From the monthly archives:

January 2006

new link madness

by violet blue on January 31, 2006


I was supposed to be working for like ten different people today and instead I added a very long list of (overdue) links to my site — they’re groupe-groped on my front page right now, and already folded into my links page. I’ve also made a new note on my link policies, making clear what I thought was obvious, which is *no reciprocal links* so hopefully I’ll stop getting those annoying and unethical “I’ve added you, now you add me” emails.

Cool find of the day: the sex furniture at Extreme Restraints. What’s a girl gotta do to get a review copy of an Adjustable Spanking Bench!? (Note: this site carries crappy and dangerous Anal Eze, desensitizing creams and “shrink cream”, all of which are really really bad to use on your genitals. I’m not saying to shop here, just marvel at and fantasize about the neato furniture, like The Anal Impaler, which is WAY safer than the Anal Eze.)

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For New York’s Gothamist the Lusty Lady herself, Rachel Kramer Bussel, interviews sex educator Ellen Friedrichs — who wrote the intense and uplifting essay “South Bronx Sex Ed” in my book Best Sex Writing 2005. And proving that she just can’t sit still, Rachel hovers for a minute to tell us how many pies she’s fingering in the very cool “What Are You Working On” series at Too Beautiful. Carol has edited a hot and dirty new anthology called Whipped: 20 Erotic Stories of Female Dominance and I have a really explicit short story in it about a girl-girl femme top forced sex encounter — and I rarely write erotica. If you missed Xeni on CNN, read the transcript and marvel at how she summed up the porn, COPA and privacy argument in the (practically) twenty seconds she got to speak.

I took Jackson to the SRL Chinatown LA afterparty and he posted excitedly about it for the Bay Area Blog Pulse on SFist (love that phonecam pic); Scott took fantastic photos of us going crazy with the huge bag of fireworks I brought — and incredible photos of the shop itself.

And no link, but just a thought that’s been nagging at me that I must vent in utter frustration: I do love the Daily Show ever so much, but goddammit it’s *such* a fucking sausage fest.

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Watch Xeni Tonight

by violet blue on January 30, 2006

Get your copy of Harmful to Minors: The Perils of Protecting Children From Sex ready and watch Xeni debate porn, the “Child Online Protection Act” and your privacy rights on CNN tonight. Feel free to thump Judith Levine’s excellent book every time someone says something stupid about porn creating child molesters and Xeni reminds them that porn is made for, made by, performed by and enjoyed by *adults*…

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naughty mechanic and nurse

by violet blue on January 29, 2006

The set begins here.

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* San Francisco sex luminaries lose favorite San Francisco eatery: yesterday at 8:30pm a Buick plowed into Carol and Robert’s favorite restaurant, Cafe delle Stelle. Fortunately they were not in their customary window seat; all injured are in stable condition.

* Blame it on the valet: a lesson in choosing your valet wisely, a la Craigslist — because only car owners should get laid by stinky hos in their own ride.

* Porn star Anna Malle died in a car crash on wednesday; she wasn’t wearing a seat belt on a Nevada road that has seen over 11 accident related deaths in the past six months.

* My hero of the moment: 17-year-old Marina Gatto, Bay Area high school gay marriage activist who routinely gets her pride flag burned and her car keyed by hostile fellow students.

* Actual car sex positions. (Hideous illustrations, but it’s cute they used a VW Beetle. What are they saying about VW owners?)

* For the solo driver there’s the Deluxe Auto Vibe, powered via cigarette lighter — though purists should note it *will* compete with your automotive iPod power source.

* Another one for the fetish files: how to have sex with a car. Yes, *with*. The hot tailpipe should be obvious, but I guess it never hurts to spell it out.

* And there’s always Car Stuck Girls (photo via carstuckgirls.com); or Maxx Manboeuf’s utter dedication to the Japanese “Race Queen” (as in, race cars).

Update: irony of ironies — the night of this post (last night) I got a flat and had to change a tire in Chinatown in the pouring rain. At least I had the sound of Chinese New Year fireworks to keep me going… So when I got home I ordered Chinese delivery :)

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fantastico!

by violet blue on January 27, 2006


The pope (Joey Ratz!) is totally going to put a fatwa on my head: the Spanish translations of my fellatio and cunnilingus books are out in print! Yay and hooray for El Arte del Sexo Oral: Felacion and El Arte del Sexo Oral 2: Cunnilingus la Guia Definitiva. The publisher is in Spain, so the resources are filled with all kinds of great Spanish sex resources; what’s most exciting to me is seeing these books on their merry way into the hands of Catholic citizenry in all Spanish-speaking countries. Especially including my own state of California, where 1 in 4 speak Spanish. But considering how pissed off Focus on the Family (and the Pro-Life Coalition!) was about the fellatio book, I can only imagine that my popular brand of all-orienations, nonjudgmental sex ed will cause some sort of (admittedly cool) ruckus. But I found out from my publisher that this is only a sample of the subverison to come: I’m celebrating tonight the news that my oral sex books, with all their lip-licking revelations and enthusiatic blowjobs — are about to be translated into Turkish. In Turkey. Wow. Cause they *love* the head there. Though for sure I’ll probably never be able to travel in that country.


