Comments on: seven real reasons to date a geek boy

By: Krystyn

Krystyn — Mon, 12 Apr 2010 04:54:46 +0000

Geeks, gadgets, gamers and gravy… #ftw.

Great read, love the comments. Tim, you freaking rock. :)

By: morg

morg — Sat, 27 Mar 2010 15:10:47 +0000

thanks so much for this article. i’m currently dating a self-professed geek who went to school for game design, loves manga and is possibly the hottest thing on earth. he’s ridiculously fit and makes me feel stereotypical in comparison. but all the reasons you said why geeks are hot? so freaking true. really really…

cosmo doesn’t know what the fuck it’s talking about.

By: Kosso

Kosso — Sat, 27 Mar 2010 11:52:22 +0000

Nicely put!

vb+db = <3 :)

By: Jen

Jen — Sat, 27 Mar 2010 10:08:05 +0000

It’s a titillating idea but wrong. It’s still stereotyping. Geeks, just like anyone else, are unique individuals. I’ve known geeks that generally fit society’s stereotypes and those that buck it completely. What it really comes down to is, is your lover passionate, respectful & self-respecting, thoughtful & thought-provoking, passionate, trustworthy, and do they turn you on & get you off? Geek, jock, musician, lawyer, politician — none of that matters. These articles that suggest anything about stereotypes are bunk. It’s a uniquely satisfying pairing that really rocks!

By: Liam

Liam — Sat, 27 Mar 2010 06:54:23 +0000

I second the other comments, women’s magazines are, in general, crap and crass, and this was a much better version.

But my actual comment is: the guy in the photo has manscaped in the WEIRDEST fashion. That is the most BIZARRE hair pattern I think I’ve ever seen… and I’ve been to just about every gay bar in Scotland and the north of England.

By: Ramon

Ramon — Sat, 27 Mar 2010 01:11:44 +0000

Gotta love #5. Preparedness is sexy too. :D I’ve got MY apocalypse plan ready!

By: Sam

Sam — Thu, 25 Mar 2010 15:29:51 +0000

This is absolutely amazing, especially the second response from “Tim;” I loved the personal response. First, to hell with all Cosmo magazine articles, they’re worthless. Every tidbit of information gained from those magazines perpetuates awful relationships with no individuality or meaningful bonding whatsoever. No wonder our divorce rates are over 50% in America.
Although these aren’t the only reasons to date a geek, they hit the nail on the head. I love my boyfriend and his interest in obscure movies, music and media. I love his confidence and his aura and the fact that he only wears plain, solid t-shirts from Target. I love that he appreciates my own confidence and strict independence, and I love that he’s planned EXPLICITLY for the Zombie Uprising. But most of all, I crave his passion about anything he loves. Such fervor is such a turn on, and it’s also severely contagious.
Thanks, Violet, for reminding me of those things :)

By: Adam

Adam — Thu, 25 Mar 2010 11:33:38 +0000

You also missed the fact that we nerds will turn our women on to awesomeness like xkcd. This one in particular is perfect for you VB:

http://www.xkcd.com/714/

By: sedge

sedge — Tue, 23 Mar 2010 07:20:50 +0000

Wow, an article written by someone who actually groks the geek mindset. I read this and was actually reminded of my own geeky boyfriend. This is a refreshing change from most articles on the subject, which tend to be as shallow and full of eye-rolling stereotypes as the Cosmo one. Thanks for posting this, Violet.

By: mistercritic

mistercritic — Tue, 23 Mar 2010 06:06:03 +0000

Violet, I love this article. Obviously, you spent more time on this idea rather than some hack who wrote as a thinly veiled attempt to promote a movie. Sadly, I also saw a similar (though not exact) list on a dating site Geek2Geek (www.gk2gk.com), in terms of exploiting the stereotype that a geek is a socially awkward and financially successful person. I hope that this stereotype eventually blows over (not that seeming financially dependable is a bad thing…).

By: nobody

nobody — Mon, 22 Mar 2010 10:48:07 +0000

Nice article, and an interesting set of comments to follow. I’ll resist my urge to support your examples point-by-point: they all stand up!

Sense of humour…? You may get a few “in” jokes, but geeks generally seem to have a great sense of humour. Maybe it is they observe people, or they use humour where a macho man uses other methods. They think freely enough to pull in metaphores or snippets from all over the place, and see the funny in things that are not merely slapstick. They’ll make you laugh :D

“Army of two”…. It’s you and me againts the world: when do we attack?

