was, oh great: now, to be proper it's going to have to be the called LGBTIQQT Center from now on. Torture me no more, infuriating all-inclusive acronym! Actually, that's not the first thing I thought after reading the much-linked, extremely worthwhile Gizomdo interview […]
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my best sex writing 2008 interview

27 March 2008
Rachel Kramer Bussel interviewed me this week about my article she selected and published in Best Sex Writing 2008 -- “Kink.com and Porn Hysteria: The Lie of Unbiased Reporting?”. In the interview, I kind of forgot my usual filters and went *off* on mainstream media and how the way they […]
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ugly violet’s just fine

27 March 2008
This week, I face down every SF Chronicle and SF Gate troll that called me a fat ugly skank for having an opinion about sex and scandal last week. Hater, please. Two am and the comments are already *flying*. In this week's SF Chronicle column I asked Bombshell Betty in private […]
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hello, girl tools, lez pleeze be friends

27 March 2008
Image via Girl Tools, including the dee-lish Anna from nerdpr0n. No, I'm not inferring those awesome pink tools I post about every now and then; instead it's a site for erotic tools for pink (bits) as reviewed and run by one seriously kick-ass girl I met tonight. The site's a […]
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bits, bobs and bytes

26 March 2008
Image by Michael Grieve. It's been a bit since I've posted and a lot has, er, gone down in the blogosphere and newsland for sex related items. It's been one of those weeks already: busy, dammit. Don't worry, I'm over it -- here are some links of note: * Photojournalist Michael […]
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bombshell betty, body hate, and porn

24 March 2008
Image of my friend April Flores (aka Fatty Delicious) via. I'm sitting here about to write this week's column with a copy of Vivid Video's new porn film Curvaceous in front of me (directed by Shylar Cobi). When I was in the Vivid offices a few days ago, […]
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like I said, but now it’s news

24 March 2008
Hitting the news today: Reuters Health reports on what I've been telling you about kids and sex ed -- all of us front-line sex educators have been telling everyone -- for years (from my Google Tech talk on abstinence education last month to 2006's Open Source Sex podcast interview about […]
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la smells like… fun!

21 March 2008
Me on the plane with Love + Sex With Robots and a priest sitting next to me. (Thanks to the guys at FyreTV for the book!) Actually, LA kind of smells like something's burning right now. I'm at Eon McKai's house and we're getting ready to go see some porn. In […]
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bored with sex scandals

20 March 2008
Image via erofantasian. First, regarding my SF Chronicle column today -- no, I don't yet know why it didn't go online until 9:30 am today, why it's not on the front page as it always is (even though my interview with Phil Bronstein about it *is* on the front page), […]
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hot boy thursday

20 March 2008
Image via Flickr's men's underwear pool. The demand was just too high -- emails, comments: *hello* Smart Girls' Porn Club 2.0 (and welcome, boys -- my abandoned 450+ member SGPC used to be women-only on Tribe.net and was very popular until the censors showed up). Tribe's censors are gone, but I […]
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