It’s still boring.

Tyra Banks is a tired old Oprah wannabe. No one takes her seriously.

Right now, though, I think Grey’s got a lot more “dominating” of the industry to do in terms of spreading her ideologies because most mainstream porn doesn’t show enough responsible sexual behavior (ie, negotiation before bdsm scenes, communication between partners, etc). No one wants boring, checklist-style dialogue while Grey negotiates a blowjob five times a movie, but I ultimately think we’ll all be a bit more sexually literate if Grey and her colleagues insist on putting more playful communication into the films that they star in. (Grey already does a good job of it in her gonzo work, but communication in her features, along with the work of most of her contemporaries, is somewhat lacking.) Not only that, but all that talkin’ will hopefully undercut the arguments of the anti-porners if they see that people are consenting to and enjoying such behavior.

To be concise: I enjoy Grey’s work a hell of a lot more when I see her talking dirty to her co-stars, asking to be slapped around, than when I don’t see it. And I know a lot of people who feel the same.

Not that any of this is Grey’s fault, nor the fault of any other performer. The industry is the way that it is and it’s hard to be helped. But if they start pushing and we all continue buying, maybe we can start weeding out all of that degrading porn that’s out there and make more room for friendlier porn.

That’s my capitalist fantasy, anyway.

In other news, I was actually just ranting the other day on my site about the awful crap that Tyra put both you and Grey through. In retrospect, I really wish I had titled my post, “You Can’t Spell ‘the Tyra Banks Show’ without BS.” ZING! (What a hypocrite she is!)

Reading about and watching clips from the Tyra Banks Show, one can see that Tyra’s soccer mommy audience can’t handle a woman doing porn for herself. They, instead, want to hear that the girl was abused and her only way out of poverty was through exposing herself on film; they want to hear how much she regrets it and how she’d advise young girls to go a different route… and they especially want to write her off as a product of Christendom’s nemesis, Babylon. I’d love to hear Tyra’s conception of the liberated woman.

I hope Sasha gets every bit of euphoric experience she desires; you only live once.

I agree totally with your sentiments about Sasha. She completely is devoid of bullshit. She knows what she wants out of the industry: to explore and develop herself as a sexual being, and along the way shatter the ignorant preconceptions of what women want and expect out of sex. Even though I am a guy, I admire her greatly. Her performances are always intense, full-on and truly capturing the essence of someone attempting to remove the cliched stereotypes of porn. OK, this sounds like hyperbole, but I think its true.

Secondly, and most importantly, one of the things she wanted to do was to rewrite the expectations of a porn performer: in her mind she is an artist. Therefore any work outside of “the business” is not forced, or an attempt to forge a career in “legitimate” movies and acting roles based on creating notoriety, but because Sasha is not just a sexual being but is just carrying out another way of articulating her creativity. If she does make it big mainstream, will she continue her porn performing and on the way totally rewriting and blurring the boundaries of mainstream and “non-mainstream” (i.e. porn)? That is the question.