From the monthly archives:

September 2009

hot boy thursday: CFNM edition

by Violet Blue on September 30, 2009


Image from this gallery.

CFNM is the acronym for the ‘clothed female, naked male’ porn genre. It’s long been relegated to the fetish ghetto, but it’s gotten more and more popular as the years have gone by. I think this is because CFNM has gone from a misunderstood sexual scenario in which women are in power and control over men they treat as sex objects — and of course, an old-fashioned stereotypical porn maker/distributor perspective isn’t likely to understand why this might be hot. But most importantly, who CFNM is a turn-on for.

CFNM is arousing for men who like to see women in charge in porn, but it’s gotten quite popular with women who enjoy seeing their counterparts calling the shots, and cute non-stereotypical porn guys having fun at the playful mercy of girls ordering them around (like a bachelorette party gone gleefully off the rails). Also, the women in CFNM are never penetrated; I think this is important when considering the growing appeal of the genre to female porn viewers. It’s all on female terms. For female enjoyment, amusement, and pleasure. These women are far from the mythological porn victims (a fable even this week being re-sold by Morality in Media to mainstream media outlets, with seriously trumped-up data.) Don’t believe the hype.

No wonder the old boys who think all porn consumers wear raincoats don’t understand. Why would a macho dude like this stuff? Well, actually… for all the same reasons women like it too.

I’ve combed through dozens of galleries: here are pages with stills and video of a variety of playful, silly, LOL-at-the-storyline, sexually explicit scenes (many are from the U.K.) And yes — of course I included the pizza boy. Additionally, many of these scenes have women penetrating men. Put *that* in your Morality in the Media crack pipe and smoke it.

* Girls changing their clothes catch a panty-sniffing male spy. Hilarity ensures.
* Men are terrible drivers. It’s because all they think about is shopping. Good thing for this himbo, female EMT’s are on the scene.
* It’s just awful that reality shows parade women like meat for superficial sexual judging. Tables, you are turned.
* Girl-on-girl action is purely for the torment, not pleasure, of the male viewer. Sorry to have to prove it to you, fellas.
* It’s all in the elbow. The technique, that is. Ladies teach ladies how to perfect that handjob swing on one lucky (and cute) gentleman, and hopefully everyone will score like never before in their tennis whites.
* Female wardens, uppity male prisoners. Yeah, *this* will end well…
* Never, ever, ever interrupt lesbians minding their own business in the bathtub. Because chances are high the girls are cocked and loaded and ready to retaliate. Case in point.
* You sleazy fitness trainers will get what’s coming to you. Drop and give twenty to your new silicone overlords.
* How on earth will this pizza boy ever pay for… the girls’ pizza? Heh. Let me consult my flowchart.
* He wants to be a stripper — but sorry pal, being a female exotic dancer ain’t as easy as it looks. The audition the women put him through is shall we say, unorthodox.
* Another hapless young man wants to be a stripper: but the two girls he’s been chatting up all night online have different plans for him. Of the strap-on variety… Work the pole, son.
* A male sex work client tries to get a half and half — from an undercover cop. Her and the female sting officers on the bust take him downtown… and take him down.
* This one’s got an element of humiliation: when a male hairdresser crosses the line with a busty female client, he gets taught a lesson about respect, and more. Here’s video and a gallery.
* If only all our friends put our potential dates to this kind of test. Talk about making all those ‘meet the parents’ rom-coms obsolete. Here’s video and a gallery.

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Above are two advertisements for Italian tile (and design) company Bisazza, photos of a Geisha in Shibari shot by world-famous Japanese avant-garde photographer Nobuyoshi Araki. The ads ran in magazines such as Elle Interiors, Wallpaper and World of Interiors — until six, yes six people complained to The Advertising Standards Authority, who reacted with a complete ban on the ads.

The ads are actually quite beautiful. You can see them here.

The ads are so tame as to be laughable, but I’m not really laughing when I consider the implications of what happens when an industry authority, in an industry known for strong influence on culture and art, caters to the sexual morality of the few — to the most negative ends. But considering what the ASA had to say about what they think might be going on in the ads’ images — revealing much about their own perverse imaginations… It’s obvious that this is not a balanced conversation, nor a mature organization deserving of its power or voice in what should be a diverse landscape. BBC tells us,

An advertisement showing a woman bound with rope and exposing her thighs has been banned by the industry watchdog.

