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August 2008

go playa with yourself

by admin on August 28, 2008


Burning Man image by loupiote (Old Skool) from “the temple of forgiveness”. More of their photos are here and here.

This week’s SF Chron column is the sweetly cranky Go Playa With Yourself: Violet Blue explains why sex in the city is so much better during Burning Man — and yes, I’m already getting email telling me how closed-minded I am. It’s cranky and I had some fun, so? Anyway, hope you enjoy it with the appropriate amount of snark, humor, and of course, open-mindedness:

Last year I did my very best as a sex educator to make sure fewer people than usual would bring That Burning Sensation back home from that yearly rave destination in the Nevada desert, Burning Man. Sure, I also made fun of people who pay $300 to visit a festival where they can wear nothing but Crocs with socks while ogling body-painted sex clowns and really finally getting to be themselves, man.

Maybe that second part is why I didn’t get more feedback from attendees of the event. “You are the savior of my sunburned genitals,” no one said; “Baker Beach has a lot to learn about driving 16 hours to be nonconformist in the quest to find myself and get a sunburned peen.” I had imagined people telling me “I never imagined the delicious friction of sand and Astroglide; back home in San Francisco I always have to ride Critical Mass without underpants to get the same sensation. Nevermore!”

Instead, I was forced to seek solace in my own kind. I sat in my imaginary throne-booth at the totally empty uber-hip Mission District Ritual Roasters*, surrounded by a cadre of young, pale, easily sunburned Goth boys and girls complimenting me on my flawless complexion. (“Stay out of the desert, my dark darlings,” I’d answer with a lace-cuffed flourish of a cupcake-heavy hand.) My homo homeboys in the Castro admired my taste in gloriously Steampunk-free fashion, while we shared knowing winks about those who pay hundreds of dollars to get blown by alkali dust all weekend, as opposed to simply paying for drinks to get blown all weekend (though I have to travel to The Lex to receive service, but still).

Sex in San Francisco rocks during Burning Man weekend. Not because the hippies and steampunk hipsters are gone – OK, yes, that helps the atmosphere – but for at least five reasons:

One: Male, female or trans – if you live in The City, finding a parking spot in the Mission, SOMA, South Beach, NOPA, the Castro and yes, even the Marina is enough of a shocking turn-on that most of us will have at least 10 instant hard-ons a day regardless of what’s between our legs, not to mention making thighs quake city-wide with the ease of getting a taxi all weekend long. And just the thought of all those fixies being off the streets makes us motorcycle riders quiver with anticipation. Burners gone = clearer streets = hornier populace.

Two: It’s not just hippies and vaudeville hipster performers that are temporarily pulled from the dating and mating pool over the long weekend. Ravers and bubblicious Disneyland-of-BoingBoing-seeking wealthy tech industry wonks with pimped-out Air Streams also comprise the 50,000+ revelers who spend a s-ton of money to create the fourth largest city in Nevada for a week. And pollute it more than NASCAR, primarily to re-create Castro Halloween two months before we start boarding up our windows here. (…read more.)

* Yes, people are emailing me about SF Gate’s broken links in my piece — *all* links past Ritual Roasters the third paragraph are broken. I’ve notified the Gate, I hope they get fixed…

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safety gear: overrated?

by Violet Blue on August 27, 2008

Angel Down shot by my current photog obsession The Naked Photographer (see also plus more industrial yum):

Me (below), shot by my friend Joanne AKA PinkTool (our overdressed, but lathe size-queen lovin’ set begins here):

Hunter S. Thompson:

“I feel the same way about disco as I do about herpes.”

“There are times, however, and this is one of them, when even being right feels wrong. What do you say, for instance, about a generation that has been taught that rain is poison and sex is death? If making love might be fatal and if a cool spring breeze on any summer afternoon can turn a crystal blue lake into a puddle of black poison right in front of your eyes, there is not much left except TV and relentless masturbation. It’s a strange world. Some people get rich and others eat shit and die.”

“Good people drink good beer.”

“I wouldn’t recommend sex, drugs or insanity for everyone, but they’ve always worked for me.”

“There is nothing so unusual, they tell me, about coming back to your car and finding the radio aerial torn off, the windshield wipers bent up in the air like spaghetti, and all the windows smashed… for no particular reason except to make sure you know just exactly where it’s at these days. Where indeed?”

“Buy the ticket, take the ride.”

Moody night, you know?

