From the monthly archives:

June 2007

verybloodymarys.jpg* The Very Bloody Marys by M. Christian

This is M. Christian at his best — back cover: “A gang of Vespa-riding vampires are killing San Franciscans so indiscriminately they threaten to not only drain the city dry — but risk the discovery of vampires everywhere. Gay vampire cop Valentino is called upon to stop the group calling themselves The Very Bloody Marys before the situation gets worse. (…)”

* Naked on the Internet by Audacia Ray

I begged to blog about this book before it came out because it’s just so amazing, complete and a true total examination of women and sex on the Internet — this book will most certainly change the cultural conversation about women’s sexuality online. A must-read for everyone interested in blogging, sex blogs, female sexuality and what all those girls are thinking when they peel it off and post it online.

* Kink by Saskia Walker and Sasha White

If you love the erotica in my podcasts but want a longer, more delicious read, this is for you. Listen to me read a sample of Saskia’s *hot* work in Open Source Sex #34. I’m a big fan of Walker and have published her erotica more than once.

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Not sex related, but directly related to me and my communities: the Podtech photo misuse issue that’s emerging on blogs and the Yahoo videoblogger mailing list. A few weeks ago I caught this, thanks to Jason pointing it out on my photostream — but haven’t had time to follow up on it until now. The short version is this:

According to this post, Podtech snagged a Flickr photo for their Vloggies promo images and didn’t compensate the photographer, Lan Bui. He invoiced, but it seems he got the runaround; he posted after weeks (months?) of unsatisfactory response from Podtech.

Lots of people blogged about it, but what’s weird is that the three main faces of Podtech — Robert Scoble, John Furrier and Linda Furrier all partially responded to this issue — but only publicly in the comments on other blogs, namely here and here. John Furrier and Scoble responded about the issue on the Yahoo list, but disparagingly about the Vlog community and in one instance saying that they’re “paying tons of content providers all over the world and we lost a TON of money on Vloggies. We invested in the community and now are negotiating with you.” (Scoble). It’s been months and this still isn’t resolved. Is this any way to treat a community concerned about misappropriated content? Telling us our work is a waste of their time (despite the fact that Podtech put *zero* effort into promoting the Vloggies first time around, and IMHO, put Podtech on the map?)

It sucks that Lan Biu’s image got snagged by a big company and he was not immediately compensated — regardless of the “complexity” of the situation being referred to in comments by Podtech employees/owners on *other blogs*, the least they could do is comment on Lan’s blog, or — hello — make a public apology of some kind for a mixup, at the very least.

It’s especially painful to the vlogging and online indymedia communities when even a hint of content ownership violation happens. Even just the way Podtech has *non* responded shows that these big companies are fine to co-opt content-making communities (like vloggers and the Vloggies) but still behave badly (like corporations) when it comes to individuals within those communities, revealing that they still don’t “get it”, at all.

I hope there’s a positive update on all this, soon. That it even got this far is a huge disappointment.

Update: Valleywag picked this up (thank you!), and in the meantime I’ve received two more emails off the videoblogging list. One is from Robert Scoble and the other from Lan Bui. Here, Scoble tells the Yahoo! list that “an employee [at Podtech] made a mistake”. This is a great start. I’m not getting all the mail off this list but these two relate to the issue at hand directly, and contain small details I feel are very relevant. One, that Bui is outright calling Scoble a liar — holy crap. The other is Scoble’s statement saying that “(…) it’s easy to miss the copyright on Flickr”.

Is it, really?

Why do I care so much about this? This whole thing seems (to me) to be a huge, evolving object lesson in the way these big 2.0-ish companies behave toward the communities and individuals they serve. I’m starting to feel like we can rest assured that the people with money (and people who “make it”) will always treat us content creators disposably, and shift the blame when they fuck up — more correctly, when they are publicly called on their transgressions and the self-correction mechanism of 2.0 community scrutiny kicks in. What companies like Podtech say when b/vloggers call them on their accountability is very revealing: we get to see where their values lie. The emails are after the jump.