The Advertising Standards Authority (ASA) said the image used by tile company Bisazza implied sexual violence “had taken place or was about to”.

(…) But the ASA said the geisha was “shown in a submissive pose, appeared visibly upset and was shown with her kimono pushed up to expose her thigh”.

“Notwithstanding the highly stylised nature of the ads, we considered the creative treatment could be seen to imply that sexual violence had taken place or was about to take place,” it said. (…read all, news.bbc.co.uk, thanks Jason!)

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call for strap-on models

by Violet Blue on September 29, 2009

My friend just started Cocksexual, and she’s looking for (paid) models. Her call sez,

Cocksexual.com is my newest project, slated for opening in February of 2010.

I’m looking for hot people of all genders and orientations who enjoy strapon sex and/or posing in their strapons. I’m not currently playing match-maker for partnered sets, so if you’d like me to shoot you having sex, you need to provide your own friend/lover. Make sure to have them apply as well, or apply as a couple.

Shooting

I’m going to be making a trip to DC and New York in early November, and San Francisco in early December. I live in Seattle, so if you’re local, we can find a date that works well for both of us.

I’d like to shoot a couple of photosets of you as long as we’re getting together. I’d also like to capture a bit of video, but if for any reason you prefer to just do stills, that’s fine. Plan for each set to take an hour or two.

Since I’m looking to do a strapon site that’s not focused on BDSM/domination, I’d prefer to shoot you in your own home or other non-dungeon sort of location. I should also have a shooting location available in each city if you’re not able to or comfortable shooting in your own home, but I’d like to emphasize the “real people, in their own bedrooms” sort of vibe of the site. (…more, cocksexual.com)

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just sayin’

by Violet Blue on September 26, 2009

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I know a lot of sexy performers read Tiny Nibbles — and I put out a Tweet about it earlier today — but, do you remember my coverage of The Joydick? It’s the Atari game hacked by SF Media Labs into a sex gaming interface. I saw it in operation and it was super-cool! Well, the guys at SF Media Labs emailed me this morning and it looks like they’ve got a surprise in store for the opening gala of Arse Elektronika (Thursday, October 1). Without giving too much away, it’s some sort of sex haptics gaming device for multiple users. And for the opening, they need a couple of sex and technology enthusiasts who want to do a bit of experimentation and live performance to demonstrate their newest invention. I don’t know exactly what all the details are, such as if it’s nudity included or not, but they need a few volunteers. And they asked me to ask you!

I think this year’s Arse might be the best one yet. It’s in selected venues this year so things can be *more* outrageous and adventurous than usual. (w00t!) So, do buy a ticket — and if you’re interested in being part of the exciting sex haptics demo for the opening gala, contact SF Media Labs. They are on Twitter, or you can email them at [email protected] and trust me, they are really cool, smart guys. read more about them in my SF Chronicle article Pervy Kinetic Art – Violet Blue: Joysticks just got a lot sexier.

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pretty girl friday

by Violet Blue on September 26, 2009


Pic of Anna AJ from this gallery.

Girls, girls, girls. They make me so happy with their soothing smoothness and curves. This is a blog about culture and sex. This is the sex part, though unlike perceptions of the uninitiated, it’s light and erudite, with a touch of female finesse. Those who can’t be bothered to understand can just suck it up. Or, they can live in the present with the rest of us and quite worrying what people think. This is the new school of life. If you’re too embarrassed to link here, but want me to promo your shit or cash in on my appearance, get over it and treat me, and the hundreds of thousands of people who visit here with maturity and respect. (Not to mention the 8 million+ downloads of my podcasts and gods know how many books I’ve sold.) The human condition: here’s a beautiful part of it, courtesy of a refined community of tasteful user-generated erotic galleries, distilled and selected by me:

* Roselyne A
* Nikky Case
* Cikita A
* One of my favorite models: Sofia A
* And Anna AJ is heartbreakingly gorgeous.
* Argentinian amateurs: a party, a twosome, and a twosome redux.

Yes, something’s bothering me. It’s something someone did online, and it would *definitely* piss you off, too. I’m working it out in my head so as to avoid an international incident.

