http://www.tinynibbles.com/blogarchives/2009/11/belle-de-jour-human-real-female-and-now-out.html Journalist and author Violet Blue's site for sex and tech culture, accurate sex information, erotica and more. Tue, 26 May 2015 17:18:20 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 http://www.tinynibbles.com/blogarchives/2009/11/belle-de-jour-human-real-female-and-now-out.html/comment-page-1#comment-7209 Mandy Muse Tue, 17 Nov 2009 16:40:27 +0000 http://www.tinynibbles.com/?p=3701#comment-7209 What frightens me is the level of vitriol in the comments on most articles discussing Belle's outing - lots of variations on "how dare she sell her body", "how dare she do something illegal" (and that's a grey area in Britain, anyway), and a lot of comments about how they struggled with money as students but they didn't stoop to prostitution. They all boil down to, "how dare she do something I wouldn't do." Frankly, as an anonymous whoreblogger, it scares the crap out of me how nasty and vindictive many of the comments are - yes, I did know that most people at least publicly disapprove of prostitution, but there's a real sense of hatred and self-aggrieved injustice that is a bit shocking. I hope to God these are only the people who care enough to sit down and type, that most people are just not that interested. What frightens me is the level of vitriol in the comments on most articles discussing Belle’s outing – lots of variations on “how dare she sell her body”, “how dare she do something illegal” (and that’s a grey area in Britain, anyway), and a lot of comments about how they struggled with money as students but they didn’t stoop to prostitution. They all boil down to, “how dare she do something I wouldn’t do.” Frankly, as an anonymous whoreblogger, it scares the crap out of me how nasty and vindictive many of the comments are – yes, I did know that most people at least publicly disapprove of prostitution, but there’s a real sense of hatred and self-aggrieved injustice that is a bit shocking. I hope to God these are only the people who care enough to sit down and type, that most people are just not that interested.

]]> http://www.tinynibbles.com/blogarchives/2009/11/belle-de-jour-human-real-female-and-now-out.html/comment-page-1#comment-7195 Kayar Silkenvoice Sun, 15 Nov 2009 10:34:50 +0000 http://www.tinynibbles.com/?p=3701#comment-7195 I've struggled with anonymity myself, as a blogger and podcaster on topics sexual/sensual, and I know a few of the others out there, too, mostly women. As my podcast has grown in popularity, I've gotten some strange emails. There are a lot of obsessive people out there, and a lot of judgmental ones, too, and I'm pretty careful about who I reveal myself to as 'Silkenvoice'. We've come a long way, women have, but the fact they we're still targets who worry about our safety and our privacy in ways that men who do the exact same things do not -- well, it speaks volumes as to how far society must go in order to catch up with us. When it first occurred to me to wonder what I would do when a client or a colleague said "Hey, your voice sounds familiar, are you..." I chose to tackle it head-on. I outted myself to my colleagues, my closest friends and lovers, and my family years ago in order to head off the sort of headaches that Belle and Abby have experienced. The information was surprisingly well-received, even by the Born-Again Christian members of the family with minimal backlash. Go-Figure :) I’ve struggled with anonymity myself, as a blogger and podcaster on topics sexual/sensual, and I know a few of the others out there, too, mostly women. As my podcast has grown in popularity, I’ve gotten some strange emails. There are a lot of obsessive people out there, and a lot of judgmental ones, too, and I’m pretty careful about who I reveal myself to as ‘Silkenvoice’. We’ve come a long way, women have, but the fact they we’re still targets who worry about our safety and our privacy in ways that men who do the exact same things do not — well, it speaks volumes as to how far society must go in order to catch up with us. When it first occurred to me to wonder what I would do when a client or a colleague said “Hey, your voice sounds familiar, are you…” I chose to tackle it head-on. I outted myself to my colleagues, my closest friends and lovers, and my family years ago in order to head off the sort of headaches that Belle and Abby have experienced. The information was surprisingly well-received, even by the Born-Again Christian members of the family with minimal backlash. Go-Figure :)

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