Interactive Fetish Map and Sex Map – Make Your Own

by Violet Blue on September 25, 2010

Sex Map and Fetish Map

Sex maps have come a long way — and I think the potential for the interactive Human Sexmap for couples and individuals is… awesome. The Fetish Map created by Katharine Gates (whose website Deviant Desires has expired) was passed around the internet around 2002, and it was a fine start because it showed how sexual fetishes overlap in various ways; yet it sadly confused violent sexual crime with healthy adult fetish sex, so it left a bit to be desired.

Later in 2008 we got the the map of human sexuality by Franklin Veaux (so awesome), and 2009 gave us the UK Sexmap.

I knew the Sex Map by Franklin Veaux could be purchased as a poster, but I didn’t know he made it interactive and user-personalized. has an update: on Human Sexmap (humansexmap.com) you can now click on the map to place pins, a bit like Google’s My Maps. (I love G’s My Maps, and make wishlist itineraries when I travel for work). Pin delineations include Tried and Liked (green pin), Tried, Didn’t Like (red pin), Things I’d Like to Try (purple pin) and Strictly Fantasy Only (black pin). If you make a mistake, click on the pin to remove it. Then you can save the map — and couples can save, share and compare for learning about eact other, to look for me ideas, or if you’re just the kind of individual who wants data porn on their sex life. To save your map and see a link that you can use to show other people, or embed the map in your blog, hit the Save button.

The map is from the map’s maker Franklin Veaux who has an interesting site of online sex games called SymToys. Cool stuff.

It’s Folsom weekend here in SF, so we’re all a little high on rubber and leather. Expect a weekend of BDSM and fetish posts :) Fetish Sex (An Erotic Guide for Couples) is a book I wrote with erotica writer Thomas Roche to explain the wild, fun, sometimes scary but always fascinating world of fetishes — what they are, what having a fetish means, when your lover has one, and how to enjoy them safely whether alone or in a couple. Just updated and revised: read more in my information-packed Fetish Sex article.

* Listen to a free bonus Fetish Sex erotic story to get in the mood.
* Listen to my lecture about fetishes and dressing for fetish play (fetish dressing) I give twice a year at UCSF Annex for sexuality students.

{ 5 comments }

1 eva October 8, 2010 at 1:33 am

My new guy wanted me to fill and share with him but I found that impossible. If I want to tell him that I had sex as a child or worked in the sex industry it wouldn’t be via a map with little pins.

I also was not amused by vanilla sex being put on the isle of mundania. Sometimes I really just want to relax and enjoy without the requirement for latex and leather.

2 violet September 28, 2010 at 6:00 pm

I strongly agree with you, Ms. Naughty. It’s got the same problems as the old Fetish Map by Gates (sex crimes equated to consensual adult “outsider” sex practices). And I, for one, get a lot of joy from vanilla sex! I’m tired of seeing it regarded as boring or lame. It’s part of the buffet, and when it’s hot, vanilla sex is mind-blowing. I’ve had some pretty mundane kinky sex in my life, boring, predictable, and it even felt mainstream.

So I’m with you on this one. It’s a great map, but it’s got a lot of prescriptive perspective in it — rather than descriptive, which I think is what we want. Especially from a map.

xoxx

3 Ms Naughty September 28, 2010 at 5:24 pm

I like a great deal of Franklin’s map but I really have to take exception to his characterisation of straight vanilla sex – on the “Land of Mundania”, right next to sex crimes and associated heavily with religious shame.

Erm… vanilla sex is just vanilla sex. An awful lot of people like it like that and there’s nothing wrong with them. It would be helpful if the kinky folk would quit dissing the vanilla folk as either boring or repressed. Aren’t we all supposed to be moving away from stereotypes?

4 James Hare September 26, 2010 at 12:10 pm

Hiya, long time reader, first time writer,

Just wanted to bring your attention to this interview that aired on Canada’s national network first thing Sunday morning.

http://www.cbc.ca/thesundayedition/

Once more Gail Dines strikes again.

Regards
James Hare

5 GenerousCity September 26, 2010 at 7:39 am

This is brilliant. Me and my cohort are having a ball pinning all our haves, have nots, and would likes.

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