From the monthly archives:

April 2010


Image of an astonished Frodo Baggins by Rebecca Tillett.

Kids are awesome. You tell them gender is binary and they ask for a cookie.

(…) Tinker Bell and her mischievous crew of fluttery scamps have been familiar to little girls – and their parents – ever since Disney rolled out the fairy franchise in the mid 2000s. They’re a clever way of keeping girls who’ve outgrown the whole princess thing locked in the Mouse’s clutches a little longer, and the closest thing Disney has to Bratz. And from the day the company launched its online community Pixiehollow.com in 2008, kids have been able to reinvent themselves as their own sparkly fairy avatars – as long as those avatars were girls.

But children are pretty resourceful little gender warriors. The open secret around the Hollow has long been that if you make your fairy tall, with short hair, and give her an ambiguous name like Jamie, she can pretty quickly establish a reputation as a he. Hey, Mom and Dad, we’ve got your rigid gender roles right here. (…read more, salon.com, thanks Ariel)

UPDATE: Weird. Salon’s link for this article is down. Well, the whole thing is still cached and it was fine when I posted it… Until they fix it, the excellent article “Tinker … bill? Disney fairies get a sex change” by Mary Elizabeth Williams is after the jump.

[SATISFY your CURIOSITY and CONTINUE READING…]

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This past week, Craigslist has been under fire once again for its Adult Services section, with people getting all kinds of stiffies reporting about the money they’ve been making since they implemented new policies, where that money goes, and generally listening to Connecticut’s attorney general Richard Blumenthal about how he thinks the company is immoral, irresponsible and possibly criminal. Not that anyone would play up sensationalism to sell online ink.

The news last Sunday of Craigslist’s financial success (estimates, anyway) brought the Connecticut attorney general out of the woodwork to stir up the sex trafficking hysteria and landed him in the NYT.

Funny story: “two years ago, based on no legal basis whatsoever, the same guy used his soapbox (along with some other attorneys general) to get Craigslist to changing its policies on “adult” advertisements.” He’s the reason they made money. Wouldn’t that fact have added just a *little* kick to the NYT article’s slant?

Now, a group is campaigning on Twitter to have Craigslist’s personal ads shut down, echoing Blumenthal’s hysteria from the same NYT Sunday piece.

Craigslist just posted a salvo on their own blog that packs a punch. Someone sane really needs to be reporting on this. Here’s a snip from Shutting down CL personals (note the original title in the URL:

There is a “campaign” on twitter currently demanding that all of craigslist personals be shut down.

If you follow links supplied by the twitterers echoing this demand, you’ll find a couple of themes:

1. They recognize that “declassifying” adult services ads would simply push them back into the personals categories, therefore you need to eliminate all personals.

2. They say casual sex, and sex outside of marriage, is happening in CL personals. Such sex is evil. Therefore CL personals are evil. Shut down CL personals.

This twitter campaign echos reasoning we have previously heard from Attorneys General, one of whom also essentially demanded that all of craigslist personals be shut down.

As reported in Wired, craigslist personals are the most used personals site in the US, dwarfing the total combined usage of match.com and eharmony.com and yahoo personals. CL personals are highly valued by craigslist users (and by the general public) who use them to find friendship, love, romance, companionship, entertainment, and yes, “casual encounters.”

The twitterers do have a point – declassifying “adult services” on a free classifieds board likely necessitates removing all personals categories (and probably services categories as well). Some of them point to eBay’s kijiji.com, kijiji.ca, and gumtree.com sites, which recently eliminated all personals categories, as a model to be followed in this regard.

Everyone is entitled to their opinion, and we embrace all criticism as useful in improving our approach. But cynical misuse of a cause as important as human trafficking as a pretense for imposing one’s own flavor of religious morality (”casual sex is evil”) strikes me as wrong on so many levels. (…more, blog.craigslist.org)

Image by Richard Kadrey.

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a porn refresher

by Violet Blue on April 29, 2010


Image from this *hot* Met Art gallery.

Hot fun! Take a break from everyone else’s porn problems and enjoy the good stuff here with me. This post is not galleries of women posing; this one is all action. These hardcore treats are handpicked, free, explicit, might have very light kink if any, and are lots of fun — I invite you to peruse them with a sexy friend if you can:

Ladies (only) first: Sapphic Erotica has a lot to offer, in simple stylings. If all you want to see is classically attractive girls playing together and lots of kissing, this site is a gold mine. I quite like this site, I can always find what I want with quality more reliable than when I visit my pals at YouPorn looking for the same sex acts. I don’t know who the models are, and we’ll start with still galleries: Sis boom ahhh: I think cheerleader lesbian stereotypes are still hot, no apologies. A blonde and brunette and lots of licking; three smiley girls look like they’re really having a good time; here’s another licky trio; two pretty brunettes; and last in galleries is a twosome featuring a really cute pairing. In Flash video, which is apparently made for porn as well… Three on a couch; two on the floor (plus dildo makes three); pale hottie vs. blonde in the kitchen; orgasm battle on the couch; and… are these the cheerleaders trying to spell “69″?

