We’ve always been messed up, technology just gives us different ways of expressing that. We’ve always dressed like people in popular culture, and wanted to look like them, act like them, talk like them. It’s not really surprising that people have plastic surgery to look like celebrities, or porn stars. They want to have lots of fun sex like they see portrayed in movies, so they think that perhaps a body like the one they see will help them do that.

They’re missing the deeper truth, it’s acting, just like in main-stream movies. Actors take regular emotions and display them more differently, so we feel what they’re going through. Actors in porn movies take sex, and do it differently, so it looks good on camera.

If you want better sex, find ways to feel better about yourself and the other person/people, it’ll feel better.

Fetlife is just a slight (very slight!) acceleration of the process. In many ways, I don’t particularly care for Fetlife; it’s interface is difficult to manage and painfully low bandwidth (not a lot of useful information per page), plus it’s supersaturated with so many users I can’t create a valid monkeysphere (look it up) within it.