[SATISFY your CURIOSITY and CONTINUE READING…]

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In early June, the Chronicle/SF Gate devoted a few miles of HTML to an article about the “G-Shot”. This is a new procedure where women who feel (or are convinced they feel) G-Spot inadequacy, have a shot of collagen injected into their urethra. The idea behind the G-Shot is ostensibly to swell up the urethral opening and canal and heighten sensitivity. It was invented (and trademarked) in 2005 by Dr. David Matlock, a Los Angeles gynecologist and plastic surgeon (he now sells G-Shot kits to colleagues and recently opened the Laser Vaginal Rejuvenation Institute of America in Los Angeles).

Re-cross your legs, and chill with me for a minute. Now, historically, people have done, and still do, some seriously wacked things to their bits in order to have better, more intense, funner crazier sex. Guys shoot themselves with caverject to maintain erections on porn sets; they also get silicone injections to add size. Women get their pussies tightened by plastic surgery docs more and more, and less than a hundred years ago gals underwent bizarre mechanical medical procedures for “female hysteria”, not to mention the Spanish Inquisition-style devices doctors once recommended to prevent masturbation.

You really haven’t come a long way, baby. But have you come, lately? The real questions I have about the G-Shot, once I get past my visions of guys with questionable sexual pleasure knowledge hovering over vaginally insecure ladies with three-and-a-half-inch needles are simple. Does it work, or not? Is there any long term-damage to sexual function? Do the docs explain everything before they shoot?

(And now my embattled Chronicle editor moans.) Sadly, the SF Gate piece suffered from a certain typical sex journalism malaise; it was not sex-negative, for a change, but the author began the piece setting us all in doubt as to whether the G-Spot exists at all. The actual sex information about the topic (the G-Spot) was entirely missing from the piece — and later when the procedure is described, it’s totally, utterly confusing as to what’s even going on when the shot is administered. The writer totally danced around the G-Spot’s anatomy, which required an explanation. I mean, seriously — the vagina ceased to be a dark mystery cave like 40 years ago. Was it the writer’s distaste or ignorance? Or is it because the fundamentals of mainstream sex reporting rely on consumers (readers, customers) having the same level of sexual confusion as the women getting the shots, or the men administering them?

The women getting shots, and things like vaginal rejuvination (plastic surgery) are facing some serious issues, which I would love to see explored in any article about the G-Shot. Is anyone devoting time to finding out what these issues are, and what the docs think about them? I mean hey — even famous porn stars have vaginal plastic surgery disasters.

I’d love to see these things (like the G-Shot) reported on by someone with sexual knowledge. Also: even-handedness with pros and cons. The article asked the question “does it work?” but didn’t ask “how does it fail?” though this may be attributed to the writer’s sex knowledge limitations preventing them from knowing what questions to ask. (Keep in mind I’m not in judgment of women making their pussies into Franken-gasm machines if they so desire, as long as they’re informed.)

So, here’s a snip from Enhanced romance: The G-Shot — Is it the latest panacea to improve your love life?:

Karen Roberts scheduled an appointment with her plastic surgeon at the end of a long day. The 22-year-old student at Solano Community College attended morning classes, caught up with homework and took her 4-year-old daughter to a matinee.

By 4 p.m. she sat inside Dr. Justin Salerno’s office, readying to become the surgeon’s first patient to receive an injection called a G-Shot, also known as G-spot Amplification. With a 3 1/2-inch needle, Salerno would pump a small dose of collagen into his patient’s Grafenberg Spot and make it swell to the size of a quarter.

The G-spot has been the subject of lore and controversy since it was first identified in 1950 by the German gynecologist Ernst Gräfenberg. Some sexologists believe the small area behind the pubic bone and accessible through the anterior wall of the vagina is an erogenous zone that when stimulated leads to heightened sexual arousal and powerful orgasms. Others dispute the zone’s very existence, arguing that studies have turned up no scientific evidence of the G-spot’s location, or only highly questionable results.

In the case of Roberts (a pseudonym used at her request to protect her privacy), she was unsure whether the G-spot existed, and if it truly held the key to a vibrant sex life. But she was willing to find out.

