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By: Justin

Justin — Tue, 01 Nov 2011 14:02:11 +0000

@Miguel: I think porn Can lead to less sex in a relationship, but there’s probably a communication/intimacy breakdown happening as well (for whatever reason). I would strongly argue from personal experience, that porn Can over-exaggerate some pretty common desires, but only in certain situations, which were probably going to end unhappily one way or another, if someone in the relationship doesn’t wise up and change something.
So I would argue that yes, porn can contribute to messing up your sex life, but it’s Really unlikely to be the only problem you have.

But as to the halloween vs slutwalk thing, I don’t think they make a good case at all. They start out with a premise, but then drift off into talking about things in a very general way, only vaguely coming back to their primary point at the beginning. If you’re fighting for women to be allowed to be sexy in public, and for us men to learn to keep it in our pants and not force ourselves on women, you can’t pick and choose the venue/timing for that. I question their basic premise, that girls are forced to dress up sexily for halloween. Lots of people go for non-revealing costumes, that are otherwise still sexy, or just funny/interesting. It’s really about choice and educaiton, for both genders, basic respect of each other.

So yes, I agree with you, these guys may be well-intentioned, but they’re not really doing it well.

By: Miguel DeMoravia

Miguel DeMoravia — Tue, 01 Nov 2011 03:03:24 +0000

Still got ‘em coming… this is one of the ten most popular posts on the Good Men site, entitled “How Porn Can Ruin Your Marriage” and it opens with a line about dopamine and says men will lose interest in their partners with too much porn consumption…

http://goodmenproject.com/health/how-porn-can-ruin-your-sex-life-and-your-marriage/

There are other posts on the site about social media that I’m sure you would find wrong, and as an economics expert, I can tell you that their posts about economics and business are badly misinformed and / or overly simplistic as well. And it doesn’t take much to go from writing simplistic economics articles to going whole hog and penning outright wingnut economic lies.

In short, this site isn’t good at anything it does, unless its goal is to misinform. Having one or two genuinely informed articles on site doesn’t excuse the rest of it (it’s like having Shep Smith on Fox News as the guy all the other anchors point to as the reason Fox News can still rightly call itself a news organization).

By: Miguel DeMoravia

Miguel DeMoravia — Tue, 01 Nov 2011 02:37:29 +0000

Also, these two, taken straight from the current front page. The first is about porn turning people (men, mostly) into “zombies”

http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/porn-zombies/

And the second one, written by the site founder, repeats all the tired tropes about men being slaves to their sexual nature. He thinks that, because men are slaves to their sexual nature, they’re not able to be “open” about their lust. I’m not sure what planet that guy’s living on, but men being hindered from openly expressing lust doesn’t isn’t a cause in need of a champion on this one.

http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/is-male-lust-turning-us-inside-out/

By: Miguel DeMoravia

Miguel DeMoravia — Tue, 01 Nov 2011 00:28:38 +0000

Why do you link so much to the Good Men Project site? It’s really not good. Really, it’s not. Here… just look at this steaming pile:

http://goodmenproject.com/good-feed-blog/real-beauty-distinguishing-truth-from-fairy-tale/