Comments on: more hot porn for a really good cause http://www.tinynibbles.com/blogarchives/2008/10/more-hot-porn-for-a-really-good-cause-tonight.html Journalist and author Violet Blue's site for sex and tech culture, accurate sex information, erotica and more. Tue, 26 May 2015 17:18:20 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Susan http://www.tinynibbles.com/blogarchives/2008/10/more-hot-porn-for-a-really-good-cause-tonight.html/comment-page-1#comment-3354 Susan Thu, 30 Oct 2008 21:01:10 +0000 http://www.tinynibbles.com/?p=2214#comment-3354 Violet, thanks for letting us know about the Crash Pad donation. I have been lusting (heh) for that series ever since I first saw the trailer (I think also through your blog), but I've been trying not to spend too much money on myself lately...so today I subscribed to it with a happy conscience. :D Violet, thanks for letting us know about the Crash Pad donation. I have been lusting (heh) for that series ever since I first saw the trailer (I think also through your blog), but I’ve been trying not to spend too much money on myself lately…so today I subscribed to it with a happy conscience. :D

]]> By: Susan http://www.tinynibbles.com/blogarchives/2008/10/more-hot-porn-for-a-really-good-cause-tonight.html/comment-page-1#comment-3353 Susan Thu, 30 Oct 2008 20:58:48 +0000 http://www.tinynibbles.com/?p=2214#comment-3353 @Steve, maybe for the same reasons straight people get married, whether or not they want children. (Also, lots of gay couples have children without adopting! There are lots of ways this can happen, starting but definitely not with children conceived in former het relationships.) There are a lot of reasons besides child-related ones to want a legally-recognized marriage. Hospital visitation rights are often cited. In my state, the spouse of a married person who dies intestate (without a will) is the major heir by default. A spouse is also the only "near relative" who is not a blood relation who is allowed to order someone's absentee ballot, which is pretty important this year! These are just a few examples. Then there are social reasons. We are constantly being bombarded with ideas about romance that say a happy ending is one that includes a wedding, and ideas about life that say normal, healthy families are ones with two married spouses, whether or not they are parents. Whether or not these are ultimately good ideas for everyone, most people receive a lot of pressure to conform to these ideas, not just from conservative bigots but from loving friends and family members, all kinds of media, and sometimes our own happy memories. There are lots and lots of homosexual people who are proudly queer in their entire lifestyles and have no interest in assimilating to heterosexual-centered ways and beliefs. But there are also lots and lots of homosexual people who don't want to make waves in every single aspect of their life, who want to be accepted by society as it is without having to wait for radical change. Marriage is part of this. @Steve, maybe for the same reasons straight people get married, whether or not they want children. (Also, lots of gay couples have children without adopting! There are lots of ways this can happen, starting but definitely not with children conceived in former het relationships.) There are a lot of reasons besides child-related ones to want a legally-recognized marriage. Hospital visitation rights are often cited. In my state, the spouse of a married person who dies intestate (without a will) is the major heir by default. A spouse is also the only “near relative” who is not a blood relation who is allowed to order someone’s absentee ballot, which is pretty important this year! These are just a few examples.

Then there are social reasons. We are constantly being bombarded with ideas about romance that say a happy ending is one that includes a wedding, and ideas about life that say normal, healthy families are ones with two married spouses, whether or not they are parents. Whether or not these are ultimately good ideas for everyone, most people receive a lot of pressure to conform to these ideas, not just from conservative bigots but from loving friends and family members, all kinds of media, and sometimes our own happy memories.

There are lots and lots of homosexual people who are proudly queer in their entire lifestyles and have no interest in assimilating to heterosexual-centered ways and beliefs. But there are also lots and lots of homosexual people who don’t want to make waves in every single aspect of their life, who want to be accepted by society as it is without having to wait for radical change. Marriage is part of this.

]]> By: Steve http://www.tinynibbles.com/blogarchives/2008/10/more-hot-porn-for-a-really-good-cause-tonight.html/comment-page-1#comment-3352 Steve Thu, 30 Oct 2008 20:14:17 +0000 http://www.tinynibbles.com/?p=2214#comment-3352 I've already voted against 8 by mail, but I keep asking my wife why gay people want to get married. It's one of the few questions for which she has no good answer. Why must we have a license from the state to have a lover? Working married couples with roughly equal incomes pay higher income taxes than they would if they were single and filed separately. So it costs to be married. Marriage is a social contract designed primarily for the benefit of children. It requires dads to help pay for their children's support and gives the children rights to their father's estate. Unless they adopt, gay couples aren't going to have children, so again, why marry? Can Violet or somebody else explain this desire? I’ve already voted against 8 by mail, but I keep asking my wife why gay people want to get married. It’s one of the few questions for which she has no good answer.
Why must we have a license from the state to have a lover? Working married couples with roughly equal incomes pay higher income taxes than they would if they were single and filed separately. So it costs to be married.
Marriage is a social contract designed primarily for the benefit of children. It requires dads to help pay for their children’s support and gives the children rights to their father’s estate. Unless they adopt, gay couples aren’t going to have children, so again, why marry? Can Violet or somebody else explain this desire?

]]> By: Tony Comstock http://www.tinynibbles.com/blogarchives/2008/10/more-hot-porn-for-a-really-good-cause-tonight.html/comment-page-1#comment-3351 Tony Comstock Thu, 30 Oct 2008 18:25:01 +0000 http://www.tinynibbles.com/?p=2214#comment-3351 I knew Shine was a good egg from the day we met. No surprise she's gone on to make such outstanding contributions to the world of erotic cinema, and no surprise she's doing this either! I knew Shine was a good egg from the day we met. No surprise she’s gone on to make such outstanding contributions to the world of erotic cinema, and no surprise she’s doing this either!

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