“If I could come home like my husband, have sex and feel that release,” Roberts said before her appointment, “I’d be one happy woman. But instead I come home, I spend all this time concentrating, hoping something will happen and I just end up frustrated.”

The procedure, which has been performed on approximately 250 women nationally in the past two years at a cost of $1,850 each, appealed to Roberts because she felt life’s rigmarole had left her fatigued by the end of the day, hardly in an amorous mood. Even when she felt the surge of excitement, reaching an orgasm was a time-consuming endeavor that took more effort and energy than she and her husband had to offer.

Link.

Now, dig the response in Sound Off about the G-Shot from someone with practical sexual pleasure knowledge, Dr. Carol Queen:

To be sure, there are some women and men who suffer from true sexual dysfunction, who need and could really use pharmaceutical or other medical help.
But most people with sexual issues do not fall into this category. Most people who are unhappy with their sex lives have partners with whom they are incompatible in some way, or they (and their partners) suffer from insufficient or incorrect information about sexual arousal, pleasure and functioning.

Plus, Americans harbor the “Fix it, Doctor” belief that a visit to the physician can and will cure what ails them, even if “what ails ‘em” is not, in fact, an ailment at all.

The real problem with innovations like the “G-Shot” is not that they might not work, though news coverage like the San Francisco Chronicle’s recent article about the procedure devoted scant ink to that possibility.

The real problem is that these Next Big Sex Things obscure the role of good, old-fashioned sexual and anatomical knowledge and the ability of partners to communicate about what they like, what they want, and what works best to arouse and satisfy. They also obscure the fact that different people may best be pleased by different things. That’s because, simply, everyone is not alike.

But then, why would a plastic surgeon devote any time at all to explaining this? There’s no money in that for him, as there assuredly is for doing the “G-Shot” and the next procedure and the next.

Just as most MDs don’t take the time to look up from writing a prescription for Viagra to say “Oh, by the way, if you simply cut out fatty foods and nicotine, cut down on alcohol, and walk twenty minutes every day, you probably wouldn’t need this stuff.”

If most of the new breed of “G-Shot” docs won’t take the time to tell their female patients the basic information needed to succeed at sex, who will?

Link.

Now, I’ll do the thing no one else here has — explain G-Spot anatomy. Read it in an excerpt from The Smart Girl’s Guide to the G-Spot, after the jump.

[SATISFY your CURIOSITY and CONTINUE READING…]

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quote of the week

by violet blue on June 29, 2007

“I have to get back to watching more Vivid porn, mostly because I don’t have my revolver, which is lucky for everyone involved because I’d hate for the office manager to have to write BASURA across my dead body.”

–a fellow porn reviewer

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Just got this fabulous email, which has me bouncing off the ceiling:

I caught your article in O magazine which led me to your website which had
me standing on my chair clapping. Just wanted to let you know you rock,
your website links are fantastic and to please keep it UP!!! You reached a
whole new audience with that article.

XOXO,
[redacted]

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gspotcover.jpgI’ve got three new books out that I’m just now getting a chance to blog about. Part of the lag time has been because my publisher hasn’t gotten me copies of the books, which is unusual and more than a bit frustrating — especially when the way I discovered my new book Smart Girl’s Guide to the G-Spot was out was when I saw Gram’s review of it on Fleshbot. You know, the blog I write for. So weird.

I’m still waiting for my mine, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t get your own copy of what might be the fiercest book I’ve ever written about sex. As I grow in power as a sex writer (after the accident with the double doses of radiation, Liquid Silk, a Swarovski USB drive, a JimmyJane Little Chroma and a P2P copy of Kinsey) — I get to write about sex more and more however the fuck I want. So, in the Smart Girl’s Guide to the G-Spot I dish out the accurate sex info and take no prisoners when it comes to girls coming. Read the intro (after the jump) to see what I mean.

My favorite line: “We’re not searching for a mythical magic button buried somewhere in our pussies; we’re constructing a doomsday device in the basement.”

This book is my fatwa on hippie goddess books about women’s sexuality and guys who say (on their websites, ahem) that female ejaculation is pee. Your time is up.