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…and it’s by the fabulous Nikol Hasler from Midwest Teen Sex Show! Check it out:

The condom broke, came off, or in some other way malfunctioned. He was behind me and I couldn’t tell he wasn’t using one. We just got carried away and he didn’t pull out in time. I forgot to take my birth control. I had an appointment to get on the pill, but we didn’t wait.

There are a whole slew of reasons a woman might find herself in need of a morning after pill; emergency contraception; Plan B. But unless you have Plan B already waiting in your medicine cabinet, it is highly unlikely you’ll get your hands on a morning-after pill the morning after.

I am a middle class 29 year old mother of three, living in the Midwest, who sees a physician regularly. I have kept up on the news about Plan B’s availability over the counter at major drug stores. In my line of work, I regularly tell teens and young adults to always use protection, and tell girls of reproductive age who aren’t so into the whole reproduction thing that they should be on birth control.

I encouraged young women and men to seek Plan B if their contraceptive method failed or they forgot to use contraception, telling them it was easy to obtain. But was it?

On a Tuesday morning at 7 a.m., I set out to discover just how easy it would be for me to get my hands on some emergency contraception. It all started with a web search. (…read more, RH Reality Check, thanks PA!)

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“Angie in San Francisco, CA. Made by Frank Wallis in 1997. 35mm fim scan.” Via modele.citizen.

This is really not the sort of thing I’d ever expect to see on a local real estate blog — but then, I *do* know where I live. Snip:

WARNING: The content in this post may not be suitable for children or those that are sensitive to sexual content. Reader discretion is advised…

Real estate agents are made fun of on the daily (most deservedly). Agents are often compared to slimy used car salespeople, but there are a select few that can actually make fun of themselves and have a little fun with it. Unfortunately, there are also agents that take offense to everything and anything and we’re sure this post will not make those agents happy. Yes, we recognize that we’re just perpetuating the absolutely inappropriate conduct that took place, but frankly, we have no problem with it–share the info is our motto ;)

Back story:

Over the weekend, we got an email sent to us from an agent of a major SF real estate company. This email was sent to about 100 agents and managers within the company. What happened is that somebody took their S&M a little too far and it seems the DOM pissed off the SUB real good and the SUB wanted the world to know how dirty this agent is. In just about any “normal” office, such performance would be swiftly followed by an apology, a firing and a PR blitz, but in the world of real estate, people laugh, point fingers and share with each other. Real estate agents do not have much of a governing body to tell them what is right and wrong (think SEC for securities). Instead, agents promise to follow a code of ethics and each company tries to enforce such standards upon their agents, but when emotions rise, these independant [sic] contractors act out like children, email blast everybody and their mother and share very private stories about who’s screwing who, who’s in rehab and all the other bull sh*t that agents get caught up in.

In this case, a disgruntled SUB (non agent) decided to send an email chain and 3 extremely graphic pictures to the majority of the DOM’S (agent) company. Just imagine opening up a work email to find this sent to your entire company.

Emails:

from DOM (agent) to “puppy”:

[I] Would like to hear more from you as to what you see yourself doing and what you would like being done to you. Tell me how you would be of service. You were stellar at one time; can you be that supper bitch puppy again? I want to hear your thoughts in details.

from puppy to DOM (agent):

I am not happy where I am. I am bored. I am relegated to monotonous and menial work. And I miss California terribly! I miss you most of all, of course, and desperately need to be back in my kennel in a tighter collar. (…read more, including explicit image and update of virus claims, via)

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Ultra Records: Destination CalabriaMore bloopers are a click away

Many of you know I’m friend + family of SF’s Extra Action Marching Band and have been groupie #1 for over 5 yearsdocumenting and documenting and dancing my fangirl ass off as the gigs go by. So I have a bit of a fetish. I’m cool with that. So when baritoner-avec-boner Evil Signtist sent me the above video, I decided that there was a position open in *my* band. Watch and enjoy. Now THIS is porn.

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o hai sf weekly

by admin on August 25, 2008

A friend whom I share my hate mail with (she tells me it’s okay and soothingly pats me on the inbox and gives me soymilk and cookies) emailed me about this one saying, “I hope you’ll consider putting this email up on Tinynibbles — people need to understand the kind of harassment you get, because, clearly, idiots like the SF Weekly don’t get it.” I got this email in response to my recent pole dancing as a sport column:

—–Original Message—–
From: [email protected] [mailto:[email protected]]
Sent: Friday, August 22, 2008 9:30 PM
To: [email protected]
Subject: pole dancing

You know, I’ve seen your name and articles pop up on the Chronicle, it’s just pathetic, that a lowly scum of the earth, value-less, pig of a bitch such as yourself, is paid, and allowed to write the garbage you write.
When you have a society in turmoil, people in the Bay Area thirsting for truth, reality, and understanding, we have filthy pigs like yourself, who set back women’s rights 100 years.
Which amoral homo hired you to write this garbage???

