Books by Violet Blue
“Superstar sex writer – Violet Blue.” -Dan Savage
Honored by Forbes as “omnipresent on the web” and Webnation as “the sex educator for the Internet generation” in addition to being recognized by Times UK as “one of the 40 bloggers who really count” (2010), I’ve been very lucky to have my work online and offline publicly acknowledged with such high respect. I recommend perusing my official Amazon.com Violet Blue Page. You can also read an excerpt from my book The Smart Girl’s Guide to Porn on The Oprah Winfrey Show website.
* How to Kiss: order Seal it With a Kiss on Amazon
I wrote and edited all these books, but I strongly feel and sincerely believe that for us to truly enjoy sex you should read everything you can that interests you at any given time in your sexual pursuits. There is no one right way to perform a particular sex act, and to make your lover squeak with pleasure you should seek out as much information as possible from a diverse variety of sources. I do hope you’ll make my books part of your pleasure library, and if you don’t — that’s cool too.
2002 Ultimate Guide: Cunnilingus
2002 Ultimate Guide: Fellatio
2003 Ultimate Guide: Adult Videos
2003 Adventurous Couple’s Guide: Sex Toys (free audio excerpt)
2004 Ultimate Guide: Sexual Fantasy
2006 Smart Girl’s Guide to Porn (2007 Bronze IPPY winner for Sexuality)
2006 Fetish Sex (with erotica by Thomas Roche)
2007 Smart Girl’s Guide to the G-Spot
2007 Adventurous Couple’s Guide: Strap-On Sex
2010 Seal It With A Kiss: Tips, Tricks and Techniques to Deliver the Knockout Kiss
2010 Ultimate Guide: Fellatio (updated 2nd Edition, with new story by Mary Roach; Susie Bright wrote, “Violet Blue’s cunnilingus book is the best sheer technique manual I’ve ever read on going down.”)
2010 Ultimate Guide: Cunnilingus (updated 2nd Edition, unreleased, also new intro with Margaret Cho)
2011 Total Flirt: Tips, Tricks, and Techniques (unreleased)
2000 Sweet Life
2003 Sweet Life 2
2004 Taboo (precursor to Sweet Danger)
2005 Best Sex Writing (nonfiction; free audio chapter: Polly Enmity’s Sperm Bank Teller)
2006 Best Women’s Erotica (becoming unavailable; 2006 Gold IPPY winner for Erotica, revised as Just Watch Me)
2006 Lips Like Sugar: Erotic Fantasies for Women (free audio chapters: When I Make You Say No by Julia Price and The First Stroke by Erica Dumas)
2007 Best Women’s Erotica
2007 Lust: Erotic Fantasies for Women (2007 Gold IPPY winner for Erotica)
2008 Best Women’s Erotica
2009 Best Women’s Erotica
2009 Girls On Top: Explicit Fantasies for Women
2010 Best Women’s Erotica
2010 Best of the Best Women’s Erotica (my #1 picks from the previous years)
2010 Just Watch Me: Erotica for Women (free audio sample: Cate Robertson’s Just Watch Me, Rodin)
2010 Sweet Love 2010 Gold IPPY winner for Erotica)
2011 Best Women’s Erotica (unreleased)
2011 Sweet Danger: Erotic Stories of Forbidden Desire for Couples (unreleased)
Introductions and Essays, contributor:
2004 Naughty Spanking Stories (Bussel)
2005 Naked Ambition (Milne)
2005 Everything You Know About Sex is Wrong (Kick)
2005 Whipped (Queen)
2006 She’s Such A Geek (Newitz and Anders)
2008 Best Sex Writing (Bussel)
2008 101 Sexy Dares (Corn)
2009 Best Sex Writing (Bussel)
2010 Best Sex Writing (Bussel)
Self-Published e-Books and Audio Books (Digitapub.com):
2007 Creatures of the Night: Goth Erotica (ISBN 978-0-9799019-3-5; Kindle)
2007 Erotic Role Play: A Guide for Couples (ISBN 978-0-9799019-5-9; Kindle)
2007 Pleasure Zone Basics (audio only, ISBN 978-0-9799019-1-1)
2008 Open Source Sex Ed: The Complete Guide (ISBN 978-0-9799019-0-4)
2008 Sweet Heat: Explicit Erotica for Couples (ISBN 978-0-9799019-6-6; Kindle)
2008 The Modern Safer Sex Guide (free)
2008 How to Kiss (ISBN 978-0-9799019-2-8; Kindle)
Oprah and her staff loved my award-winning book The Smart Girl’s Guide to Porn, and I think you will too. You can read an excerpt from The Smart Girl’s Guide to Porn on The Oprah Winfrey Show website.
