Nibbles: We Love New York, Porn Condom Ruling, Horse Semen Cocktails, Sex Workshop Webcasts, Australia Censors Internet Access, Bristol Palin’s Safer Sex Agenda

by Violet Blue on June 25, 2011

Sir Richards Condoms at SFPride

  • Condoms not required for porn in California, on-camera barebacking is still legal: The California Court of Appeal this week upheld a decision that county health officers should be allowed to exercise their own discretion about the best way to achieve safety in the adult entertainment workplace. Porn stars don’t have to cover up after court ruling on condoms (The Independent)
  • Australia Heads Down the Slippery Slope, Authorizes ISPs to Filter Starting next month, the vast majority of Australia’s Internet users will find their access censored, following a decision by the country’s two largest providers–Telstra and Optus–as well as two smaller ISPs (itExtreme and Webshield), to voluntarily block more than 500 websites from view. Call for national porn censorship and axing of ‘artistic merit’ defence A Senate committee report wants an overhaul of the [Australian] classification system and tighter rules introduced to meet community concerns about the sexualisation of society and the objectification of women. (Electronic Frontier Foundation, Sydney Morning Herald)
  • Wannabe pornographer, self-titled porn star and male escort Skye Oryan (“President” of Holysexgirls.com) is currently being held by police in Vail, Colorado on $1,000 bond for a “traffic incident” and extra $1,500 for a Porta-Potty peeping tom incident – where he hid in the tank – in Boulder. Porta-Potty Perv Turns out to Be a Spiritual Porn Star and Male Escort (Death and Taxes)
  • Apple-infused horse semen shots might not be an obvious chaser to spring rolls, but they are causing a stir at the Green Man Pub where they are being served. Women flock to take horse-semen shots (Stuff.co.nz, thanks Johnny!)
  • What should have been just another interminable conversation between two mind-boggling A-holes took an intriguing turn down Rainbow Alley last night, when Fox News host Glenn Beck blurted out, “I could kiss you in the mouth” to Rick Santorum on Thursday’s show. Glenn Beck To Rick Santorum: ‘I Could Kiss You In The Mouth’ (Gawker)

  • Sex trafficking headlines claim that all migrant women who sell sex are invariably being abused, without regard to their diverse backgrounds and without asking them how they feel. But many reject being defined as sexually vulnerable and in need of ‘rescuing’ and protection. The Sex in Sex Trafficking (The Naked Anthropologist)
  • Sex educator Ducky Doolittle is webcasting her sex workshops: highly recommended, reasonably priced ($10 each), and the full list of dates and topics is here: Ducky Doolittle’s Webcasting Sex Workshops (Viviane’s Sex Carnival)

Photo: The lovely and wonderful people from Sir Richard’s Condoms, taken today just before the Dyke March in Dolores Park, San Francisco. I shot this after chatting with them about their terrific products and safer sex mission. They were giving out condoms, grinning from ear to ear, and also showing people how to make on-the-fly dental dams.

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The London Times named Violet Blue "One of the 40 bloggers who really count" and Self Magazine named TinyNibbles one of the “Best Sex Resources for Women.” Blue is an autodidact and pundit on sex and technology, hacking and security, porn for women, privacy and bleeding-edge tech culture. She is a journalist for ZDNet, CBS News, CNET; she's an educator, speaker, crisis counselor, volunteer NGO trainer, and the author and editor of over 40 award-winning books.

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{ 4 comments }

1 James June 27, 2011 at 2:27 am

I’m so tired of the Palins and this stupid famous for being famous phenomenon

2 Ducky June 26, 2011 at 12:01 pm

Merci beaucoup Violet! xo – Ducky

3 Justin June 26, 2011 at 8:56 am

Here’s something you can Really sink your teeth into (http://www.abc.net.au/triplej/hack/stories/s3001800.htm). Apparently vaginal ‘reconstruction’ is the fastest rising kind of surgery in Australia, and quite worryingly (imo) among young women (20+ years of age). The video makes the claim (well backed I reckon) that our censorship laws, by pushing soft-core porn producers to ‘clean up’ women’s visible genitals, create a false idea of what is normal. The video was done by a new, very young news investigation team for a show called Hungry Beast, and the audio is part of Hack, the weekly Triple J current affairs show. Triple J is a gov-funded youth radio channel, dedicated to live music, Australian music, and new music, ideally all three. I think this issue, of women changing their bodies towards a false ideal caused by censorship, is as big, if not a bigger issue, than filtering, which while problematic, is really only cosmetic, for now at least.

