Comments on: Since You’re Snowed In…

By: L.

L. — Fri, 31 Dec 2010 07:58:31 +0000

… following on from England’s comments … Violet, I’d really like you to point me toward your recommended tutorials, books, etc., too …

… just speaking as a “woman who likes being submissive” …

… and who didn’t ‘come out’ about this, ever, until the last couple of years, in my late 30s …

… and then unfortunately the first person/s I shared with – after pretending for months that their sexuality complimented mine – then backflipped and publicly ridiculed and tried to ‘shame’ and dehumanised me … enough! I know this was done to others too …

… dear Violet, as I said, indeed I would appreciate you pointing me to your recommended tutorials, books, etc.

_^^_

By: England

England — Thu, 30 Dec 2010 21:05:34 +0000

I don’t have a partner, but I have a friend who really wants me to do that to her! Sure, I’d be happy if you could point me in that direction.
- thanks

By: violet

violet — Thu, 30 Dec 2010 02:48:55 +0000

@England – it’s not odd at all. The people at Kink are very very much enjoying themselves. I have a number of friends that work there (models, camera people, directors, and in the IT department) and they LOVE their jobs. They do their jobs when they are not being paid. It’s hot, and very satisfying sex for them, doms and subs. And some of them are in love with each other, and partnered.

Confidence comes with knowing what to do, and knowing your partner really wants it. When they want it, it’s a huge turn on, and I find that gives enough confidence to do all kinds of things.

Let me know if you want me to point you to tutorials, books, etc.

By: violet

violet — Thu, 30 Dec 2010 02:44:45 +0000

@Vera – I posted a video and had missed a line of dialogue about a big dildo in comparison to black men’s cocks, and the reader who caught it was like WTF, Girls Out West? I pulled it, as the reader was spot-on. Not cool.

I caught something else too that made me uber cautious – yet it was very much a cultural difference, much in the way I’ve seen UK culture really not take the N word seriously. To me it’s like, not even questionable. And they wonder why people in the US go ballistic over the word “cunt”…

The internet, it is global. So people like me have to watch, learn, try to be cool, make mistakes, apologize… and not mix up our fannies in polite conversation with the London boy’s parents : /

By: Vera

Vera — Wed, 29 Dec 2010 23:23:29 +0000

Oh no, what happened with Girl’s Out West? Hot video, though. It says something about how vain and self-involved I am that it totally turns me on partly because one of the girl’s tits look exactly like mine.

By: England

England — Tue, 28 Dec 2010 18:37:47 +0000

Is it odd that this kind of BDSM actually makes me raise an eye brow and has me curious in wanting to try it out on a woman who likes being submissive? I usually don’t have an interest in this, but there’s always that one piece that catches my interest. I guess the reason why I can’t see myself doing it, is a major lack of confidence in doing that to a woman, followed by experience. I still find it interesting, though.