I give my recommendations to Oprah’s readers and viewers in Quality Adult Films for Women – Oprah.com. This was my recent appearance on the show talking about women and porn, from my book’s perspective:
Read the table of contents here; listen to the introduction as I read it in my podcast Open Source Sex #41; hear it right now with this link (MP3). Wired reviewed it and loved it! Check out Smart Girls Need Smart Porn.
What could possibly be in a book about porn for us girls? Lots! Women dig porn and it’s a fact — don’t listen to conservative pundits who would like to convince you otherwise. In the book, I explain how to find good porn, what kind of porn women like and don’t like (you’ll be surprised), the degradation question, how to avoid horrifying boob jobs in your porn, and more. The book covers becoming a savvy porn shopper, why porn sucks, where all the hot guys are, and there’s a huge amount of information about online porn, RSS, online video, porn made by women, safe porn surfing, oodles of links to hot free porn sites, porn for women, and how to shop for porn (and watch it) with a lover.
An example of my nonfiction essays about sex culture, selected and published in Best Sex Writing 2008:
Rachel Kramer Bussel interviewed me about my article selected and published in Best Sex Writing 2008 — “Kink.com and Porn Hysteria: The Lie of Unbiased Reporting?”. In the interview, I kind of forgot my usual filters and went *off* on mainstream media and how the way they cover sex and porn is the perfect example of how our media and news structures are broken — and how we can fix it.
Here’s an interview snip from Violet Blue Interview About Porn and Mainstream Reporting:
What prompted your piece “Kink.com and Porn Hysteria: The Lie of Unbiased Reporting?” I know you were reacting to articles about Kink.com specifically, but how long had you been noticing this trend of unbiased reporting?
I was the SF Chronicle’s sex columnist until I quit in 2010 over what I felt were unfair and unsavory linking practices on their part. On the same day my column ran “Open Source Sex” I had an interview with sex-positive alt porn director Eon McKai up. it was a great interview that showed the breaking down of porn’s redundant gender and physical stereotypes, the sex-positivity and inclusiveness of modern sex attitudes into the mainstream (which had been going on for a while, I was just drawing attention to the newest wave of it). porn from the POV of the makers, not the critics who don’t know what’s really going on. that week, local BDSM empire (and all-inclusive, sex-positive, politically minded local porn company) Kink.com had purchased the SF Armory for its new studio location. the Chron’s website bumped my column to the bottom of the page and ran a totally anti-porn, completely biased piece about a staged “protest” in front of the Armory — many have said that even the number of protesters stated in the piece was incorrect and more than the few who showed up. the website showed photos of Kink employees who were there to wash the building and called them “protesters” (though later corrected their mistakes).
the piece was so anti-porn, and especially anti-kink, I saw red. especially since Kink is one of the most incredible places to work — they treat their employees better than any company I’ve seen (except for Google), the performers are treated with respect, paid really well, have hair and makeup people, and are regarded as Olympic athletes. the cleanliness standards should be envied by every restaurant in San Francisco and copied by every porn company in the world. and the owner’s mission is to demystify kinky sex, normalize it, and make the world a better place for all sexual outsiders for doing do. the Chron’s hit piece disgusted me, the rest of mainstream media predictably followed suit, and I wrote a powerful response.
the reaction at the paper was extreme. let’s just say mainstream media found it a bitter pill to swallow when I criticized their lock-step anti-porn and anti-sex bias within its own pages. it was quite a scandal. but that’s what happens when a paper hires a blogger, you know?