In Paris, Explicite Arte has two lovely shoots with pretty girls and their playmates. Here’s Jessie Volt in her first sex scene with a male partner in gallery 1 and gallery 2, plus this video; Faustine has two girls to play with in one gallery, plus this video.

In the UK, Cinema Erotique has three video samples from their films “What Men Think” and their spanking video “24 Minutes” plus a striptease. Three more are from “The Claw”, lesbian flick “Waiting for Gordon” and the extra “Models”. And wow, their model Kayla Louise dyed her… Well, she dyed it red.

Random paysites with lots of freebees I found rewarding also include Lestai (lesbian Japanese hentai, I’ve blogged them before), the hardcore handjob site TugJobs, size queen fellatio site Big Mouthfuls, and reader fave I Feel Myself.

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And to think that I haven’t had Bruno Bisang on these pages since 2006… Do take a minute to enjoy the online gallery from his show at the Young Gallery in Brussels (France Belgium) — sadly we missed the show, which opened in January and closed on April 3. He’s a true master of the erotic nude, and there are many celebs in his portfolio including Claudia Schiffer, Monica Belluci and Tyra Banks (above). I dream of someday owning prints like these to hang in my house. Bisang also has two tasty looking books, Bruno Bisang Photographs and the out of reach but drool-worthy Exposure Collector’s Edition ($3,327.83).

I’d faint if I found out I could see the Young Gallery’s current exhibition: Scottish photographer Albert Watson (sound alert, but don’t let that stop you from seeing his uber-sexy work). Just peep the Watson gallery for dirty, gorgeous, fetishy celebrity soaked erotic art that includes Kate Moss and David Bowie. Just wow.

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I know it’s been way too long since we’ve had a Hot Boy Thursday around here; hopefully this item about Alexander Skarsgard will bring Thursday back. On Wednesday. At the very least, it’s giving me the vapors.

Towleroad tells us that the True Blood star (and star of Generation Kill) is currently filming scenes for the new season, and just finished a scene Skarsgard describes as a “very graphic” nude sex scene — with another man. Hot. Hot. Hot.

‘I’m not a prude at all,’ he says. ‘I shot a very, very graphic scene two days ago with a man. I am from Sweden, and it’s different there. If it makes sense, I’ll just do it. And to me, so far, it’s made sense every single time I’ve got naked or made out on the show.’” (…more, towleroad.com)

Why is it so damn sexy when straight guys do this? Anyway, Skarsgard is also in this month’s issue of Details in The Men of True Blood. Super sexy when getting naked for a forbidden True Blood sex scene with our favorite bisexual Anna Paquin, he also got naked more than once for Generation Kill and a film called Om Sar. He’s an incredibly talented actor, yet many of us are glad he likes to be naked. Here’s a sexy teaser featuring Skarsgard from next season’s True Blood — it’s the just released minisode, first in a series leading up to the season premiere:

And this is not from True Blood, but that’s okay:

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Image from this set on Fashion Gone Rogue via Modfetish.

I was just catching up on the OkCupid blog (OkTrends) and found a surprise. Even though I missed the update (it’s from April 7), I was a bit shocked to see that the founder of OkCupid had basically punched eHarmony and Match.com right in the data equivalent of their faces in the post Why You Should Never Pay For Online Dating. Read it. It’s pretty intense, and very interesting to see how on those sites they basically bait and switch subscribers with numbers — chances are huge you’ll be messaging dead profiles. Christian does not hold back, and it’s kind of exciting in a very very nerdy way. If that wasn’t enough drama for online dating site politics, the Plenty of Fish Blog (like OkCupid, Plenty of Fish is a free dating site) just published a post stating that Match.com is now bullying them with lawyers, titled Match.com No longer top dating site, sends in the lawyers (via). It’s all about numbers — and in that post, Markus pulls the gloves off completely, even stating “This letter is beyond ironic considering match’s history of bogus claims, like this one from last week (…)” Ouch.

Update: This morning (after this post was published), GigaOm writes Match.com Picks Fight With Competitor Plenty of Fish.

