From the monthly archives:

February 2008

Becca

I want this man to have a book. I’m lobbying for it — no, really.

I recently discovered Demetrius González by way of Flickr; his photos are beautiful, yes, but also to me they’re often incredibly arousing — perhaps because the women he shoots are far from the typical gallery babes, and closer to girls I’d consider more real, and thus, more sexy. More desirable. I found him via a little trick I use to find hot erotic photostreams: I rifle through the “favorited” photos of friends I know are single. And other erotic photographers, of course, but I find that people on the lookout/hunt for sexy fun yield the best results…

Demetrius González self-published a lovely 2008 calendar, Beneath The Skin: Nude Portraits for the 21st Century — but I know him as tanguero on Flickr, which is where a weekend’s worth of pretty girls can be seen. You need to be signed in and have your safe search settings off to see his images — alas, he does not guest pass sets. But he did give me permission to post some of my favorites here (and after the jump). I had some nice fantasies as I combed his work. Yay friday!

erica

[SATISFY your CURIOSITY and CONTINUE READING…]

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It’s about time: finally, the realities of sexual predators online, children and teens and sexual abuse are all coming to light — and as I quoted t3knomanser above, the Internet’s role in making kids sexual victims is way overhyped and overblown. Now, there’s data to back it up: In an article titled “Online ‘Predators’ and Their Victims” in American Psychologist (.pdf — read it), the journal of the American Psychological Association, Janis Wolak and co-researchers examined several fears about child sexual predators online — and they concluded that many are myths. The first article about this was Fears of Internet predators unfounded, study finds, but Bruce Schneier’s post on his security and technology blog pulls out the salient bits, such as:

# Internet predators are driving up child sex crime rates.
Finding: Sex assaults on teens fell 52 percent from 1993 to 2005, according to the Justice Department’s National Crime Victimization Survey, the best measure of U.S. crime trends. “The Internet may not be as risky as a lot of other things that parents do without concern, such as driving kids to the mall and leaving them there for two hours,” Wolak said.

# Internet predators are pedophiles.
Finding: Internet predators don’t hit on the prepubescent children whom pedophiles target. They target adolescents, who have more access to computers, more privacy and more interest in sex and romance, Wolak’s team determined from interviews with investigators.

# Internet predators represent a new dimension of child sexual abuse.
Finding: The means of communication is new, according to Wolak, but most Internet-linked offenses are essentially statutory rape: nonforcible sex crimes against minors too young to consent to sexual relationships with adults.

Read his whole post with more of the myths and findings, and the comments are a long but worthwhile read. At the same time, David Pogue at the NYT asks, How Dangerous Is the Internet for Children? He doesn’t mention the study, but talks about his experience being asked to write about the dangers of the Internet for kids for a parenting magazine, and being rejected for not making it into a scare piece — because that’s not what he, as a journalist, was finding. Here’s a snip, with a link to the PBS Frontline documentary Growing Up Online on this very topic, with the same conclusions:

But if you live in terror of what the Internet will do to your children, I encourage you to watch this excellent hour long PBS “Frontline” documentary. (I learned about it in a recent column by Times media critic Virginia Heffernan). It’s free, and it’s online in its entirety. The show surveys the current kids-online situation—thoroughly, open-mindedly and frankly.

Turns out I had it relatively easy writing about the dangers to children under age 12; this documentary focuses on teenagers, 90 percent of whom are online every single day. They are absolutely immersed in chat, Facebook, MySpace and the rest of the Web; it’s part of their ordinary social fabric to an extent that previous generations can’t even imagine. The show carefully examines each danger of the Net. And as presented by the show, the sexual-predator thing is way, way overblown, just as I had suspected. Several interesting interview transcripts accompany the show online; the one with producer Rachel Dretzin goes like this:

“One of the biggest surprises in making this film was the discovery that the threat of online predators is misunderstood and overblown. The data shows that giving out personal information over the Internet makes absolutely no difference when it comes to a child’s vulnerability to predation.” (That one blew my mind, because every single Internet-safety Web site and pamphlet hammers repeatedly on this point: never, ever give out your personal information online.)

“Also, the vast majority of kids who do end up having contact with a stranger they meet over the Internet are seeking out that contact,” Ms. Dretzin goes on. “Most importantly, all the kids we met, without exception, told us the same thing: They would never dream of meeting someone in person they’d met online.” (… read more)

Include the real-life statistics and data on child sexual abuse and you get a fuller picture, which is why I wanted to put this post together. Millions of individuals — particularly children — 65% have been (or are) abused by family members or people they trust or know in real life (and that 30% are abused by their parents, not MySpace).

