June 2011

• Starting in 2013, the Department of Health and Human Services will start asking questions about sexual orientation and gender identity in its flagship survey of the health of the American population. Main federal health survey will ask about sexual orientation, gender identity (The Washington Post)

• Superlative women-run Australian porn sites I Feel Myself and I Shot Myself have launched an audio erotica site, Sonic Erotica (SonicErotica.com)

• Corset Week 2011 kicks off with this wonderfully informative guest post from Catherine of Kiss Me Deadly and Sam of Lulu & Lush. In this article, Catherine dissects the differences between authentic corsets and their cheap imitators. Includes a great video. What Everybody Should Know About the Difference Between Real Corsets & Fake Corsets (The Lingerie Addict)

• That slippery sex in Black Swan? Here’s a video clip of the best bits: more plz. (sworn to black)

• There comes a time in every science writer’s career when one must write about female sea monkeys having sex with male sea monkeys from the future, and the troubles that follow. That time is now. Sex with someone from the future can be hazardous to your health (Discover Magazine, thanks Ariel!)

• “I hesitated to write about how to have orgasms for years, mostly because it felt like the last thing the world needed was another voice talking about how important orgasms are. So this isn’t a pitch for orgasms as much as it is ten things you can do if you know you want orgasms and it isn’t working for you.” Building Better Orgasms – Techniques for Expanding Your Orgasm Potential (sexuality.about.com)

• “I get to sign boobs a lot,” True Blood’s Stephen Moyer revealed. “I get to bite boobs, occasionally, when I’m allowed. If my missus is there and she approves of the person I get to bite boobs… and necks.” Anna Paquin Lets Stephen Moyer Flirt With Female Fans (Uinterview)

Image via Zivity Blog: Google never looked so good!

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A journalist named Mac McClelland covers human rights issues and politics for Mother Jones and other publications. I decided she’s extra cool when I saw her phenomenally ballsy, if problematic, piece about wanting to get fucked at gunpoint.

That’s a gross oversimplification of what the article is about; basically, it’s about how her traumatic experiences in Haiti affected not just her sex life, but her psyche overall. A certain flavor of sex was how she helped herself move through that, and — like much first-person journalism — the article gives the almost certainly ultra-oversimplified impression that one “thing” was all it took. Still, the article is thought provoking as hell.

Here’s an excerpt of the passage that, frankly, set me off and had me ready to write an outraged piece about the problems of engaging in fucked-up, highly dysfunctional and highly risky kink (which McClelland certainly did not invent). Here’s the interesting and disturbing opener to the article:

It was my research editor who told me it was completely nuts to willingly get fucked at gunpoint. That’s what she called me when I told her the story. We were drunk and in a karaoke bar, so at the time I came up with only a wounded face and a whiny, “I’m not completely nuuuuts!” Upon further consideration, a more explanative [sic] response probably would have been something like: Well. You had to be there.

“There” would be Haiti, where I’d just spent two weeks covering the one-year anniversary of the earthquake that shook the country into ugly chaos. There, a local regular at my hotel restaurant who is not accustomed to taking no for an answer had gotten desperate. After proposing for the 87th time that I have intercourse with him, he was grasping for anything that might change my mind, trying eventually, wildly, “We can do this at gunpoint if that sells it for you.” And actually, it did, yeah.

There are a lot of guns in Haiti. Guns on security guards in front of banks and gas stations. Guns on kidnappers who make a living snatching rich people, guns on rich people who are afraid of kidnappers….Guns in the hands of the 12,000 United Nations peacekeepers, who sometimes draw them too quickly in civilians’ faces and always sling them carelessly across their laps in the back of UN trucks, barrels pointed inadvertently at your face while you drive behind them in traffic. On that reporting trip, I’d been fantasizing about precisely what the local guy proposed, my back against a wall or a mattress with a friendly gun to my throat. But the plan was vetoed about as soon as it was hatched, when I asked him if his firearm had a safety and he said no. Like I say: I am not completely nuts.