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Tuesday Nibbles: Boobquake, Female Orgasm Brain Imaging, Chicago’s Sex IQ

27 April 2010
I've had my head down working on a big article; I'm also about to sail into one book deadline followed by another. And I'm loving losing myself in writing and researching sex (though in need of friends and affection, argh). Such as it is. The world of sex news keeps […]
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saturday sexiness: to do in San Francisco and Chicago

23 April 2010
Image of AP lingerie line by Rachel Roses (Countess of Beaumont). If you're in San Francisco tomorrow afternoon and feel like soaking up some of our local sexy, Agent Provocateur is having a live modeling show in their storefront window -- and the show will also be happening simultaneously in the […]
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well, they certainly weren’t regulating: the SEC porn scandal

23 April 2010
Warning: this image leads to an explicit gallery. About five hours ago, ABC News broke a story that an investigation by the Securities and Exchange Commission's inspector general has busted 31 of the agency's employees (including 17 senior officers) for surfing porn during work -- while the economy was in meltdown, […]
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new discovery: ophoria euphoria

22 April 2010
While out and about in SF a few days ago I paid a visit to local retailer Stormy Leather and discovered a new product line, Ophoria toys. I'd seen them on Babeland (and yes, Amazon) but hadn't had a chance to check them out in person. Once I saw the […]
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vote in the British general erection

22 April 2010
Image by Pete Woodhead. Yes, you read that correctly. It's voting time in the UK, and it looks like their electoral process needs a fluffer. My cheeky friends at LoveHoney UK are featuring their bestselling vibrating cockring (great for clitoral and electoral stimulation) as a super-special General Erection Love Ring for […]
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calling bullshit on FOX and ABC: the “inappropriate” plus-sized woman

21 April 2010
Above is a commercial made by Lane Bryant to air during the show "Dancing With the Stars" also known domestically as "Desperate Trainwrecks." FOX and ABC refused to show the commercial during “Dancing with the Stars” without restricting the commercial's airtime to the final moments of the show. FOX demanded […]
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the animated gif as erotic art: Three Frames

21 April 2010
The animated gif was a source of wonder for the collective internet for about five minutes, then became one of the most annoying things ever, along with nonconsensual popup window blizzards and automatic browser resize. They inspire ire like no other, perhaps due to the nagging effect they have on […]
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great review of Seal It With A Kiss — now in Russian!

21 April 2010
If I become too 'stuck on repeat' about my books here, please tell me; I think I'm extra bloggy about my new kissing book Seal It With A Kiss because a) I hadn't written a book in a long time, and b) this book's life after hitting print is kind […]
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mob rule babehunting: Met Art’s user generated galleries (redux)

20 April 2010
Model: Mariko. I like to revisit Met Art's top voted user generated gallery page to see what's new, what people think is currently hot, and because I love anything that crowdsources porn, arousal and desire. I love Met Art for doing this. I also had to post the link because it's […]
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who knew? porn looks GREAT on Apple products!

20 April 2010
Me perusing the fine work of PinkVisualPad. Don't try this at home, kids. Apple products are not made for this. Void where prohibited, which is everywhere. Unless you're like me and believe that if you can't put porn on it, then you don't own it.
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the sex club shooting [San Francisco]

19 April 2010
According to Terry Gould's fantastic book about swinging The Lifestyle, as of the book's debut (in 2000) there were approximately 4 million swingers in the United States. These millions he told us, evolved from the practice of swinging (or "wife swapping") whose roots were traced to US military bases in […]
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AlphaFemmes and Porn Distribution

19 April 2010
The above image for AlphaFemmes looks amazing, yes? I was surprised when I got an email from the Oakland-based director, Anna Devia, sharing it with me and finishing her very wonderful email about women and porn by saying that AlphaFemmes is looking for distribution. I would have thought that a […]
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Wii Fit accident and female persistent genital arousal syndrome

19 April 2010
Image by l'un des nombreux. Last Fall, Manchester (UK) resident Amanda Flowers claimed to have sustained a fall from her Wii Fit balance board, with unspecified injuries leading to her diagnoses of persistent arousal syndrome. Of course there's been much snickering and giggling in the press for a variety of reasons […]
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I just *knew* massage chairs were dirty

19 April 2010
In my own defense, I was looking at a friend's new client video Natsuki Kojima: Sundae Girl (Happy Chicken Pink) when I pecked over to their main video feed page. Which is where I found the above video, confirming my suspicions about massage chairs. As an aside, the Sundae Girl video […]
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