Comments on: first person behind closed doors: The Art of Restraint http://www.tinynibbles.com/blogarchives/2009/05/first-person-behind-closed-doors-the-art-of-restraint.html Journalist and author Violet Blue's site for sex and tech culture, accurate sex information, erotica and more. Tue, 26 May 2015 17:18:20 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Carlie http://www.tinynibbles.com/blogarchives/2009/05/first-person-behind-closed-doors-the-art-of-restraint.html/comment-page-1#comment-5913 Carlie Sat, 23 May 2009 10:38:50 +0000 http://www.tinynibbles.com/?p=2648#comment-5913 Sometimes self-deprecating doesn't even work... in an art review I once mentioned that I wasn't invited to the after-party for an exhibition in order to not seem like I was gloating at the privilege of having attended at all, and a commenter told me to "get over the invitation slights." Internauts can be so cruel! But my real reason for posting here is: the photos with Madison Young bound up in an intricate balance of big rocks is probably the most interesting and beautiful bondage I've ever seen. So it's a good thing you elite SF sex pro WAS invited, so we could see it ... Amazing! Sometimes self-deprecating doesn’t even work… in an art review I once mentioned that I wasn’t invited to the after-party for an exhibition in order to not seem like I was gloating at the privilege of having attended at all, and a commenter told me to “get over the invitation slights.” Internauts can be so cruel!

But my real reason for posting here is: the photos with Madison Young bound up in an intricate balance of big rocks is probably the most interesting and beautiful bondage I’ve ever seen. So it’s a good thing you elite SF sex pro WAS invited, so we could see it … Amazing!

]]> By: Dr. Curiosity http://www.tinynibbles.com/blogarchives/2009/05/first-person-behind-closed-doors-the-art-of-restraint.html/comment-page-1#comment-5910 Dr. Curiosity Fri, 22 May 2009 20:02:03 +0000 http://www.tinynibbles.com/?p=2648#comment-5910 Looks like everyone was having a fun, happy time there. Always a pleasure to see :-) Looks like everyone was having a fun, happy time there. Always a pleasure to see :-)

]]> By: Ken http://www.tinynibbles.com/blogarchives/2009/05/first-person-behind-closed-doors-the-art-of-restraint.html/comment-page-1#comment-5907 Ken Fri, 22 May 2009 18:41:19 +0000 http://www.tinynibbles.com/?p=2648#comment-5907 Eric's wrong. Period. I've gotten the same criticism for some of my writing, and so I understand what you've done here. Don't get me wrong - nobody is inviting me to sexy parties where beautiful people tie each other up, but I write about the things I do, and I enjoy the things I do, and when that joy comes across in my writing it can be construed as "Here's a cool thing I did that you didn't do. Hardy har." The best way for the writer to avoid that is a little self-deprecating humor; and talking about being nervous and shy, having the rules explained to you, and wanting to run back to your computer pulled that off perfectly. It humanized the author, put the reader in your shoes, and helped us see things from your perspective. From that angle alone, it's a very well done article. Oh, and just for the record? Elaborate bondage isn't my personal thing, but Image 127 in the Fokti gallery (the one where she has the scissors in her teeth) is fucking hot. Thanks. ;-) Eric’s wrong. Period. I’ve gotten the same criticism for some of my writing, and so I understand what you’ve done here. Don’t get me wrong – nobody is inviting me to sexy parties where beautiful people tie each other up, but I write about the things I do, and I enjoy the things I do, and when that joy comes across in my writing it can be construed as “Here’s a cool thing I did that you didn’t do. Hardy har.”

The best way for the writer to avoid that is a little self-deprecating humor; and talking about being nervous and shy, having the rules explained to you, and wanting to run back to your computer pulled that off perfectly. It humanized the author, put the reader in your shoes, and helped us see things from your perspective. From that angle alone, it’s a very well done article.

Oh, and just for the record? Elaborate bondage isn’t my personal thing, but Image 127 in the Fokti gallery (the one where she has the scissors in her teeth) is fucking hot. Thanks. ;-)

]]> By: Ray http://www.tinynibbles.com/blogarchives/2009/05/first-person-behind-closed-doors-the-art-of-restraint.html/comment-page-1#comment-5904 Ray Fri, 22 May 2009 15:27:31 +0000 http://www.tinynibbles.com/?p=2648#comment-5904 I think it was a great read. I think it was a great read.

]]> By: deborah http://www.tinynibbles.com/blogarchives/2009/05/first-person-behind-closed-doors-the-art-of-restraint.html/comment-page-1#comment-5903 deborah Fri, 22 May 2009 13:58:39 +0000 http://www.tinynibbles.com/?p=2648#comment-5903 I read the entire article on sfgate.com... What a thrilling experience! Lovely article. Thank you for transporting us to a time and place and happening most of us are not likely to participate in ourselves. Keep up the good work Violet! I read the entire article on sfgate.com… What a thrilling experience! Lovely article. Thank you for transporting us to a time and place and happening most of us are not likely to participate in ourselves. Keep up the good work Violet!

]]> By: violet http://www.tinynibbles.com/blogarchives/2009/05/first-person-behind-closed-doors-the-art-of-restraint.html/comment-page-1#comment-5901 violet Fri, 22 May 2009 09:32:29 +0000 http://www.tinynibbles.com/?p=2648#comment-5901 nah, not gloating but I appreciate the crit and observation. I just got a chance to go to something that I ordinarily couldn't afford and had a great time and unlike most private events they allowed me to take pictures and write about it. I just wanted to bring everyone along for the ride. nah, not gloating but I appreciate the crit and observation. I just got a chance to go to something that I ordinarily couldn’t afford and had a great time and unlike most private events they allowed me to take pictures and write about it. I just wanted to bring everyone along for the ride.

]]> By: Eric http://www.tinynibbles.com/blogarchives/2009/05/first-person-behind-closed-doors-the-art-of-restraint.html/comment-page-1#comment-5900 Eric Fri, 22 May 2009 05:46:52 +0000 http://www.tinynibbles.com/?p=2648#comment-5900 Violet, This article reeks of "I'm part of the pro-sex elite in SF. Here's what us fancy people do." I normally like your writing but this sounded more like gloating. Violet,

This article reeks of “I’m part of the pro-sex elite in SF. Here’s what us fancy people do.” I normally like your writing but this sounded more like gloating.

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