4 D June 25, 2011 at 8:42 pm

Regarding the migrant sex workers issue, that hits on a topic that has concerned me for a while. Every once in a while, I utilize the services of sex-workers. For reasons I will not go into here, I am not currently capable nor willing to pursue a more traditional relationship by finding a girlfriend. That doesn’t mean that from time to time I don’t feel a need for intimacy with someone, and neither does my need for intimacy compromise my ethics. I have absolutely no interest in punting with someone who is selling sex out of a sense of desperation, or because someone else is threatening them (or their families) if they do not.

I’ve always been annoyed at how prostitution is portrayed as a single-faceted issue by people on both sides of the argument: moral crusaders depict all prostitution as rape for money, without acknowledging those who choose and love it as a career. Yet I don’t feel the pro-sex-workers, pro-sexuality community does enough to acknowledge the problems of forced sex-slavery (which I understand, because their causes are already fighting from a position of political weakness, so it isn’t easy to address issues as horrible as these). This is why, anytime I find myself in an argument with someone on the issue of prostitution, I always clarify the terminology early and enforce it throughout the discussion: prostitution is consensual selling of sexual services between two adults, and selling of sexual services under any form of coercion is rape. This stops the conflating of common terms to muddle the argument, such as when someone will speak of “child prostitutes in Thailand,” for example, to evoke an emotional distaste of the prostitution occupation. I point out to them that these children are incapable of consent, and therefore are not prostitutes but rape victims.

It is from this viewpoint that I have difficulty. I have no problem at all with women who are willing to spend the night with me for money; in fact, I’m incredibly grateful and appreciative of these women. Yet, rape is one of the few crimes that still activates a primal part of my brain, and conjures thoughts in me of castration and lynch-mob justice. And because I’m cursed with the mental capacity to see nuance and grey-areas, I know that the issue isn’t as black and white as “willing/ unwilling”. Not every sex-slave ring looks like the one in that movie “Taken”, with girls kept in basements and strung out on drugs. Using the migrant sex worker as an example, I know that there are Chinese escorts who will perform sexual favors in a seemingly eager and happy way; but only because if they don’t, then someone will see to it their families back home will suffer. But on the other hand, given economic differences and basic human nature, there have to be quite a few who came to America on their own to work. But how can you tell? When I visited Amsterdam a couple of years ago, I was reading an article that brought up just this point with their legalized system. A lot of anti-sex-work groups were automatically counting all immigrant sex-workers as trafficked women, and to be fair the eastern European mafias were known to engage in this sort of activity. But the article went on to point out that a lot of women were coming to work in Amsterdam not just from eastern Europe, but also Africa and southeast Asia, because they could make more money in a month there than they could in a year back home, and in a manner that was safer and less open to exploitation. But in a legalized environment, where all the girls occupy pretty much the same small but well kept rooms, and exhibit no physical signs of abuse… how does one tell?

That’s the point I’ve been trying to get at (sorry I ramble a lot). There seem to be zero… zip… nadda… resources out there for what I would call “the ethical John”. There are many sites that argue in favor of sex-work and sex-workers rights, but don’t address the issues of sex-slavery. The resources available that address sex-slavery take the stand that all prostitution in all forms is bad, and site a lot of statistics and numbers that ping my b.s. detector (such as the Dutch groups that count all migrants as slaves, for example). Guides for finding prostitutes (especially overseas) are even worse, as they clearly do not draw the same ethical distinctions regarding the practice that I do.

I guess what I would ultimately like to see is a book, or website, or something that is a ethical guide for punters. Something that addresses the issues that prostitutes have with clients, ways to ensure smoother and more pleasant transactions for everyone involved, and gives tips on how to recognize trafficking victims if you meet them (and more importantly, what you can do for them should that happen.)

Sorry too if this comment was a big rambling mess. Thanks!

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