Comments on: Porn is Actually Good for You: A Happy, Gratuitous Post

By: criolle johnny

criolle johnny — Mon, 08 Mar 2010 00:36:50 +0000

My anti-virus software spit bright red lights at me when I hit this link. I’d appreciate a check on that.

By: Midwest

Midwest — Sun, 07 Mar 2010 22:50:15 +0000

I just wanted to say tank you for you for providing a sex positive voice, and your books are pretty hot too. :)

By: Iamcuriousblue

Iamcuriousblue — Sun, 07 Mar 2010 18:28:53 +0000

Switching gears, on the topic of girl-girl and European glamour porn, I *highly* recommend Viv Thomas videos, which are among the best being made in this area. In particular, “Unfaithful 2″, which features the above-mentioned Ariel A:

http://www.vivthomas.com/
http://www.unfaithful-movie.com/blog/unfaithful-ii/

By: Iamcuriousblue

Iamcuriousblue — Sun, 07 Mar 2010 18:10:20 +0000

I assume you’re talking about the anti-porn editorial by Pamela Paul. I don’t know exactly what her politics are, but based on what I’ve read of “Pornified” and interviews I’ve heard with her, she’s got a strong neo-conservative streak. That is, she’s not overtly part of the religious right or making religious arguments (though she does have good things to say about religious right anti-porn activism), but she does work from a lot of traditionalist assumptions about men and women. That women ultimately want to be in a faithful, emotionally supportive, monogamous relationship with a man, and that men basically need to be hammered into the role of faithful partner, something undermined by porn.

Not surprisingly, she’s very quick to trot out the research of Dolf Zillmann and Jennings Bryant, two much-cited anti-porn researchers with similar assumptions. Zillmann and Bryant claim that porn increases “sexual callousness” on the part of men. Their assumptions about what constitutes “sexual callousness” include: the belief that having multiple partners is more natural than life-long monogamy, placing a low value on the institution of marriage, seeing nothing wrong with non-marital sexuality, belief that repressing sexual desire is unhealthy, and having less desire to have children. In other words, being sex-positive makes you “sexually callous”!

Is porn part of a larger culture that is in some way undermining the dominance of traditional heterosexual monogamy? Sure, but is this a bad thing? So does gay culture, polyamory, and even feminism, after all.

By: ExWuschel

ExWuschel — Sun, 07 Mar 2010 09:10:54 +0000

The undisclosed european city in the public disgrace shoot is Berlin, Germany :)
btw, thanks for your great work – being a sex ed from germany myself, i am really grateful for all the information and interesting stories you provide!