By: Jed Worthen

Jed Worthen — Mon, 22 Mar 2010 01:17:25 +0000

I LOVE THIS ARTICLE! I’m sort of geeky about the books i like to read. Miss your Podcasts though Violet. Please do more if you have the time. Long time listener. Need to catch up with backlog of your blog posts in archive as well as SF Gate articles. Sorry that they screwed you. Looking forward to reading your writing for another, future publication. Want to buy your kissing book soon. Glad your on Facebook as well.

By: Jimmy Rogers

Jimmy Rogers — Sun, 21 Mar 2010 23:37:06 +0000

Great article VB! Definitely some compelling reasons to date a geek. Though personally I’ll take ANY reasons :P

-From a microbiology geek

By: Eddy

Eddy — Sun, 21 Mar 2010 22:51:31 +0000

WOW…. simply, thank you!

By: jure

jure — Sun, 21 Mar 2010 22:22:54 +0000

A great read. I liked both your translations and the explanation at the end. I’m tired of having us geek-ish types mis-represented in … well, pretty much all media, be it Hollywood, TV, magazines, etc. I’m a geek who happens to like rock climbing, so what :) Sadly though, there are still too many people out there who hold on the these stereotypes (hmm, stereotypes in general, really).

By: little melinda

little melinda — Sun, 21 Mar 2010 21:57:20 +0000

Great post! You explain perfectly why every boy I’ve ever loved has been a complete nerd.

Thank you!

By: Cindy Gallop

Cindy Gallop — Sun, 21 Mar 2010 21:50:58 +0000

I adore geek boys, and so do all the right-minded women I know, both geek girls and non-geek girls. Especially my start-up team on IfWeRanTheWorld – hot geek boys, apply here – some of us are single ;) : http://ifwerantheworld.com/about

By: jess.

jess. — Sun, 21 Mar 2010 21:24:49 +0000

I started earnestly seeking out geeks a year ago after I read an article in The Sun that quoted a study saying geeks (ok IT workers to be exact) were the #1 lovers most likely to put their partner's satisfaction above their own. Also according to the study, they were the most likely to incorporate sex toys. It inspired me to do very selective searches on internet dating sites. Was great adventurous straight forward fun.

By: Todd

Todd — Sun, 21 Mar 2010 21:07:25 +0000

Great post! Thank you for pointing a (very sexy) sharp intellect at the argument for dating nerds (although I prefer “geek” myself). This is a good reminder why I have such a hard time finding good dates. While I enjoy the way many Cosmo readers look, I have an aversion to empty discussions. It has been said that nature abhors a vacuum; the same can be said for nerds/geeks.

@Tim does your wife have a sister? :-D

By: Evey Scarlett

Evey Scarlett — Sun, 21 Mar 2010 21:07:25 +0000

Thank you so much for sticking up for the best men out there. The Geeks shall inherit the Earth, you know. I can’t believe that some editor somewhere thought that was a good article to publish. Especially in today’s tech savvy world. Sometimes, I am so embarrassed to be included in the same genders as those Cosmo girls…Both of my committed partners are geeks and I wouldn’t have it any other way.

By: Allister

Allister — Sun, 21 Mar 2010 21:05:41 +0000

Hi VB,
I totally love your take on the Cosmo article. Yours is set in reality. They have their god complex switch on and they think of nerds as pieces of soft clay in their hands to fashion in any of their likeness.
Suggesting that nerds don’t come whole but are fractured and they are ready to do the Doctoring.
I don”t want a woman like that.
Bless.

By: violet

violet — Sun, 21 Mar 2010 20:53:53 +0000

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By: Matt

Matt — Sun, 21 Mar 2010 20:52:45 +0000

Another myth about geeks is that they’re all weedy & unfit – I know lots of geek guys who have extensive martial arts experience & who’re just as fanatical about working out as any “jock” – because they see the link between healthy mind & healthy body, & yeah, quite a lot of us were picked on in school. The difference between us & the jocks is, we can set you up an SOA application in a matter of days while they’re scratching their heads wondering “Service oriented whut?”

By: DrCastellanos

DrCastellanos — Sun, 21 Mar 2010 20:33:16 +0000

VB . . . Brava! Geeks are great and @Tim is so right. They are less afraid to be their true selves and are more apt to experiment.
ReclaimYourSexuality.blogspot.com

By: E. Foley

E. Foley — Sun, 21 Mar 2010 20:19:10 +0000

Great article! Cosmo is such trash. Your list has the real reason to date geek guys – and hey, that zombie uprising one is SO TRUE! You gotta have a man who is ready to save you from undeath. :-)