You contrast religious groups’ opposition to porn with the coverage in mainstream papers like The New York Times and your own San Francisco Chronicle. Do you feel the anti-porn groups have been successful in getting their POV into mainstream papers or is it simply lazy reporting?
it’s both; mainstream media still sits behind its cozy little Fourth Estate wall of authority and assumption that everyone agrees sex is bad and wrong; journalists don’t have to bother questioning this point of view, even though the world’s view on sex has changed (and is changing rapidly) around them. MSM needs to get sex positive, because we can only make fun of them for so long…ultimately their attitudes are causing them to miss telling real stories and reporting with accuracy, which I think the corrective nature of the blogosphere will reign in eventually (…read more, bestsexwriting2008.wordpress.com)
In summary, I write a lot. And I’m always looking for new projects and after a rest, I am now on the lookout for an exciting regular writing gig.
From at least 1999, I’ve been a published sexuality writer for outlets like Forbes, O: The Oprah Magazine and RH Reality Check, while being a best-selling, award-winning author/editor of over thirty books, all currently in print, a number of which have been translated into French, Spanish, Russian, Italian and Turkish. I’ve contributed to nine (and counting) non-fiction anthologies by other authors. I self-publish sex ed and erotica at Digita Publications (many available in Kindle Editions), featuring DRM-free e-books and audio books from myself and a variety of talented authors.
My complete writing resume and film/TV appearance list (with awards) is on the IMDB Violet Blue page.
Awards and Honors:
2005 The Ten Sexiest Geeks (Wired Magazine)
2006 IPPY Gold Medal, Erotica (Best Women’s Erotica)
2007 List: The Forbes Web Celeb 25
2007 IPPY Gold Medal, Erotica (Best Women’s Erotica)
2007 IPPY Bronze Medal, Sexuality (The Smart Girl’s Guide to Porn)
2008 Wired’s 25 Faces Of Innovation
2008 San Francisco Guardian Best of the Bay
2008 Playboy’s Hottest Bloggers
2009 Best Sex Writer (San Francisco Guardian)
2009 Best Online Sex Resource for Women (Self Magazine)
2010 Best Sex Blogger (San Francisco Weekly)
2010 IPPY Gold Medal Erotica (Sweet Love)
2010 Sex Writer of the Year (Examiner.com)
2010 The 40 Bloggers Who Really Count (London Times)
Books that cite, quote, and reference my work, talks, and career*:
(2011) The 4-Hour Body: An Uncommon Guide to Rapid Fat-Loss, Incredible Sex, and Becoming Superhuman (Timothy Ferriss, pages 249-252)
(2010) Losing Our Religion: The Liberal Media’s Attack on Christianity (Cupp, page 145)
(2010) Say Everything: How Blogging Began (Rosenberg)
(2010) Pornland (Dines, page 25)
(2010) Good Porn: A Woman’s Guide (E. Lust, page 9)
(2009) Porn.com (Attwood, page 88)
(2009) The Guide to Getting It On! (Joannides, multiple pages)
(2008) Love + Sex with Robots: The Evolution of Human-Robot Relationships (Levy, pages 267, 271)
(2008) America Unzipped (Alexander, multiple pages Chapter 6)
(2008) The Porn Report (McKee, Lumby, Albury, page 173)
(2008) Why Hasn’t He Proposed? (Titus, Fadal, page 71)
(2007) Healing Sex: A Mind-Body Approach to Healing Sexual Trauma (Haines, page 350)
(2007) The perfect thing: how the iPod shuffles commerce, culture, and coolness (Levy, page 244)
(2007) Naked on the Internet (Ray, multiple pages)
(2007) Sex Slang (Victor, Dalzell, page 145)
(2007) Netporn: DIY web culture and sexual politics (Jacobs, page 42)
(2006) Tricks from the Podcasting Masters (Walch/Lafferty, page 85)
(2006) Sex With the Lights On (Doolittle, page 275)
(2005) The Straight Girl’s Guide to Sleeping with Chicks (Sincero, page 262)
* Does not include books which include my books or online work in resources or bibliographies.