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more nerdc0re sexy geek media…

by admin on February 29, 2008

How sexy are geek/nerd girls? Hot enough to inspire a couple nerdc0re music videos. Thanks to Michelle for MC Chris‘ song Nrrrd Grrrl and post inspiration; I lucked out to find a live version of Schaffer the Darklord‘s Nerd Lussst (he’s my fave). Fun stuff:

MC Chris: Nrrrd Grrrl, shot here in SF:

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0nlaJ4zPbSI[/youtube]

Schaffer the Darklord live at the Knitting Factory in New York, shot by Nerdc0re Rising: The Movie:

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bxykh0cvJ8w[/youtube]

Don’t forget MC Frontalot’s love for Goth Girls (MP3). All completed with this link to MC Frontalot’s Pr0n Song lyrics, snip from the middle:

got a boatload of midgets and they’re in command
of a full-grown woman on her knees and hands
got a long hard donkey and a farmgirl too
and the braying’s so dismaying when he starts to spoo
gotta click close
put it away
’cause the internet is f-i-l-t-h-y

lurking in #pass chans on the irc
got dcc’d unexpectedly
with an 80-minute XviD: Nuns In Heat
Part Three, Bad Habits. I’m so l337
that I had that one already
skipped to the part with the fishnet teddy
whipped it out, but to my chagrin
one toss from a win and the boss walked in
said “nuh-uh Front, that terminal ain’t
for a latex crucifix spanking a taint
in big 32-bit color
while them rosary beads get yanked out the cruller”
I said “you can’t fire me; I quit!”
opened up the case, yanked out the hard disk
absconded, all with the data in hand:
31 years of Hustler scans
plans for how to construct a love-swing
alt.binaries.everything
archived since spring of ’92
receipt for my RealDoll’s stripper shoes

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madison young by dave naz

Photo by the superlative Dave Naz.

My erotic pain and bondage loving, feminist art gallery owning friend Madison Young has a new movie out, Tail of a Bondage Model — I haven’t seen the film so I can’t vouch for it yet, but Blowfish has a trailer up for it already here (.mov). Also, she added more freebees to her site here (autoplay warning on the video).

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awesome local prank

by admin on February 28, 2008

blf + att + nsa

Photo by Eddie, prank by BLF, seen last night @ 14th & Valencia in San Francisco.

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training of O
Image: Lorelei Lee seems to be helping with cleanup at the Armory. Link leads to gallery and videos of her sensory deprivation scene for The Training of O in the Armory’s old shooting range.

It’s pretty funny to wake up with a press release in my inbox, and be like, this is the first press release I’ve ever gotten… from my best friend! I’m not one to regurgitate press releases, but I’ll snip the salient bits from the announcement and ooze just a drop of jealousy that Thomas has Peter Acworth saying things about him like that (me = green eyes). Snips:

Kink.com Welcomes New Public Relations Manager: Taps 20 Year Veteran of Sex Writing, Marketing and Sex Education

SAN FRANCISCO (February 28, 2008)Kink.com announced the hire of veteran writer and sex educator Thomas Roche as Public Relations Manager, in a move founder and Kink.com owner Peter Acworth said would help the company continue its focus not only on sales, but also on community outreach and positive educational messages.

“Thomas doesn’t just bring along his marketing and advertising background,” said Acworth. “He’s been a community sex educator for fifteen years and a professional sexuality writer since the 1980s. He understands our mission, not only to provide fetish entertainment but to change the world’s thinking about alternative sexualities in general.”

Already a widely published author in the erotica world and a six-year veteran of the medical advertising industry, Roche served as Marketing Manager at San Francisco erotic retailer Good Vibrations (www.goodvibes.com) from 2001-2004. From 2005-2008, he was the Managing Editor at Eros Zine (www.eros-zine.com), the cutting-edge erotic arts and culture webzine founded by Eros Guide CEO Byron Mayo.

In 1993, Roche joined local educational group San Francisco Sex Information (www.sfsi.org) as a phone volunteer and since 1998 has served as a member of their all-volunteer training staff, which conducts a four-weekend, 60-hour course in sex education twice a year for healthcare workers, mental health professionals, writers, speakers, educators and the general public.

“I figure there are dream jobs, then there are dream jobs — then there’s Kink.com,” said Roche. “They understand the power of sexual fantasy to liberate, not just to make money. At the core of it is the belief that consensual sexual adventure is a healthy lifestyle choice.”