Also, today I took a swipe at the SF Chronicle on SFist for the fact that their journalists can’t even be bothered to click a link — or learn the (huge) difference between a podcast and a pay for play radio show.

Read: SFisting: Our Famous Local Sex Podcasters, For Reals

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welcome to Chinatown, Jake

26 January 2006
Xeni was here last night; Scott got this great pic of us together; Eddie got this one, too. I finally got all the SRL Chinatown show pics together and posted; half are mine, half are pulled from other (credited) sources. If you click the photos from start to finish you'll get […]
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ultimate guide to my boobies

24 January 2006
I'm still recovering from the show and putting tools away: but Thomas just posted a feature on me at his day job, Eros Zine. Warning: Violet boobie alert. Link: Violet Blue Interview by Thomas Roche
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sore, bruised, happy

23 January 2006
Got in last night from Los Angeles and just woke from my first full night of sleep in several days. I'll do a full show post in a day or two; right now a few notes as I wake up: * SRL Chinatown BoingBoing post from the ever-gorgeous Xeni, here. * The […]
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read, ogle, repeat

19 January 2006
A quick post before I run out the door: I'm on FlickrBooty -- woo hoo! Yesterday the SF Weekly quietly fired columnist Harmon Leon, who wrote the AVN piece that was full of inaccuracies -- but the whole thing really stinks. If this is what happens under New Times management and editorship, […]
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It’s SRL, Not SLA

16 January 2006
Today Jonno made me into his dream woman (see photo). Today I have a horrible headcold, but still had a lovely lunch with Alison Tyler, even after almost getting creamed across three freeway lanes at 60mph by a big old Chevy truck. That cleared my sinuses for a few minutes. Today the […]
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friday the 13th

14 January 2006
My photos with Thomas from Friday the 13th are up; you can tell we were just having fun in and around my house, so Thomas could play with his new camera (hence all the different light values). Sorry, no boobies this time... And we talked muchly about the writer scandals, like […]
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Too Beautiful: The Interview

13 January 2006
I'm extremely excited to be included in the first set of "What are you working on?" interviews on Mark Pritchard's Too Beautiful blog. Now I have to go get ready: my friend Thomas is coming over with his camera. (I'll post the results later.) I can't wait to talk with […]
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Hell, Hell Is For Fleshbots

13 January 2006
An actual Fleshbot all-staff email received today: Subject: press release from fleshbot central * * * FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE * * * Fleshbot Central, January 12: Fleshbot.com editor John d'Addario today decreed a moratorium on any further posts involving latex, corsets, rubber, bondage, piercings, or any others that could reasonably be described with […]
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bondage for the rest of us

13 January 2006
New podcast -- but only you can decide if energy drinks and podcasting and super-hot talk about getitng tied up and fucked are a lethal combination... or not. Text: Tie me up? How about bondage and kink for the rest of us...! You don't need to know complicated knots or BDSM […]
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my friends are the only family I need

10 January 2006
Thomas wrote about me, and I didn't even know. I found some healing to have my deceitful post read and understood. If you care to, read: I am a very bad man.
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macgasm

10 January 2006
If I was a smoker, I'd have a cigarette right now. Macworld was exciting: I saw the new 1" PowerMacPro laptops, the uber-fast iMacs (both with built-in iSight). But aside from all the glitz, bling, booths that wouldn't let me take photos, pseudo-booth-babes, cars that let you watch your iPod […]
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going to my happy place

10 January 2006
...Macworld! Besides the frustrations of iTunes' automations, my friends at Apple sent me an exhibit hall pass. (And I see I'm now listed as an "auhtor" in iTunes, yay!) So I'm off to see what's new, say hi, and take photos -- and get a bag full of free […]
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just in: heart still most deceitful thing

9 January 2006
At SFist today, where I'm a columnist, there has been a lot of activity about the whole JT LeRoy unmasking thing. (Read all the comments.) I found out today when I read the Gawker post over my morning coffee, but then several people forwarded me Susie Bright's extremely revealing post […]
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new erotica by N.T. Morley

8 January 2006
I've been working with widely published dominance and submission author N.T. Morley for many years now, notably publishing his work in my Sweet Life: Erotic for Couples series and reading a few stories on Open Source Sex. We're good friends (he gave me a DVD of Secretary of my birthday […]
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