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Okay, so…I’m not sure what I find most disturbing from a gun-nut perspective. It’s weird enough that that was the question she asked of her potential gunfuck/guerrilla psychotherapy partner, but…his answer was a simple “no?” Um….was this a revolver, a zip gun, or some kind of howitzer? “Do you fucking know what the fuck you’re fucking doing when you handle a gun” would, for the record, have been the way I asked that particular question, and generally speaking someone I picked up in a restaurant would not be the person whose “yes” I would be most inclined to trust in matters of any caliber. No matter how kinky you are, gun sex role plays with real guns are not something I’d encourage after going home with a guy you met at the local hash house with a $6.99 half-carafe of chardonnay shimmy-shaking in your tum-tum atop your guacamole burger. [SATISFY your CURIOSITY and CONTINUE READING…]

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• Sexy actress watch: You may not know who Grace Huang is yet but you’ll be seeing a lot more of her when The RZA’s martial arts feature The Man With The Iron Fists hits the big screen. First Shots From Hong Kong Action Fantasy Blood Traffick (Twitch Film, image via)

• There have been quite a few takes on the meaning of Eminem’s “Space Bound” video, in which we see two sides of a suicidal, love-torn rapper. Grey doesn’t have a clear-cut explanation of the video, but she ultimately sees “Space Bound” from a pessimistic view — hopeless romantics take heed. Eminem Co-Star Sasha Grey Interprets Suicidal ‘Space Bound’ Video (MTV)

• This past weekend I missed a significant summit: big adult industry players *with* a dot-XXX TLD rep on a panel being fielded questions by porn webmasters – at my request the video is public and I will do a writeup after I’ve had a chance to parse it. Your opinions and questions are more than welcome: Video of the .XXX session at YNOT Summit (Pimps Promo)

• She explained: “Life was difficult. Even if I had a relationship, which I did eventually get a boyfriend, I never would take off my clothes off in front of him.” It was retired air force officer Alan’s idea to send photos of Annie to a magazine, which was when she said her pseudonym Norma Stitz was born.
  She said being featured online and in racy magazines made her embrace her size. She explained: “I fell in love with myself. Every time I get a new doctor they offer me surgery but I don’t need surgery.” Woman with the world’s largest natural boobs at 102-ZZZ appears on This Morning (The Sun)

• Discovery: Warning – it’s FILTHY (image at right). Not politically correct, female submissive, human ponies, etc. That is all. Hentai Band Horror Orgy is by Lesbi K. Leih, is via the one and only Bacchus of Eros Blog. Poke around the paysite (!) and you’ll find a serving of free, nasty comic samples from the full-length stories, videos, and of course, comics. (The Hard Life of a Groupie, Eros Blog)

• The [American] Supreme Court said yesterday that it would hear a case that could decide whether the Federal Communication Commission’s policy banning nudity and expletives on broadcast television was a violation of the First Amendment. The case involves two instances of live award shows on the Fox network in which celebrities uttered profanities. In addition, the case involves a scene on the former ABC series “NYPD Blue’’ that included a naked woman. The incidents occurred in 2002 and 2003. High court to rule on FCC indecency ban (The Boston Globe)

• The government denial of homosexual activities amongst inmates is making it difficult to combat the spread of HIV and Aids within the country’s prisons, an official has said. [American] Gov’t denial of sex in prison kills inmates (Newsday)

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Let me fist (typo and it STAYS) say that if you have not seen the HBO series Game of Thrones (first season) and you intend to, then skip this post because it has a lot of spoilers.

I am enraptured with the series. I should disclaim that HBO sent me a mind-blowing olfactory, interactive marketing package before the series began, and so I was quite warmed up to liking the series thanks to their deviously brilliant marketing department.

What I did not expect was that I’d fall deep into the series, be led by the frontal cortex into the narrative, get turned upside down by star-turn monologues and visceral characters, or that I’d love it for the twists, turns, elaborate visuals, that it’s about to add serious elements of horror, and – yes – for the hot sex.

There was a controversy about this series before it made its debut, with critics decrying the sexual content and insulting viewers (especially female sci-fi and fantasy fans) before any of us had a chance to decide for ourselves what our relationship with *any* sexual content in fictional storytelling is, let alone how it was portrayed in Game of Thrones.

The people doing the poo-pooing and shaming the sexual content and those potentially interested in it (like the New York Times saying Game of Thrones was “porn for women”) just ended up looking like idiots that didn’t understand fantasy fans, girls, the digital era of sexuality (especially female) and missed the point and excitement of what turned out to be one of the best things HBO has done since Deadwood.

Besides – as a woman that has edited the bestselling series on literotica for women for the past six years, I can tell you this: Storytelling – whether crime, horror, fantasy, sci-fi ar anything that’s worth a damn contains sex, and not just light cliche sex, but sex that is far more redeeming, ethically errant, character-flawing and rewarding as other essential storytelling elements. Game of Thrones nailed it.

This post has videos and images found all over the internet – and it is a testament to how much I can’t wait until next season. References, credits and sources at post conclusion.

There is a large gallery after the jump with smiles, hard nipples and uncut glory all intact.
[SATISFY your CURIOSITY and CONTINUE READING…]

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