Continued Roche: “Having written about sex for more than two decades and taught sex ed as well, I believe Kink.com is one of the few porn companies where the dialog about sexuality is driven by the principles of the BDSM community. The work is edgy and taboo, but even more importantly it’s safe, sane and consensual.”

Then it goes on about press and PR blah, blah, affiliates, blah blah… but congrats, Thomas! And all this time, here I was hoping that your new job at Kink would be at Butt Machine Boys… Oooh, he’s going to smack me for that one at our Friday lunch tomorrow…

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don’t believe the new, new g-spot hype

28 February 2008
...which is apparently the new black, or pink, if you will. This week's SF Chronicle column is Dude, Where's My G-Spot? and I think you'll like this one... Snip: OK, so I was at NOPA last night drinking a delicious absinthe cocktail, and my male companion said something rude, so I […]
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canada’s obscenity ban includes an old standard, classic comic

27 February 2008
I caught this item at Slate, a little bit on how The Canada Border Services Agency prohibits the importation of any materials "deemed to be obscene", and that their new guide is a bit puzzling (and the irony is not lost on me that they published their new guidelines for […]
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born-again Lestat is FAIL

27 February 2008
Still from Vampyros Lesbos via Tmrrw Never Knows' great collection. There's a very obvious reason Anne Rice's Vampire Chronicles were so cult-like successful: they were erotic to the core, and Lestat was evil, an anti-hero rife with sexual tension and bloodlusty pathos. I just read that fallen atheist, born-again (after she […]
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so sleepy: links and videos for you

26 February 2008
Monika and Martina by Guido Argentini via Guy Hepner I've been up working since before 9am, and this is my good night kiss to myself -- and you, dear reader. I often say that reading my blog is a lot like dating me, and now moreso with comments! It's been […]
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shout out from Jon Carroll!

25 February 2008
Holy bejeezuz, I got a huge compliment in the form of a shout-out from celebrated SF Chronicle (fellow!) columnist Jon Carroll. Snip: I realized some time ago that, for a lot of my readers, I'm not on any page at all - I'm on their computer screen, which is located wherever […]
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my brain on spin cycle

25 February 2008
Staying warm in an Extra Action band jacket: more images. Which will soon become my *life* on spin cycle when March begins (with my upcoming ETech talk, and SXSW here and here speaking engagements)... It's been a quiet weekend on Tiny Nibbles but a combo of all-work plus some really […]
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it’s not a “problem” until you’re in denial…

21 February 2008
Image via h.andras_xms. The Geek Squad has been known for their file-rifling, porn-stealing issues for a while (thanks to Consumerist). But only when local blogger Ariel Waldman asked about their classic, "it's sex so who cares" issues at a San Francisco marketing and customer service summit conference, did Best Buy's Geek […]
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phone secks — and make no mistake: I know where my mf bff works now :D

20 February 2008
Dig Thomas Roche's awesome post OTAKU MAnKO: Unlimited Minutes: For the last few years I've had a day job where I write oodles and oodles of articles about porn, fetish and adults-only events. I almost never see the sun; I drink more coffee than the nation of Turkey and when I […]
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I just want to reiterate: the Eye-Fi card totally sucks and is FAIL

20 February 2008
Back when I had expendable cash, I purchased an Eye-Fi card, in hopes that I could liveblog parties and conventions/summits and events from my nice(er) camera than the phonecammy (but crazy reliable) Helio Ocean. I got it off Amazon, it worked once. In someone elses' house; I tried to reconfigure […]
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bits and bobs, of no small measure :)

19 February 2008
Today I'm on the front page of Melbourne's newspaper, The Age (story here): It's officially a meme -- the hilarious Steve Jobs Is Your New Bicycle generator comes up with this as a possible result (thanks C!): And it just wouldn't be a nice day without seeing something like this (Merkley??? does […]
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things you might have missed

18 February 2008
Photo via international crush object #1, Gala Darling. * It is now finally legal to sell vibrators and sex toys in Texas -- due to the legal machine of Phil Harvey at Adam and Eve. * Japanese Wii porn (hardcore video). *Now* I'll learn tennis. (thanks, well-known mystery vlogger!) * Dacia has this […]
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being in two places at once makes me invisible

18 February 2008
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happy afternoon

16 February 2008
A girl and her GB500. Need I say more? Pure unfiltered happy.
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abstinence at the g00g: my complete talk

16 February 2008
Here's the whole video -- it's long but I think it came out well. Here is the Google Doc link to the text I based my talk on (with linked citations throughout) and here is a link to the public Google Slideshow doc I used while I spoke. Enjoy! Oh oh […]
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