I like the article, and I have to comment on the “grabs in front of the dishwasher…”

I think the issue depends on who is used to being the sexual object or the object of sexual desire. I recall a relationship when my “other” wanted sex all the time. She would grab, touch, and kiss often-as if it was some reward/toy for her.

In a different relationship, I have felt “out of control” and wanted to hold, grab, and kiss her.

In each relationship, I have felt differently about the attention… While women generally are the objects of sexual attention these days (at least the open “in your face” variety), I can understand that a quick grab might not do much.

However, I don’t understand why a woman would be with a man if she didn’t, even once, want to just grab him every once in a while–whether in front of the dishwasher or not…

Right on. I know we’re all working toward the same goal. And as a result of this comment conversation, do know that when you and I do have intersecting agreement, I’ll work that much harder to have it heard and read. You have no idea how much your transparency means, and your willingness to truly engage here about your passion — it means a lot. I may be a critic for you in this instance, but I do intend to be an ally.

Plus, I love women who handle and transform criticism into a balanced discussion with strength and grace.

We can certainly disagree on how this piece may be interpreted, its mission, or its success. When we put out information it is always up for criticism, especially on the web. While I still stand by my original article and the follow up on Huffington Post which further contextualized the brief conversation on FN, I want to be transparent. I appear on and write for many MSM outlets, including Fox News. In fact, I love the heated debates I have had there. But I have never been paid by Fox News, nor do I have any contractual relationship with them. Is my name linked with theirs in perpetuity? Sure, but I think that my body of work on air and off can hold its own. This original piece was written for Good in Bed. I understand what you’re saying, but I don’t think it’s that simple. That being said, what I love most about being in this field is that we have an ability to initiate larger dialogues about sexuality, gender, and relationships. We may not always agree, but it feels good that we can all have a voice.

From one MSM sex writer to another, I can tell you It’s really not necessary to “adequately explore all the intricacies about gender and sexuality in 500 words” in order to frame your snark with sex-positivity. Also, after my time as a Gawker editor, I know there is a big difference between constructive and funny (effective) snark, and snark that cuts and alienates. However, that’s why the title of this post has the word “opinion” in it. Keep in mind, and read carefully, that I never accused you of malicious intent. I accused you of carelessness and irresponsible behavior in a mainstream media platform.

I’m not sure what assumptions you’re saying that I’ve made about you. Except that you are affiliated with Fox News, and despite your disclaimer in this comment, I need to explain to you that you are indeed affiliated with Fox News. You are a brand (writer) who has chosen through contractual means to publicly affiliate and align your brand with Fox News as an entity that is published by (whose message is endorsed by) Fox News. I have done the same with CNN, the SF Chon and others, and even if I never write for these conservative MSM outlets again, my work and name live on in legacy there. For better or for worse, and my Violet Blue brand is affiliated with those brands (just as they have made a formal public business agreement – publishing – to affiliate with mine). That’s business.

As for getting to know you, thank you for the invitation. But I’m just like everyone else who is “getting to know you” by way of your Fox News work. And now, though your commenting. Thanks again for making this into a conversation by taking the time out to leave a comment. It’s helpful.