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for the record

25 September 2009
This is not some obscure sex blog. Who has unashamedly, happily (even proudly) linked to Tiny Nibbles from a mainstream site? Sex sites aside, here is a list that reveals why anyone who says they must obfuscate linking to my website for whatever (read: moral) reasons are no longer part of […]
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of “Surrogates” and sci-fi sex workers

25 September 2009
Image by Modern Citizen. One of my favorite webzines, H+, has two fantastic articles surrounding the upcoming cheesy-looking (but still I'm going to see it) film "Surrogates" and dances with our ongoing fascinations with sci-fi sex workers. "Surrogates" (formerly a graphic novel by Robert Venditti) has been made into a Hollywood […]
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the cryptic (but cool) Google Sidewiki package

24 September 2009
I just got a FedEx delivered to my door from Google: it's a Google Sidewiki package! I'm excited to jump into the Sidewiki editorial and informational fray. It's a pretty brilliant idea. Anyone have any initial thoughts yet? More images after the jump, and you can click to enlarge and read […]
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half the world is, in fact, smoking crack

24 September 2009
You may have seen this already, but in case you haven't... I get the overwhelming sense that child porn hysteria has become a significantly harmful force, so as to likely now impede actual efforts to stop the terror and horror of actual child porn. Stop the madness. When can agencies […]
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This Week’s SF Chronicle Column: April Flores’ Fabulous Plastic Vagina

24 September 2009
This week, I'm excited to share with you my interview with April Flores about the entire process surrounding the making of the vagina/vulva sex toy Topco made modeled exactly on her own parts. I've always wanted to ask a porn star a million questions about what this is like and […]
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the thank you post!

24 September 2009
This gorgeous Kink.com submissive gave me three hours of her time for my birthday. I had an incredible birthday. I ignored everyone who wanted work from me in any capacity (it's been years since I've had time off or a vacation, so this is the closest I could get), and I […]
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les nibbles

22 September 2009
Image by Modern Citizen. Why do a news roundup on my birthday? Because it's what I love. And, there are enough sex news items every week to make not just a column but a show or even a daily post, as far as I can find. It's interesting stuff, and poeple […]
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from tonight: Thrillpeddlers “Pearls Over Shanghai”

20 September 2009
What an incredible show. It's a very adult theater experience that trumps any San Francisco tourist endeavor: it's the new neu alt BB Babylon. I loved it! And it's late, so you just get pics and video from the Thirllpeddlers' Pearls Over Shanghai, with the legendary Cockettes. Yay! And: the hothot […]
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nice hat

19 September 2009
I love the intersections of fetish and fashion. It's one of my regular lectures, in fact so clearly I'm not immune. Above is a "hat" from London's fashion week (gallery, guardian.co.uk). And from Fashion Time, Claudia Schiffer in Vogue Germany October 2009 is a shoot that has, of all things, […]
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flowchart to my heart (and other parts): OKCupid’s trend blog

18 September 2009
Question: Would you consider role-playing out a rape fantasy with partner who asked you to? 340,000 people responded. Green = YES, Red = NO. It's a very specialized kind of porn. It's my kind of porn. It's data mining porn! Recently (in June) and with little fanfare to the world outside, popular […]
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holy bratwurst: Rammstein’s “German Pussy” video

18 September 2009
Two people have sent me this -- and it's a combination of hilarious and hardcore -- Rammstein's German Pussy music video. Every German double entendre and cliche in the book is in it, and perhaps unintentionally making it all the more likable. For example, put on your best German accent […]
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packaging lessons learned from condoms

17 September 2009
Before I dive back in, it seems as though the RSS feed has gone back to normal. Has it? It's twitchy, and we're going to have to probably create a solution. In short summary, the age check page started freaking out about a week and a half ago; something changed […]
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sunday comics

13 September 2009
From Chester 5000. There's nothing like a lazy Sunday drinking coffee and reading the comics. Except for a lazy Sunday drinking coffee, reading comics and having sex. But I can at least provide the comics... The dirty ones. C.urvy.org -- Curvy -- is a sexy sci-fi lesbian webcomic via Zhaira. From […]
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a refresher: pretty girl friday

11 September 2009
Image of Daisy Marie from this gallery. I just can't look at the non-ironic flames at the top of my blog for a minute longer, so here are a few pretty girl galleries to soothe our lingerie-inflamed retinas. Looks like Sapphic Erotica now has Flash video, as seen in this hot […]
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