Sex Tips For Men: How to Ask For Sex by Dr. Glickman

This post on Dr. Charlie Glickman’s blog Sex Tips For Men: How to Ask For Sex is so fantastic, I have to give it a plug and send you over for a read. FYI, it’s heterosexually focused (but don’t let that stop you if it ordinarily would) and it is especially great for guys who are already in relationships — the “We used to have more sex… How can I…?” question. Some good tips for guys on the cruise too — addressing how not to come off like a creep. I know, it’s tough; guys don’t have a lot of ways to honestly seek sex with girls without getting labeled creepy. Someone should write a book on it. (Hey, Charlie!)

Here’s a snip from the middle — he says “one way” but he actually has a lot of suggestions:

(…) I’m going to leave aside the men who are deliberately intrusive, obnoxious, or predatory. I think that dealing with them is a different issue than what I want to focus on at the moment because I think that different strategies are needed. Instead, I want to focus on the guys who have good intentions, in the sense that they don’t want to be creepy or invasive, but still end up being perceived that way.

(…) One of the biggest reasons that some men come across as creepy is that most of us never learn good ways to ask for sex. We hear messages that tell us that it’s important to communicate about sex, or that we need to ask our partners (or our potential partners) in order to get consent, but there is very little guidance on how to make that work. So is it any surprise that there have been so many men seeking advice from pick up artists and the seduction community? Yes, a lot of them are looking for ways to manipulate women. And many others are simply looking for the social interaction skills that they haven’t learned yet.

So in that light, here’s one way to do it that doesn’t depend on misdirection or manipulation. (…read more, charlieglickman.com)

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