this week’s column: where are my smelling salts?

8 January 2010
This week's SF Chronicle column was an examination at the 'bromance' controversy brewing around feature film "Sherlock Holmes" versus how loboto-exciting the "Avatar" so-called 'deleted' sex scenes might be. What I didn't see coming was that the "Holmes" controversy was on smaller gossip blogs when I researched it, but when […]
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American nipples: sex study praised as urgent wake-up call

6 January 2010
Image by artsy_j. Now this is more like it. Leave it to The Onion to be hot on the trail of cutting edge sex studies this week, in the spirit of the recent headline-grabbing UK G-spot study. In Politics: Nation's Nipples Severely Under-Clamped, U.S. Bureau Of Masochism Reports: WASHINGTON—A new study released […]
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I’m In UR Internets Findin’ UR G-Spots

6 January 2010
Click to read; solar cell researchers to blame for recent g-spot study, by XKCD. Whenever we're in doubt about sex research... if only XKCD could take over all media messages, and put things to rest. And when a topic close to me is covered by an XKCD comic, I feel like […]
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bicycle bondage for AIDS lifecycle (exclusive) and final rule

4 January 2010
Image of Jiz Lee by SE Photoimaging. Today is January 4 -- the day that final rule goes into effect, finally lifting the US embargo on HIV+ non-residents, and removing the requirement that immigrants and aliens undergo required HIV testing to come to this country. Welcome to America, finally. Today, the […]
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dude, where’s my g-spot?

4 January 2010
It was there when I went to sleep. I woke up, and thought I'd parked it in front of my house, I mean the anterior wall of my vagina. Now it's gone! Not really. Don't believe the latest round of hype. It's anecdotal, not physiological, and news outlets running the 'g-spot […]
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pondering the Darwinian outcome of ‘purifying the internet environment’ for ‘state security’

2 January 2010
Self-portrait by The Internet's Girlfriend (and my friend) Dana DeArmond. I in no way intend to trivialize the situation with this comparison, but it's really hard not to look at the tally of porn crackdowns and arrests in China last year and compare them to Princess Leia's memorable quote from Star […]
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scenes from The Upper Floor

2 January 2010
In the beginning of December, I made a post announcing that there was going to be a live webcast tour to launch Kink's new site The Upper Floor. In the post I explained what I understood the content and theme of the site was going to be; literally a decadent […]
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ambient eros: TimeFreeze photography

1 January 2010
Image by Evgeny Goncharov. I hope that today's discovery of Moscow denizen Evgeny Goncharov and his graceful portfolio of glamor nudes indicates a taste of what awaits me in the porn mines for the year ahead. I wandered across his photostream on Flickr an hour ago, and have been enjoying a […]
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sex doesn’t sell (the blockbuster remix)

1 January 2010
Exception: put a naked Robert Downey Jr. in anything, and I'll buy it. If you've been reading my Chronicle column for a while, you'll remember back in late 2008 when I did a piece illustrating that the maxim "sex sells" is an outdated notion -- a sex-negative one -- that no […]
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named Examiner’s Sex Writer of the Year!

1 January 2010
Happy New Year everyone! I'm still glowing from being named Examiner's Sex Writer of the Year. Yayz! The full Sexaminer award list is here -- congrats to Sasha Grey. Also, while we're on the publicity front, some people know me from my (apparently unforgettable) appearance in MacHeads: The Movie, a film […]
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this week’s column: you’ve come a long way

31 December 2009
Image by Ellen von Unwerth via superwrong. This week's column for the SF Chronicle is more personal than usual, but that's what's great about being a columnist. It was written with the forethought that it would be my last of 2009, last of the decade, and published on NYE. It was […]
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junk foodz: end of the year sex lists

30 December 2009
Image by the girl who tamed the tiger. I love those end of the year -- or this year, end of the decade -- sex wrap up articles, lists and posts. I decided not to do one for my column this year, though I may do something to that effect tomorrow […]
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great post on a condom use basic fact

30 December 2009
Image by helenaa75. A colleague in sex ed posted a great short item about condom use that covers a little known fact about their use: latex condoms dry things out. Even pre-lubricated ones. I can't count how many times I've advised on this topic over the decade, and it always surprises […]
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(in)security theatre

30 December 2009
One hour ago I posted on Twitter that bloggers have been served supoeanas and had their computers confiscated for posting TSA guidelines. Yesterday, these bloggers' posts were the only point of sanity and fact my partner and I could find to use to prepare ourselves to be able to follow […]
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my visit to London Coco de Mer

27 December 2009
Human hair whips, blonde and auburn, respectively. Right before the holidays I got a chance to visit one of the London Coco de Mer stores (there are two; there are also two stores in the US, Los Angeles and the brand *spanking* new New York store). It wasn't any ordinary visit […]
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top ten sexy geeks 2010

25 December 2009
Photo of h4wt Sexy Geek runner-up Dr. Kiki Sanford by Mike O'Donnell. Better late than unsexy; this year's nerd lust list is being posted a few days after the traditional date, yet more carefully considered than usual and hotter than your MacBook Pro's thigh-burning battery. Why more carefully considered? For one, […]
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sex toys that will change your life

17 December 2009
Image of the life-changing Iconic Rabbit (which I want!) by Pat Law. This week's San Francisco Chronicle column is one of my favorites of the year; it's called Sex Toys That Will Change Your Life Violet Blue: Can a sex toy change your life? For many, the answer is yes. A […]
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more Frédéric Fontenoy

17 December 2009
I did a post featuring the photography of Frédéric Fontenoy in October; friend Katie West points out that 180 Magazine has an entire set of his newer work called Chambre Noir that is absolutely stunning. How does he do it? Well, in an unintentional moment of clicking around, I found […]
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excellent post: Ms. Naughty’s Porn For Women Retrospecive 2009

17 December 2009
Image by Vorfas (vorfas.blogspot.com). There is little for me to add after reading the inimitable Ms. Naughty's new post, Porn For Women Retrospective 2009 (msnaughty.com). It surprised me to see myself in it so much; I'd forgotten what a big year I've had in the media. Never mind me; do not […]
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Devil in Miss Jones + Massive Attack + Hope Sandoval (Mazzy Star)

17 December 2009
Watch the video after the jump; someone was a crap programmer and made it autoplay only, and I never surprise you with nonconsensual autoplay video experiences. Hit [click to continue…] at the bottom of this post to watch it; it's fabulous! I've been able to track this video back about five […]
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