[SATISFY your CURIOSITY and CONTINUE READING…]

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audacia ray invades san francisco

28 June 2007
I'm so excited about Waking Vixen bringing her book tour for her fabulous, history-making tome Naked on the Internet to San Francisco that I interviewed her about being an ultra-fabulous sex blogger in today's Chron/SF Gate column. It was either that or buy a dozen cupcakes and gleefully, hysterically roll […]
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of pride and porn

27 June 2007
Image: "Violet Blue at SF Pride" by Kevco. The video is edited and up, the photos are posted and tagged and trussed up like little snacklets of my experience all weekend. The thoughts in my head are about politics and equality and coming back to some very interesting porn (as I […]
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wikipedia traffic metrics: sex ed top in searches

27 June 2007
There's a wee post over on a traffic metrics blog showing that sex (sex ed, especially) is high in Wikipedia search rankings, beating music and movies, and tying with "pop culture". I wish the author would have included specifics on which sex ed topics are being searched for. But it […]
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meditations on metropolis

25 June 2007
Hey -- I'm still here. I have lots of photo and video to upload and a column to write; I had quite a weekend. Yes, to those of you who emailed -- that was me with those cute girls in that window on 16th Street, flashing our boobies to the […]
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it’s gay christmas!

22 June 2007
In San Francisco this weekend -- it's Pride, and I have a pretty heavy schedule. I don't mean to lazyweb my way through with lots of image and random video posts, but I might: check my Flickr page and my show page if I don't get to update here in […]
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christian spanking porn

22 June 2007
Sex writer Greta Christina is quite unnerved by the very real spanking practices in certain fundamentalist christian "biblical marriages" -- and she wrote an (ahem) heavy-handed post about it on the Blowfish blog. They even have their own "romantic spanking fiction" for "Christian Domestic Discipline marriage". Interesting, no?
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[video] sex toy gifts from good vibes

22 June 2007
Good Vibes (my former employer) asked me to their warehouse a week ago to give me some toys they thought I might enjoy reviewing. I got some very funny video out of it, both there and when I got home, including a cameo or two by my very wary cat, […]
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viva la revolucion: mah sexy sf pride guide

21 June 2007
This week's column on the SFGate/Chron is Ten Ways to Get Lubed in San Francisco, which is a very grownup Pride visitor's guide, but is also a handy resource for seeing the sexy sights whenever you visit. The Gate turned on comments for this column, and I just made the […]
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shadow and light excerpts

20 June 2007
Sweet reader, SVG emails me about the hot hardcore graphic novel series, Shadow and Light -- I reviewed a couple of these when I worked at Good Vibes and loved them, and the images in their (slightly censored, bah!) sample galleries are too hot not to share. Above image is […]
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quote of the week

20 June 2007
"Lord Christ Jesus, I would deep throat Bill Clinton until he came out my ass if only that man could be magically crammed back in the White House, and at the time he was there I didn't even like the son of a bitch that much." --via email, from a (straight […]
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john hodgman on ebay — damn, he’s not cheap

20 June 2007
Apparently right now on eBay you can bid on a personal pre-show tour of the Daily Show studios right now, led by John Hodgman. I really enjoyed seeing him read in SF last year. I would totally expect a lap dance at those prices, though. The kind where you get […]
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catching up on my media: the tommy chong video

20 June 2007
You prolly already saw thins but if you didn't... The segment on the Colbert Report, where Chong describes something so explicit Colbert actually blushes up to his ears (even in the Quicktime version you can see it!), but only after Colbert succinctly breaks down the news/comment/opinion reward cycle for useless […]
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aaawwww

20 June 2007
A moment of happy self-indulgent cuteness: Wired's Flickr party post, with a stellar shot by Lane Hartwell, captioned, "Robot hackers are sexy, too! Blogger Violet Blue proves the point (...)". Also pictured, two guys I adore and admire -- my pals Nate Pagel and Robert Boyle.
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my injured motorcycle friend

19 June 2007
Many of you have lit candles, said prayers of all kinds, and sent concerned emails about my friend Amacker who was in a very serious motorcycle accident about 2 weeks ago. She lost control of her motorcycle and suffered an internal decapitation. We can all keep up with her *incredible*, […]
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