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anatomists, professional and pornographic

23 August 2008
Image from last night at San Francisco's prized pearl, Teatro ZinZanni, which is fun and hot and sexy and incredible and inspired a lot of joyfully pornographic anatomical profesionalism after Hacker Boy and I got home. Also, the contortionists we saw were -- professional and insanely arousing. Praemedia writes me, "any […]
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datamapping desire

21 August 2008
Fleshmap is really, really cool. I could play with this site for hours, and also their odd nipple organizer; gotta love the Body Rebus! Fleshmap: Studies of Desire is a series of projects created by Fernanda Viégas and Martin Wattenberg. The two artists are known for their pioneering work in […]
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more luxury lust: romantic ceramic edition

21 August 2008
If we had more money than we needed I'd tell you to get these four luxury sex toy items I spotted at Coco de Mer today. I want, I want them all with a rob-a-bank to get off kind of lust. Don't look at the prices. Top left: Betony Vernon Seven […]
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12 second pr0n reviews

21 August 2008
Mobile/E-Mail Post on 12seconds.tv I get things in my actual mailbox. I don't always want them, but sometimes they're exciting and arousing. I decided to play around with my Nokia N95 (thanks Qik!) and my 12seconds.tv channel, and went through the items in my mailbox this week 12 seconds at a […]
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sex + tech terminology needed

21 August 2008
Image Transmission Control Protocol by dailyinvention. Someone just wrote me asking, "is there a term for this sexual occurrence -- what is it called when you lose yr network connection while surfing for teh porn?" Thoughts? Is this the dreaded ND, or Network Dysfunction?
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an instructable for everything — more sex, plzkthx!

21 August 2008
xkcd image via FotoBart, dedicated to Jonathan. Happy anniversary, my love. Here's an Instructable for How to Have Sex (yes, there's an xkcd comic in it, of course -- thanks, Evil Signtist!). Also, don't miss How to make out and How To Sleep With A Friend. Right now, their 'featured' is […]
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12 seconds tv

21 August 2008
Not a sex post, but a fun new tech thing I've been playing with (using different phone cameras): 12seconds.tv. Here's a little explanation.
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get on the pole already! this week’s Chron column

21 August 2008
Image by habkb. This week's SF Chronicle column is Pole Dancing Gets Serious: Violet Blue watches gymnasts take over the gentleman's club sport and turn it into an international competition. It was totally inspired by my visit last week to Sedusa Studios, the largest (and most welcoming) pole-dancing instruction place probably […]
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if you’re coming here from the sf weekly piece

21 August 2008
.... the piece that finds my privacy and harassment issues so hilarious as to write, "In a goodbye post on Wikipedia, Burch uploaded one of the police reports, which shows Blue's home address, cell phone digits, driver's license number, and — every woman's nightmare — her weight." Yes, the pithy vanity […]
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carol queen has always been my inspiration

21 August 2008
And Carol Queen is also my family -- I am a lucky girl. I'm also on the Board of Directors for The Center for Sex & Culture, YAY!!! Check out this fun piece on AfterEllen, Carol Queen Aims to Inspire: In the anthology Live Through This, a collection of stories about […]
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jamilla deville, aussie pole dominatrix

19 August 2008
Just a lovely video I found tonight. Jamilla Deville is the best-known Australian pole dance champion. I'm not a pole dance person (though I fell off one very sweetly and dorkily saturday in 6" heels at this extremely fun studio -- more on that in a bit). But this video […]
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distracted by hentai madness

18 August 2008
Mr. & Mrs. Smith. I blame this gallery of explicit Angelina Jolie comics found by way of paysite-front blog Tales of Hentai (they're all gateways to paysites, but the galleries are funny and free) for making me unproductive today. That, and Hentai Mania -- where it's just plain refreshing to see […]
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CHOmfg the Cho Show is gonna getcha

18 August 2008
I wish I had cable. Because The Cho Show looks like it's going to be incredible -- Margaret just emailed to show me that I've been in one of the promo clips running on VH1! Just a quick peep, but still. Watch this and tell me you don't want to […]
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just a quick word from the pile of shit on the floor

18 August 2008
Of course, in an era where links to people you love(d) secretly become piles of shit that require disappearing backed up by a Mr. Burns moment of "release the hounds", and any word I write about being unpublished deleted from Boing Boing is tantamount to typing text made entirely of […]
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