Comments on: ZOMFG!!! Did the Czechs Discover the World’s First Cavegay and/or Cavetranny? http://www.tinynibbles.com/blogarchives/2011/04/gay-caveman.html Journalist and author Violet Blue's site for sex and tech culture, accurate sex information, erotica and more. Tue, 26 May 2015 17:18:20 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Thomas http://www.tinynibbles.com/blogarchives/2011/04/gay-caveman.html/comment-page-1#comment-12637 Thomas Fri, 08 Apr 2011 05:32:58 +0000 http://www.tinynibbles.com/?p=9270#comment-12637 Zen -- I second what Violet said. No disrespect to anyone from across the gender spectrum is intended here. I am, in fact, giving a talk on gender transition and surgery this weekend, which I do every six months, from an enthusiastically trans-positive perspective. My jocular tone is aimed at dicey science and bad science reporting laced with sensationalism and credulity, not trans people. Zen — I second what Violet said. No disrespect to anyone from across the gender spectrum is intended here. I am, in fact, giving a talk on gender transition and surgery this weekend, which I do every six months, from an enthusiastically trans-positive perspective.

My jocular tone is aimed at dicey science and bad science reporting laced with sensationalism and credulity, not trans people.

]]> By: violet http://www.tinynibbles.com/blogarchives/2011/04/gay-caveman.html/comment-page-1#comment-12636 violet Fri, 08 Apr 2011 05:12:26 +0000 http://www.tinynibbles.com/?p=9270#comment-12636 Hi Zen, thanks for stopping by and commenting. I understand what you are saying. We meant no insult whatsoever - please do not interpret intent. Also, take a moment to understand our relationships to trans issues and trans people, and familiarize yourself with our work. Especially that work in the trans communities in San Francisco, where the people we work with, learn from, and volunteer with often refer to themselves freely as "tranny." The word "tranny" is used on this blog quite a bit, and is used on a lot of the trans blogs I link to. I consider it A LOT different form the "n" word and use it respectfully - with my trans family, partners and friends - as does my colleague. I found a reaction like yours to the word "queer" when I went to London recently. It is used with pride in these parts, but there it is still taboo. I used it mindfully. Same with "fag" which is perfectly acceptable in most of my circles here in SF. As our community circles overlap on the internet and are no longer bound by location-to-terminology or subculture-to-terminology, we're bound to find friction in spots. In my opinion, "tranny" is nowhere near the "n" word in its insidiousness and evil, and no, I don't have the right to use the "n" word and I never will. But the "n" word is in a lot of lyrics to music I like. Still, I don't want to see it on my blog, and I am going to edit your comment so that word doesn't get crawled and connected to my blog. I think your comparison goes too far. Please don't take it the wrong way. Also, this post is not to be taken too seriously. PS: a tranny works here at tinynibbles, and this is how she identifies. She is happy for me to refer to her as a tranny. I can't speak for all trans people - neither can she, and neither can you. But the difference is that no one is okay being referred to as the "n" word. The history of the slang is important here. Hi Zen, thanks for stopping by and commenting. I understand what you are saying. We meant no insult whatsoever – please do not interpret intent. Also, take a moment to understand our relationships to trans issues and trans people, and familiarize yourself with our work. Especially that work in the trans communities in San Francisco, where the people we work with, learn from, and volunteer with often refer to themselves freely as “tranny.”

The word “tranny” is used on this blog quite a bit, and is used on a lot of the trans blogs I link to. I consider it A LOT different form the “n” word and use it respectfully – with my trans family, partners and friends – as does my colleague.

I found a reaction like yours to the word “queer” when I went to London recently. It is used with pride in these parts, but there it is still taboo. I used it mindfully. Same with “fag” which is perfectly acceptable in most of my circles here in SF.

As our community circles overlap on the internet and are no longer bound by location-to-terminology or subculture-to-terminology, we’re bound to find friction in spots.

In my opinion, “tranny” is nowhere near the “n” word in its insidiousness and evil, and no, I don’t have the right to use the “n” word and I never will. But the “n” word is in a lot of lyrics to music I like. Still, I don’t want to see it on my blog, and I am going to edit your comment so that word doesn’t get crawled and connected to my blog. I think your comparison goes too far.

Please don’t take it the wrong way.

Also, this post is not to be taken too seriously.

PS: a tranny works here at tinynibbles, and this is how she identifies. She is happy for me to refer to her as a tranny. I can’t speak for all trans people – neither can she, and neither can you. But the difference is that no one is okay being referred to as the “n” word. The history of the slang is important here.

]]> By: Zen Gender http://www.tinynibbles.com/blogarchives/2011/04/gay-caveman.html/comment-page-1#comment-12635 Zen Gender Fri, 08 Apr 2011 04:34:01 +0000 http://www.tinynibbles.com/?p=9270#comment-12635 Uh, good article... But, are you aware that the word "tranny" is considered a slur by many trans people, similar to "n****r" or "faggot?" While some transgender people use the term to describe themselves, it is generally considered among many transgender people to be inappropriate for a cisgender person to use the term. Uh, good article… But, are you aware that the word “tranny” is considered a slur by many trans people, similar to “n****r” or “faggot?” While some transgender people use the term to describe themselves, it is generally considered among many transgender people to be inappropriate for a cisgender person to use the term.

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