Comments on: New OkTrends Post: The Biggest Lies In Dating and Sexual Presentation http://www.tinynibbles.com/blogarchives/2010/07/new-oktrends-post-the-biggest-lies-in-dating-and-sexual-presentation.html Sex educator Violet Blue's site for sex culture commentary, accurate sex information, erotica and more. Thu, 09 Feb 2012 20:57:53 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Dan Lyke http://www.tinynibbles.com/blogarchives/2010/07/new-oktrends-post-the-biggest-lies-in-dating-and-sexual-presentation.html/comment-page-1#comment-9117 Dan Lyke Tue, 20 Jul 2010 00:32:08 +0000 http://www.tinynibbles.com/?p=5354#comment-9117 I think Kit and PHB have it. Seems to me that there's a huge space on the Kinsey Scale that's not precisely 0, 3 or 6, and the flaw is that OkTrends is trying to use "bisexual" to mean something that their users probably aren't meaning. I think Kit and PHB have it. Seems to me that there’s a huge space on the Kinsey Scale that’s not precisely 0, 3 or 6, and the flaw is that OkTrends is trying to use “bisexual” to mean something that their users probably aren’t meaning.

]]> By: PHB http://www.tinynibbles.com/blogarchives/2010/07/new-oktrends-post-the-biggest-lies-in-dating-and-sexual-presentation.html/comment-page-1#comment-9095 PHB Sun, 18 Jul 2010 06:26:52 +0000 http://www.tinynibbles.com/?p=5354#comment-9095 I don't rate the OKCupid survey as being relevant. Most of the bi-people on OKC are in a mixed-sex relationship looking to get a little same-sex action. So it is not very surprising that they look for a particular sex 80% of the time. It is only sex folks, it does not necessarily have to be an identity-politics thing, or about sexual attraction for that matter. If someone calls themselves bi, they are saying they enjoy sex with both sexes, not that they consider them interchangeable. Judging people by their behavior on online dating sites is particularly silly as there are pretty good reasons for people to guard their behavior. I don’t rate the OKCupid survey as being relevant.

Most of the bi-people on OKC are in a mixed-sex relationship looking to get a little same-sex action. So it is not very surprising that they look for a particular sex 80% of the time.

It is only sex folks, it does not necessarily have to be an identity-politics thing, or about sexual attraction for that matter. If someone calls themselves bi, they are saying they enjoy sex with both sexes, not that they consider them interchangeable.

Judging people by their behavior on online dating sites is particularly silly as there are pretty good reasons for people to guard their behavior.

]]> By: Kit O'Connell http://www.tinynibbles.com/blogarchives/2010/07/new-oktrends-post-the-biggest-lies-in-dating-and-sexual-presentation.html/comment-page-1#comment-9094 Kit O'Connell Sat, 17 Jul 2010 20:36:59 +0000 http://www.tinynibbles.com/?p=5354#comment-9094 The problem with equating this with 'lying' is that it doesn't really look at why people are looking for a particular person. For example, there are a lot of people who are on OKCupid that define as 'bisexual' because that's what they are, but are only actively seeking one gender for any number of reasons, the most common being that they already have one or more lovers of the other gender in their lives and are looking for some genital variety. The hurry to say that bis are 'lying' as opposed to just fluidly sexual for any number of reasons is perplexing to me. The problem with equating this with ‘lying’ is that it doesn’t really look at why people are looking for a particular person. For example, there are a lot of people who are on OKCupid that define as ‘bisexual’ because that’s what they are, but are only actively seeking one gender for any number of reasons, the most common being that they already have one or more lovers of the other gender in their lives and are looking for some genital variety. The hurry to say that bis are ‘lying’ as opposed to just fluidly sexual for any number of reasons is perplexing to me.

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